Isithombe siqala ngokuthi ijaji lisho isahlukaniso, khona-ke lo wesilisa nowesifazane bashiya inkantolo bese behamba ndawonye ehhotela - okokugcina ukuya ocansini. Mhlawumbe bangama-masochist? Okungenani oyedwa wabo? Kungani usho ukuthi uhleleke ngendlela enjalo, uma wonke amazwi eshiwo futhi aqhubeke nokubili?
Ngenduduzo
Njengoba abanye abantu bethi, ukulala ngokobulili noma ukuxoxisana ngokobulili kwenziwa ukuze kududuze owesifazane. Kusobala ukuthi kumuntu oqhubeka ezwa okuthile kumlingani ohamba naye, ukuhlukana kuyabuhlungu kakhulu. Futhi lobulili bokuhlukanisa - uhlobo lwendlela 'yokuzola' othandekayo. Okungenani isikhashana. Yiqiniso, ngezinye izikhathi kukhona ukudabuka okuningi lapha kunokududuza. Futhi ngaphandle kokuba khona kwesizinda esingokomoya (wayeka ukumthanda, noma ngokuphambene nalokho), le ndlela "yokududuza" ayisebenzi ngaso sonke isikhathi. Lapha kunenye ye-nuance ebaluleke kakhulu: ngokuvamile abesifazane besimweni esifanayo ("Ngihawukele, ngiyabuhlungu, ngiyaxolisa!") Ingabe ukuphishekela imigomo ethile. Isibonelo, abesifazane abasha abathandanayo baphupha ukuthola "ucezu" lomuntu othandekayo ngendlela yobantwana abavela kuye. Bangakwazi ukwehlukanisa ubulili ukuze bahle, basebenzise inzuzo yabo yezocansi. Yilokho nje lona wesifazane osemusha ofunda amanoveli omamazana azokwenza ngane, akekho owaziyo-ngisho naye ngokwakhe. Kuphela nje "umlandu" wokuphila kwakhe okuhlulekile kuzovela - futhi kuphela.
Isihawu Nempindiselo
Okumangalisa ukuthi, kodwa ukuhlukunyezwa ngokobulili noma ubulili ekuhlukaneni kungaphumelela kokubili ukubonga nokwenqaba ukuqhubeka nobuhlobo. Lapho imizwa yayingakolunye uhlangothi, ekubongeni ngokuzinikela (noma, ngokwesaba ukwenqaba okukhulu ukucasula ummangaleli wakhe), lowo ovumelekile ukuthanda usebenzise ubulili bokuhlukana ukuze aqede ummangali. "Ngikunika ubusuku - futhi uyanyamalala empilweni yami." Ukuhlukana okunjalo ngokobulili kuwumphumela wokuvumelanisa, isenzo sokuhawukela othandweni olungenathemba. Ungayibheka njenge-handout, njengendlela yokukhipha umshayeli onesithukuthezi. Futhi ukwamukela noma cha "isipho" esinjalo kuyindaba eyimfihlo kuwo wonke umuntu. Kodwa isisusa esiyinkimbinkimbi kunazo zonke ukusebenzisa ubulili bokuziphindisela ekuphindiseleleni. It isetshenziswa, njengoba umthetho, kulabo amacala lapho indoda eshiya omunye owesifazane. Ngemva kokumbeka embhedeni okokugcina, lowo owayengumthandi wakhe "ngothando olujulile" ushiya izibazi esikhumbeni sendoda, ukukhala nokunye ukulandelana kokuzijabulisa ngokobulili. U-razluchnitsa wabona: indoda yakhe yayisesandleni somunye! Kubonakala sengathi ukuphindisela okuncane kungabulala i-donjuan engathandeki: umthandi omusha angase angamthetheleli ukuthi "uya" ngakwesokunene sangaphambili. Abesifazanekazi abancane abancinisekile basebenzisa ubulili bokungcebeleka futhi njengendlela yokubamba iqhaza. Esikhathini kukhona izinto ezintsha zemishini yokulalelwayo nevidiyo, kanti lowo owayengumthandi wangaphambili angakhokha kuphela ukugcina imfihlo.
Uyakhumbula? ...
Ubulili ngaphambi kokuhlukaniswa kukhanya kakhulu, futhi uma ucabangela. Ukuthi abantu bahlanganyela kulo ngaphambi kokuhlukana kokugcina kobudlelwane, khona-ke ungacabanga ukuthi ubulili obuqakathekile kumele bube bukhunjulwe kanjani kuze kube sekudala. Lapha, konke, kuncike ekufisweni kwesifiso kanye nokuzimisela ukuqeda ubuhlobo "inothi" eliphakeme. Kule njongo, konke kuzokwenzeka: ukugcwalisa okuphelele, isethi yamathoyizi "angatholakali", ingaphakathi elifanele. Njengokuhambisana komculo, into ekhethwa ngokucophelela ikhethiwe. Ngezinye izikhathi ukuhlukana okunjalo kuyisiqalo sobuhlobo obusha. Kodwa kungenzeka yini wena - okuthakazelisayo nokuhle kakhulu-ukushiya kuphela ngoba kubonakala kuye: ubuhlobo bakho buphelile yini? Ngemuva kokulala ngokobulili, uzofuna ukuhlehlisa futhi, futhi ngokuphindaphindiwe ...