Uma umyeni wakho enezingane ezisuka emshadweni odlule, kufanele uqaphele ezinye izincomo zezifo zengqondo zomndeni. Ekuboneni kokuqala, isimo singase sibonakale silula: uhlala ngokwehlukana, ungahlangani neze. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, phakathi kwakho nomngane wakho womshado kungase kuphakame imibuzo ephathelene nezingane ezisuka emshadweni odlule futhi kubalulekile ukuba ungabavumeli ukuba baphikise impilo yakho ndawonye.
Kunzima kakhulu ukusungula uxhumano nobuhlobo obuhle nengane. Phela, ekuqaleni uqala ukukubona njengesitha, ngoba ngombono wakhe uthathe ubaba wakhe othandekayo emndenini. Futhi uma kungenjalo, akunakwenzeka ukuthi uzokwazi ukukholisa ingane okuphambene nayo. Ngokungangabazeki, umndeni ngamunye unesimo saso, okumele sihlukaniswe ngokwehlukana futhi ngokugcwele. Kodwa kunemithetho eminingi ejwayelekile mayelana nombuzo wokuziphatha kanjani nengane yomyeni kusukela emshadweni wokuqala.
Umyeni nomfazi - okuguquguqukayo, nabazali - njalo
Khumbula ukuthi ingane ayiboni ukuthi kwenzekani njengabantu abadala. Kubo, ukuhoxiswa kukababa emndenini kuyingozi enkulu futhi kuyamangala. Ingqondo yengane yengane yonke iyaphendula ngendlela eyayiyo eya kumcimbi onjalo: eneminyaka engama-1 ingane ingaboni lutho ngalutho, eminyakeni emihlanu kuyomlahleka ukulahlekelwa okuncane, eminyakeni yobudala - ukuhlukaniswa kwabazali kuyoba yinkinga yangempela.
Into eyinhloko ukwenza umntwana azi ukuthi abazali basengabazali bakhe, kuphela umfazi nomyeni abahlukanisile. Mcabange ukuthi uma uyise ephuma emndenini, akusho ukuthi akasamthandi. Kubalulekile ukuthi ingane ithola lezi zincazelo hhayi kuphela kumama wakhe, kodwa nakumfazi kababa omusha.
Ungavumeli konke
Ungavumeli neze umntanakho ingane yakho yonke into, ngaphandle kwalokho uzohlala ekhanda lakho. Izingane ikakhulukazi zinzima ukubekezelela isihlukaniso sabazali babo ngonyaka wokuqala, futhi abafuni ukwamukela umfazi omusha kayise. Bahlambalaza, bavulele ama-antics, bangaba ngabodwa, bathule. Futhi akufanele ukwesabe ukukhuluma kulezi zimo. Futhi into eyinhloko ukuthi ubaba athathe izinkinga zemfundo, ikakhulukazi njengoba enelungelo lokuqonda le ngane, kodwa awukwazi. Imizamo yakho yokuchazela ingane ukuthi uzoqhubeka kanjani noma ngokuphambene nayo izobonwa njengokuhlaselwa futhi lokhu kuzokwenza ubuhlobo bakho nomyeni wakhe nomndeni wakhe wangaphambili kube nzima.
Ungahluleli, futhi ngeke uhlulelwe
Lapho ingane ifika endlini yakho ekuhambeleni, ungazami ukuxoxa noma ukulahla unina kuye. Izihloko ezinjalo kufanele zigcinwe zivinjelwe ngokushesha lapho ingane isendlini. Futhi akuyona indaba yokuziphatha, nakuba kudingeka futhi bakhunjulwe, kodwa ekuboneni ngamazwi akho ngane. Kuyoba yinto enzima kakhulu, icasulayo futhi ingabangela ukungavumelani okukhulu phakathi kobudlelwane.
Bashiye bodwa
Akufanele uvimbele uyihlo ekukhulumisaneni nengane yakhe. Ngemuva kwalokho, ufika ukuzobona uyise, hhayi nawe. Ngalesi sikhathi kungcono ukwenza ibhizinisi lakho, ubashiye bodwa. Uma umntwana enobungane futhi elula ukuxhumana naye, nonke ningadlala imidlalo ndawonye noma uthathe ukuhamba okuhlangene.
I-Conspiracy Theory
Akudingeki ukuba uhlele enye ingane ukuze ufihle okuthile komunye umndeni. Lokhu akufanele kwenziwe nhlangothi zonke, noma enye. Ungalokothi usebenzise indlela: "Masihambe enkundleni ye-cinema (ukuhamba, ku-cafe, njll.), Ungatshele umama ngakho." Ngendlela ebonakala sengathi ingenangqondo, unikezela ingane emphakathini othile oyimfihlakalo, ungamcindezeli nje ukuba agcine imfihlo, kodwa ukuba aqambe amanga. Lokhu kwenza ukuthi abambelele eceleni kwakho, ngenxa yalokho angase adideke futhi angaqondi ukuthi angasabela kanjani esimweni esinjalo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lokhu kungabangela umuzwa wecala ohlangothini olulodwa, oluzodlala indima embi ekuthuthukisweni kwengqondo yakhe.
Ukuthembeka ngaphezu kwakho konke
Khumbula ukuthi ingane akufanele inikezwe ukuthi yiziphi ezinye izizathu ezingavunyelwe ukusebenzisa (isibonelo, sweet, chips, soda). Lokhu kuthathwa njengomzamo ongalungile wokunqoba isimo sengane. Ingane ingase ibe nombono wokuthi ungcono kunomama wakho, ngoba ivimbela, futhi uvumela konke. Iqiniso, lizowela njengendlu yamakhadi futhi cishe kungenzeka (ikakhulukazi lapho kuphakama izinkinga zezempilo ngenxa yokusetshenziswa kwemikhiqizo eyingozi). Ngakho-ke, qotho futhi uzwele.