Kunezizathu ezimbalwa zokuthi kungani leli cala lwenzeka. Abantu banamuhla bakholelwa ukuthi umshado "ibhizinisi elilandelayo" futhi asikho isidingo sokusheshisa ngale ndaba. Abantu abasha bakhetha ukuhlala ndawonye ngaphandle komshado ukuze baqiniseke ngokufanele kwesinqumo sabo nokuzikhethela. Futhi emva kokubeletha kwengane, isikhathi esibucayi siza lapho abantu ababili beqala ukubona zonke izibopho ezibalele ngokubonakala komuntu omncane. Yilokho nje kulo mzuzu futhi kukhona ukuhlolwa kwangempela kwemizwa. Futhi, njengomthetho, uthando phakathi kwabazali abasha luhamba phambili ngemuva kokudabuka okukhulu kwesifiso. Lapho kufika ilungu elisha leli cell emphakathini, kuvela izinkathazo ezithile nezinkinga, okuthinta ubuhlobo phakathi kwabathandi.
Uthando nokuzalwa komntwana okungakazalwa kungekho emthethweni. Umbuso awufuni abantu abasha ukuba bashade ukuze bakhe umndeni. Umuntu osanda kuzalwa akakhathaleli ukuthi ngabe kukhona ukubhaliswa epasipoti evela kubazali bakhe. Kubalulekile ukuthi le ndoda encane izungezwe ngabantu abanothando, inqatshelwe futhi iyathandwa, ayidingi lutho. Ngokuvumelanisa ngokuvumelana nabazali abasanda kubenza baqoqa amaphepha okuqala wengane. Futhi izikhathi ezinjengezibongo kanye ne-patronymic ziphinde zanqunywa ngokuvumelana phakathi kwabazali.
Kwamanye amazwe, abantu bakhetha ubudlelwane obuvulekile, futhi abamukeli isibongo esivamile nhlobo. Noma banamagama amaningana, ngokuvamile, isikhathi nemfashini babeka impendulo yabo emibonweni nasekuphileni komndeni. Ngombono wami, into esemqoka ukuthi amalungelo omntwana akufanele aphulwe. Noma ngabe yisiphi isinqumo abazali abazange basithatha, kufanele kubhekwe futhi sibe nesimo esihle kumntwana.
Sinesibopho sabantwana bethu kanye nekusasa labo, ngakho-ke, ukukhathazeka okuphezulu kokukhulisana nokuziphatha ngokomoya kusinika ithuba lokukhulisa isizukulwane esihle. Futhi uthando lwabazali nobuhlobo obuhle emndenini lunikeze "imiphumela emihle." Phela, izingane zifana nesiponji, zibona isimo esizungezile, sithatha konke okwenzekayo, futhi sinikeze kalula. Ngenxa yalokho, ingane kufanele ithole inkokhelo enhle ekukhulumisaneni kwabazali bayo futhi izwe ubuhlobo obuhle futhi obufudumele phakathi kwabazali.
Emva kokuzalwa komntwana ngaphandle komshado, "ukuzalwa" kothando olusha - uthando lomntwana. Futhi, ngenxa yalokho, ukucubungula kabusha impilo kanye nobuhlobo phakathi kwabazali abasha kufanele kwenzeke.
Njengomthetho, ukuzalwa kwengane kuyisenzo sokuzibophezela nokuzibophezela. Umphumela walokho, ngokuvamile, yisiphetho somshado. Noma, ukuthola isihloko esithi "umama" no "baba" akudingeki neze. Ukubopha ubudlelwano nehhovisi lehhovisi lokubhalisa, abasha bathola isimo esisemthethweni somndeni. Kodwa ukuzalwa kwengane ehlangene yiyona "uphawu" oluqine kakhulu emhlabeni. Futhi, njengokungathi, akazange asebenze, ubuhlobo phakathi kwabazali bakhe, isimo sabo so "umzali" ngeke balahlekelwe. Yiqiniso, ngingathanda ukufisa yonke imibhangqwana esemisha eshadile noma ehlala ndawonye ngaphambi kokucabanga ngokuzalwa kwengane ukuba icabange ngokujulile futhi ihlole ukulungela kwabo isinyathelo esinzima kangaka. Futhi ungakhohlwa ukuthi lapho sikhiqiza inzalo, sithwale umthwalo ogcwele kuwo.