Phakathi kwesando nesikhwama. Ngakho-ke uzwela owesifazane, ephoqelelwe ukucima izingxabano phakathi komama wakhe nomyeni wakhe. "I-Hammer" ne-"anvil" ingashintsha izindawo, ihlale iphakathi, phakathi kwemililo emibili.
Yiqiniso, ukuxabana komndeni kwavela kaningi lapho umamazala nomalokazana bebonakala kathathu ngonyaka: ngosuku lukaPetrov, ngosuku luka-Ilin naku-Assumption. Futhi umkhwenyana wami wayenomkhwenyana - indodana yami ethandekayo, umkhwenyana wami wayengumvakashi wokuqala, futhi kwakukhona uphase etafuleni, uma umkhwenyana ehlezi egcekeni, futhi ama-pancake ayemnandi. Kodwa ungasheshi ukuhawukela okhokho bethu. Ukuhlakanipha komuntu okuyiminyaka eyizinkulungwane, okulotshwe emithonjeni yamaculo, kuqinisekisa isimo sasendulo sokungqubuzana phakathi komamazala nomalokazana. Futhi kukhona kule mpikiswano omunye umhlanganyeli, mhlawumbe umuntu ohlupheka kakhulu - indodakazi, naye uyindoda. Owesifazane ongathandeki kufanele athonse phakathi kwamaqembu amabili aphikisayo, phakathi komyeni nomama, engazi ukuthi ngubani, nini nokuthi uzovela kuphi. Izindaba engizozitshela, omunye umuntu, mhlawumbe, uzokuthula kancane - "hhayi kuphela kimi", kodwa kumuntu ozokwenza indlela yokuphuma kwimeko ebonakala sengathi isesimweni esibi - kusukela ohlangothini kubonakala kakhulu.
Umkhwekazi womkhwenyana wanikeza i-ruble, futhi ngemva kokuba anikeze nengxenye ukuba athathwe egcekeni
U-Ane isikhathi eside wabukela ngobuqotho yonke inkampani yethu yabesifazane. Akazange aphile usuku olulodwa noninazala, kodwa waletha umyeni wakhe egumbini lekamakamelo amathathu. Lapho emhlanganweni kwakukhona ingxoxo ngesihloko esivuthayo sobuhlobo phakathi kwezihlobo, u-Anya wayehlale ethule. Kodwa ngelinye ilanga wabiza: ngizomsiza yini lapho ngifuna indawo yokuhlala naye nomyeni wakhe.
Kwenzekani?
Njengoba sonke sazi, unina ka-Anina ungumuntu omuhle kakhulu. Wakhulela indodakazi yakhe yedwa, wamnika ithuba lokuthola imfundo ephakeme, esekelwa ngemali, wamethula umfundi, wayamukela ngenjabulo izindaba ukuthi izingane zizoshada futhi zihlale naye. Ama-Scandals aqala ngenyanga yokuqala yokuhlanganyela. Owesifazane ohlakaniphile waphenduka waba owesifazane ohlambalaza futhi onesihluku. Umkhwenyana ubizwa ngokuthi "yena", ngisho nangaphambi kwakhe. Ukuthula okubonakalayo, ukudubula umnyango, ukufunga indoda yomyeni wakhe kwaba yinto evamile. Akukho lutho ngaphandle kwezikhalazo eziqhubekayo kumkhwenyana wakhe, ovela kunina unina u-Anya engazange azwe: "Wahamba ezicathulweni zomgwaqo phansi komgwaqo waya endlini yangasese; Waphuza ubisi olusele - hhayi yedwa endlini; Yena, njengomnikazi, uvula i-TV, usebenzisa ifoni. " Izingxoxo zikaFrank nezingezansi nomama azizange ziholele kunoma yini. Imifumba emathonjeni aphakanyisiwe kanye ne-ultimatums ziye zaphela ku-Ani ngokuphazamiseka kwemizwa kanye nokwelapha emtholampilo. Kumele kuqashelwe ukuthi umkhwenyana wakhe wamthuka unina umyeni wakhe ngokuthula, ngenkathi esalokhu ehlisa umkakhe, ehlinzeka ngokukhetha indlela yokuphuma kweso simo.
U-Anya wangivuma ukuthi wayedabukisa umama wakhe futhi ukholelwa ukuthi ngonyaka wakhe wokuqala womshado cishe wanquma ukuhlukanisa umyeni wakhe othandekayo: akunakwenzeka ukushiya umama wakhe wedwa, akunakwenzeka ukushintsha ubudlelwane obukhona, akunakwenzeka ukuba kube khona ngaphezulu ... Eminyakeni emithathu yena nomyeni wakhe bashiya le ndlu futhi amagama okugcina ka-Ani, ayebhekiswe kumama, athi: "Ngiyakuzonda!".
I-Cruelly? Yebo. Mhlawumbe kwakungekho isidingo sokuletha lesi simo ngokweqile, futhi bekufanelekile ukuqala ukuthola izindlu ezihlukene ngaphambili, ngaphandle kokuchitha isikhathi ezingxoxweni ezingenalutho. Ngendlela, lokhu kuyindlela engafanelekile evamile (kuyisici esikhethekile samadodakazi ahlala ngaphambi komshado kuphela nonina) ukuthi akudingekile ukuba ushiye lona wesifazane osekhulile wedwa. "Umama uzoba mabi kakhulu, angeke abe yedwa," amadodakazi athandekayo aphikisana futhi avame ukuphutha (uma kunjalo, umama akagulanga okuthile okubi kakhulu). Ukuhlakanipha kwansuku zonke kusho ukuthi abantu abasha badinga ukuhlala ngokwehlukana - kungcono futhi bazinzile kubo kanye nesizukulwane esidala. Kodwa-ke, ukujwayela kubonisa ukuthi ukuphila okuhlukene akuyona isiqinisekiso esiqinile sobuhlobo obuhle.
Awukho ukhilimu omuncu we-serum, noma umkhwenyana wesizwe
Sasisebenza kanye noTatyana Petrovna. Wayengumka-profesa, ekhuluma ngaso sonke isikhathi nge-aristocracy ne-intelligence yomndeni wakhe, egqoke ngokucebile futhi enambitha kahle, wayeziqhenya ngobuhle nokukhuliswa komfundi wakhe. Washada nomfana osemusha, owayengumqondo, ubuhle nemikhuba emihle. Intsha ihlezi ngokwahlukana.
Ngemva kwesikhathi esithile, saqaphela ukuthi isihloko esiyinhloko emibangweni kaTatyana Petrovna kwakuyinkinga yokungamukeleki kwemishado engalingani. Wayekhathazekile kakhulu: indodakazi yakhe ehlakaniphile nenhle, ephuma emndenini ocebile nohlakaniphile, yagijima ukuyoshada nendoda enabanye abazali bayo abasebenza kanzima. Futhi yini? Indawo yendawo engaphandle yabasebenzi, "Khrushchevka", indlela yokuphila engenasici, akukho ukuxhumana okugcwele. Umshado ongalingani uyingxabano! Wenza konke angakwenza ukuze athole indodakazi yakhe nomzukulu wakhe ekhaya. Kuphela isehlukaniso!
Ukuthi iphupho likaTatyana Petrovna ligcwaliseke, safunda kuphela ngemva komshado omusha wendodakazi. Kwakungekho lula, ngokusho kukaMama, ukubuyisela lo mfana nentombazane endlini yabazali futhi amphoqe ukuba ashiye isinqumo sakhe esisha. UTatyana Petrovna wathola umkhwenyana ofanelekayo nendoda indodakazi yakhe ethandekayo. Umlobi odumile, umnikazi wefulethini, izimoto, ama-dachas, inhlanhla, inhlanhla yaba yintanhlanhla ... Abasizi be-laboratory emnyangweni wethu babengenamavila kakhulu ukubuka "i-Literary Encyclopaedic Dictionary" futhi bathola ukuthi "omncane" usekhulile kunomkhwezala iminyaka eyisikhombisa, ngaphandle komuzi.
Angazi ukuthi injabulo yokuphila kwendodakazi elalelayo iphumelele, kodwa ngicabanga ukuthi akusilo iqiniso lapho kufanele abonise ukuyeka kwakhe. Yiqiniso, ukuhlala phakathi kwesando kanye nesisindo kusongela ukuba ibe yincetu engenalutho. Kodwa kufanele igwenywe, ibonise uhlamvu lwayo. Lokhu, ngokusobala, kusebenza ezimweni lapho uninazala enza njengecala elicasuliwe. Ake ucabange, kwenzeke njalo.
Akukho mkhuba endlini - thatha umkhwenyana
U-Galina Ivanovna wasebenza iminyaka eminingi endaweni yokwakhiwa, wayelokhu efuna amathuba okuthola imali engenayo, ukuze indodakazi yakhe ingabi nengozi nganoma yini. U-Olga waphumelela e-yunivesithi, wahamba okuningi, egqoke kahle, eqoqa umtapo omuhle, oxoxisana nabantu abafundele nabafundile kahle. Umama wayeziqhenya ngendodakazi yakhe, emnika inkululeko ephelele ekuziphatheni nasekukhethweni komlingani ekuphileni. Bahamba kahle, baphathana ngothando nangothando.
U-Olga washada nentsha ephumelelayo enkampanini. Ngokushesha ngemva komshado benza imali yokuhlala endlini entsha, kodwa ngesikhathi behlala noGalina Ivanovna. Indoda yentombazane enethuba lokusekela umndeni, ngesizathu esithile, ibheka ukuthi kungenzeka ukusetha umyalelo wayo kuwo. Ebiza uGalina Ivanovna phambi kwabantu abangaphandle "umkhwekazi", yena ovela eziqongweni zomzuzi nomphathi "wamvumela" ukuba ahlanze futhi ahlanze izinwele, izicathulo ezihlanzekile, akhonze isidlo sakusihlwa futhi ahlanze imoto yakhe. Owesifazane ompofu, ongeke ahlale ebamba umoya ongeyena ongathandekayo womkhwenyana wakhe othandekayo, wazama ukungamcasuli, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu ukusiza indodakazi yakhe ekhaya futhi angaboni isimo sokungqubuzana emndenini. Lapho abangane bakhe beza, wasabela emazwini kamamazala wakhe nge-grin sarcastic: "Yebo, ungakhonza" ikhofi eshisayo, "kodwa hhayi etizeni zetiye, njengangobusuku; Yebo, wonke umuntu ufuna ukuzama isaladi yakhe, kodwa "ungabeki" ... U-Oya ezimweni ezinjalo wayelahlekile, wahlunga futhi wazama ukukhipha ingxabano ngehlaya. Ekhishini, wathuthukisa ngothando umama wakhe, futhi ebusuku watusa ukuba umyeni wakhe ahlele izintambo lapho umama esesidokeni noma lapho befudukela endlini yabo. Ngiphendula, ngezwa ukuthi umamazala angaphila unomphela ku-dacha yakhe.
Ngisho nangaphambi komshado, u-Olya wangitshela ukuthi nakanjani uzobiza indodakazi yakhe egameni lomama wakhe. Lapho ngifika nezipho kubo endlini, ekuhambeni kwami ngilungisa umbhalo wokuhalalisela - uKatyushka wazalwa. Kungani bashintsha izingqondo zabo? U-Olya waba namahloni, wangathula, uGalya Ivanovna, ecwebezela ngenjabulo, wachaza: wagcizelela leli gama, ngoba uninazala akanayo indodakazi futhi uzojabula ukuzwa ukuthi umalokazana ubizwa ngokuthi intombazane emva kwakhe. U-Olya wangivuma ukuthi umyeni wakhe, ngaphandle kokubonisana naye, wanquma kanjalo, esheshayo ukuthola isitifiketi sokuzalwa kwentombazane ngaphambi kokubuya komkakhe esibhedlela. U-Olya ngezinyembezi nokuxolisa ngenxa yesenzo somyeni wakhe watshela wonke unina. Owesifazane omdala ohlakaniphile wenza sengathi akacasuli nhlobo, futhi wathembisa ukuthanda amantombazane akhe nakakhulu. Angikwazi ukubona kodwa ukuthi umamazala, owayenelisekile ngesenzo somalokazana wakhe, wayekhona ngosuku lwakhe lokuqala namagama akhe kuphela izinyanga ezintathu kamuva.
Yiqiniso, owesifazane osemusha kufanele acabange ngokuqinisa umndeni wakhe. Kodwa yiziphi izindleko? Ukususwa - kulokhu ngokuphathelene nomyeni wakhe - akufanele neze. Akakwazi ukukhuthaza inhlonipho evela kumyeni wakhe.
Yini okufanele ngiyenze?
Ngakho-ke ungaba kanjani owesifazane osemusha, ukwenza kanjani "futhi izimpisi zigcwele futhi izimvu ziphephile"? Lokhu kuzodinga imizamo ethile, amakhono ezombusazwe ngisho nokuqamba. Futhi ukukhuthazela nokuzola - emva kokuba wonke umuntu kufanele agcine ikhanda elibandayo empini. Izimfanelo ezinjalo aziveli ngokushesha, kodwa kuyo yonke impilo.
Okokuqala, kumelwe siyeke ukugxeka ukuphila, umama, umyeni, futhi ngokuzithoba futhi uvume ngesibindi ukuthi kufanele uzisole ngezindlela eziningi.
Ukuze unciphise umama futhi ngaleyo ndlela amvimbele ukuba angaphuli, bonisa ngezenzo futhi ubonise ngamazwi inhlonipho yakhe, uthando lwakhe ngaye. Yiba nesithakazelo enhlalakahleni yakhe, khuluma kaningi naye futhi ungakhohlwa, njengangaphambili, ukuhleka nokumomotheka izingxoxo naye.
Zama ukumbheka ngamehlo kukho konke okwenzekayo endlini yakho (indlu yakhe), futhi emva kwalokho izinto eziyinqaba ekuziphatheni kwayo zizokuphendukela ezenzweni ezinengqondo zowesifazane oneminyaka ephakathi, mhlawumbe unina wendodakazi eyodwa.
Ungammangaleli ngezinsolo nangezinsongo, ungalimazi imizwa yakhe yomama. Yazi amaphutha akho namaphutha omyeni wakho, khuluma ngethoni elungile nenobungane uma, ngombono wakho, akalungile.
Vele ulinganise umnikelo wakhe emisebenzini yasendlini kanye nesabelomali somndeni. Zama phambi kwabangaphandle ukugcizelela ukubaluleka kwendima yawo ekwakheni isimo sothando nokuqonda emndenini wakho.
Uma ucabangela konke lokhu futhi uyisisebenzisayo, akudingeki ukuba uqondise umama imithetho yokuziphatha okuhloniphekile nomkhwenyana, futhi ngeke udinga ukugcwaliseka okungenamthetho kwemigomo yakho ebuhlotsheni bakhe naye.
Usuqaphele ukuthi akufanele "ukulungisa kabusha" umama wakho, futhi akudingeki ufundise umyeni wakho kabusha. Kumelwe uthathe isinyathelo futhi ushintshe ngokwakho. Uma kungenjalo, izinkinga ezibonakala sengathi zingenakuziphendulela futhi ezingenakunqotshwa zingakunqoba. Akukho ukuhluleka okukhulu kunokuba kunqotshwe - hhayi izitha, hhayi izifo, kodwa isimiso somzimba nsuku zonke siyamangalisa. Kubalulekile ekuhlakanipheni, ukubhekana kahle nezinkinga zomndeni nokungazikhuthazeli nje kuphela imfucumfucu, kodwa futhi ubuthakathaka bakho kubantu.
Owesifazane oqinile ujabule ngenjabulo futhi emomotheka wenkathazo, ngoba uyaqonda ukuthi ayesikhashana. Ngeshwa, kuvele ukuthi akulula ukuhlala ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa kanye nabazali bakho. Ingabe kufanelekile ngenxa yalesi sizathu ukuba ube nosizi, uthukuthele, uhambe ngobuso obubi futhi umemeze kumama wakho nomyeni wakho? Yebo akunjalo.
Hlala, njengangaphambili, ujabule futhi ngokushesha, uhlakaniphe, uthola isimo sengqondo sefilosofi empilweni: ukuzola, ubumnene kubantu nokuhle, nokuphikisana, nasezikhathini ezibuhlungu zokuba khona. Futhi lapho kukhona ukuzithiba, lapho umuntu anqobile khona ukuzitika komuntu siqu, wonke umuntu uzizwa elile futhi ekhululekile ngokushesha. Zizwe kanye nabathandekayo bakho. Phela, ngokubanzi, nguwe owabaphoqa ukuba bahlale kwelinye indlu futhi bahlupheke.
Umbhali: Tatiana Porecki