Intsha iyisikhathi sokuhlola nokuzihlolisisa. Isikhathi lapho izingane ezikhulile zenza izenzo zabo ezinzima kakhulu.
Esemncane, izinguquko ezibalulekile ezingokwengqondo nezingokwenyama zenzekayo ezithinta ukubuka kwezwe, izinto eziza kuqala ekuphileni nokuthandayo. Ngaphakathi kwentombazane iqala ukungqubuzana phakathi kwezifiso kanye namathuba akhe. Intombazane, njengomthetho, ngokuvamile izwa ingakhululekile, ihlale izwa ukucindezelwa esikoleni, ontanga nabazali. Lezi zinsuku zivame ukusola ngokungaqondi noma ngisho nokungabi nesifiso sokuqonda nokusiza. Abanye abazali, bekhohlwa ukuthi babeyizingane ezisencane, bakhohlwa ukuthi phakathi nalesi sikhathi ukuthuthukiswa kwabo ngokocansi kuqhubeka, ngakho-ke, intsha kufanele ichazwe ngokuhlakanipha ngemiphumela kanye nezinsongo zokuqala kokuqala kocansi.
Ngenxa yenqubo esheshayo yokusheshisa, iminyaka lapho intsha ifaka khona ubudlelwano bobulili nesizukulwane ngasinye iyancipha futhi incane. Lokhu kugqugquzelwa inkulumo-ze esebenzayo kumaphephandaba, kanye nemfundo engafanele emndenini. Indlela engalungile yokuxoxisana ngalesi sihloko nentsha ingaba yingozi kakhulu ngekusasa lomntwana.
Imithetho edinga ukugcinwa kanye nentsha yokuqala komsebenzi wezocansi
- Khuluma nomlingani ngokuqondile nangenhlanhla. Ungamtsheli ukuthi "amaqiniso" afinyeleleke kakhulu lapho umbono wakho uzokusiza ukumvikela ekuhlukumezeni kokuphila ngokobulili. Intombazane isencane izwa uma into engavumelani nayo futhi uma ithola ukuthi inikeze ulwazi lwamanga kuye, iyochitha kuphela ubuhlobo futhi uzobe usuvele ukhululekile kunzima kakhulu ukuthonya.
- Kule ncazelo, gwema ukusebenzisa kakhulu igama lesiqephu, ukuze ingane iqonde ngokugcwele lokho okusemqoka, futhi ufuna ukusho ukuthini ngamagama akho.
- Ungesabi ingane. Usuvele ebhekene nobunzima bokuba ubuntu, ukhathazekile ngokuphuma kwamaphupho akhe, nokuthi abanye abantu bayokucabanga ngaye. Akudingekile ukuthi uvule lesi sihloko ngemibono yezimpikiswano mayelana nengozi yokuthola isifo somzimba, imiphumela yokukhulelwa kokuqala, ukukhipha isisu, njll, ngaphandle kwalokho uzovala futhi ayeke ukukhuluma nawe ngale ndaba. Qala ngokuthi ubulili buyingxenye yobuhlobo bomuntu. Kodwa kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi ukwakheka kwesistimu yokuzala kuphela kuphela lapho uneminyaka engu-18, ngakho yena ngokwakhe kufanele athole isiphetho ukuthi ngabe kufanele aphuthume ngokukhula ".
- Uma ufuna intombazane ukuthi ixoxisane ngokugcwele emkhathini nokukhulelwa kwengane ngesikhathi ukhulelwe, ulethe intombazane ukuthi ibone umama wezifo. Uzokwethula kuye uhlangothi lwezinto eziphilayo zalolu daba, ukhulume ngezindlela eziphephile zokuvimbela ukukhulelwa. Ngakho ingane izoqonda okushiwo umlando wale nkinga futhi ibe nesibopho ngokwengeziwe kuwe.
- Esikhathini sokusakaza ingane iphikisana kakhulu, njengoba engazi ukuthi yini efuna kule ndaba. Esinye isifiso sithatha indawo enye. Kunzima ukuba akhethe ngokushesha lokho akudingayo ngempela kule nkathi yesikhathi futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, okulungile. Umsebenzi wakho ukuwuchaza. Ngaleso sikhathi, intsha eningi idinga iseluleko kulo magazini, kudingeka ifike futhi ibuze mayelana nakho konke okubathandayo. Kudingeka sikwenze kucace kulo mfana ukuthi akukho okuyihlazo ekukhulumisaneni ngalesi sihloko nokuthi unelungelo lokubuza ngakho.
Ukuze uthole ukuthi ngabe le ntsha ikwazi yini ukwenza izindlela zokuvimbela ukukhulelwa kanye nesakhiwo sakhe somzimba, cela imibuzo eminingana ebalulekile. Uma imibono ethile mayelana nalokhu iphikisana, okuvame ukukwenzeka, sitshele ukuthi izinto zime kanjani ngempela. Ukwaziswa okuhlala isikhathi eside lapho ingane ithola khona, ubuwula obuncane azokwenza esikhathini esizayo.
Uma "into embi" isivele yenzeka
Isimo esingenandaba nomzwelo, noma ubuntu bakhe, ngokuvamile akahlupheki uma ehamba ngokuzithandela empilweni yezocansi bese esebenzisa imithi yokwelapha ngendlela efanele. Ukuqhuba ukuphila kobulili nomunye oontanga ngokuvumelanisa ngokuhlanganyela akunawo umthelela omubi ku-psyche kokubili kwentsha.
Kodwa uma kwenzeka ukukhulelwa okungahleliwe noma ukutheleleka ngesifo se-venereal, isimo sishintsha kakhulu. Kumuntu osemusha oye wabhekana nenkinga efanayo, kudingeka umkhankaso okhethekile.
Chaza ukuthi lokhu kungenzeka kunoma ubani. Intombazane ezithola isesimweni esinjalo idinga ukwesekwa kwengqondo. Usuvele esesimweni esinzima futhi ukucindezeleka kwakho kuzokwenza kube nzima kakhulu isimo.
- Ungalahli futhi ungaboni. Khumbula ukuthi ungumzali nokuthi wena, ekuqaleni, kufanele usize ingane yakho.
- Ungaceli ukukhipha isisu kokukhipha isisu ngokushesha. Kumelwe uqobo ulinganise izinzuzo kanye nocansi bese wenza isinqumo. Chaza ngokucophelela imiphumela engenzeka yokukhipha isisu.
- Kwezinye izimo, kubalulekile ukubandakanya isazi sezokwelapha okungenani okungenani sikhulule isiguli sokukhathazeka.
Ukukhangiswa kwengqondo kwengqondo
Lapho esemncane, ingane ingase ithole isimo sengqondo esiyinkimbinkimbi, ngakho ukuziphatha kwakhe kuyashintsha kakhulu. Abazali abaphumelelanga ngaso sonke isikhathi ekuchazeni izizathu zezenzo ezinjalo, ikakhulukazi lapho ingane ivele ingena ngokuzumayo futhi ihluleka ukuxhumana naye. Abadala bangase babe nezinsolo zomuntu owenza izenzo zobudlova ezinganeni zabo. Ngezinye izikhathi indlela kuphela eqinisekile yokuphuma kule nkinga ingaba isikhalazo kumuntu wezengqondo.
Umphumela wezenzo zobudlova zingabonakalisa ekulahlekelweni kwesithakazelo kwezocansi noma ngokuphambene nokuvela kwesithakazelo ngokweqile kwisigaba esinikeziwe. Ingane eye yahlushwa udlame ilahlekelwa inzalo ekuphileni, esikoleni, ukuxhumana nabangane. Angase alalele ukulala nokulahlekelwa ukudla. Kulesi simo, ukubonisana nomqondo wezokwelapha kuzosiza ekutholeni imbangela yokuziphatha okunjalo.
Khumbula ukuthi wena, njengomzali, kufanele umsize ukuthi angahamba kanjani ngokungenabuhlungu ngalesi sikhathi. Ukuze uqonde imibuzo mayelana nokuqala kocansi, intsha idinga iseluleko somuntu omdala, nakuba esaba ukuyivuma.