Kukhona kuphela "kodwa" ... Yena kanye lo muntu, oye wahlushwa ukucindezeleka, akahlali ngaso sonke isikhathi kalula. Akudingekile ukuba nokuziphatha okulungile, kodwa indlela efanele.
Izinto ezibangela ukucindezeleka
- Ukuthatha imithi ethile kungabangela ukucindezeleka. Njengoba le nkinga ivame okwesikhashana, ayidingi ukwelashwa okhethekile nokufinyelela.
- Isici se-Hereditary noma izifo ezimbi. Ngokuvamile abantu bajwayele ukubonakaliswa kokucindezeleka uma omunye wamalungu omndeni ehlupheka noma ehlushwa lesi sifo.
- Ukuqhubekela phambili kwezenzakalo ekuphileni: izenzakalo ezinjalo zingaba umsebenzi omusha noma, ngokuphambene, ukulahlekelwa, ukuphothula iziqu, umshado noma umshado, isehlukaniso noma umhlalaphansi, njll.
- Izimo eziphikisana njalo emndenini noma nabangani.
- Ukuxhunywa ngokweqile noma ukuphuza utshwala: abantu abangaba ngu-30% abanokudakwa kwezidakamizwa noma utshwala banesifo sokucindezeleka.
- Ukufa noma ukulahlekelwa othandekayo nabathandekayo ngokuvamile kuholela ezizweni ezicindezelayo.
UMarina, oneminyaka engu-32 ubudala:
- Ngahlangana no-Alexei ngesikhathi esingcono kakhulu sokuphila kwakhe. Wabhekana nokulila kwangempela nenkinga ekuphileni: ukufa kwengane, ukuhlukaniswa, ubunzima bezezimali ngenxa yokubolekisa kanye nenkinga ezweni. Kulesi simo, ukuphila komuntu kulahlekelwe konke okushiwo, kubonakala sengathi kakade akekho oye ngenxa yakhe nokuthi kufanele yini aphile ... Ngami uLyosha kwakuyiyona nto ebaluleke kakhulu empilweni yami, wayeyikusasa lami nethemba lami. Ngokwemvelo, kwakungimi okwakufanele "ngimbuyisele ekuphileni," ukunikeza ithemba ngekusasa. Eqinisweni, kwakungelula kakhulu. Okubaluleke kakhulu - nginike uAlexe ukuba aqonde ukuthi ngimdinga. Saba njengababili bomlingani bomphefumulo: bakhuluma ngakho konke okusemhlabeni, bachitha ubusuku, badabula emigwaqweni yobusuku obumnyama, baya emabhayisikobho, bafumana nokuzilibazisa okuvamile-ukugijima epaki ekuseni. Ngemva kwezinyanga eziyisithupha ngiqaphele ukuthi isimo siyashintsha. ULyosha washintsha imisebenzi, ubunzima bezimali buphelile, futhi ngemva konyaka ngakhulelwa ...
Ukuphawula kwengqondo:
Kukhona izimo eziyinkimbinkimbi futhi ezingenakuqhathaniswa empilweni ukuthi kunzima kakhulu ukuba umuntu aphume esimweni sokucindezeleka. Abantu beza ukuzosiza, labo lo muntu obiza kakhulu futhi labo abangamnika umuntu lokho angenakho. Esimweni esinjalo no-Alexei no-Marina, lo mfana wathola lokho akushoyo nokuthi yini elahlekile: umlingani womphefumulo nomntwana.
Kuzoba nzima ukubona isimo uma kungekho lezo zici zokukhokha ukuthi umuntu udinga ukubuyela empilweni evamile kusuka esimweni sokucindezeleka. Ngokuvamile kuyadingeka kumuntu oye wahlushwa ukucindezeleka ukuze athole amandla akhe angaphakathi kanye nezinqolobane zokuphila okuvamile.
Futhi manje cabangela imithetho eyisisekelo yokuziphatha nomuntu oye wabhekana nokucindezeleka
- Landela "isimiso sesidoda": akakho futhi ngaphansi kwezimo azikhumbuza umuntu inkinga noma usizi lwakhe. Zama ukukhuluma ngento engathathi hlangothi, kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi izihloko ezingenangqondo mayelana nesimo sezulu noma mayelana nokunye okufana nalokhu ngeke kudlule.
- Nikeza umuntu ngokusekelwa kokuziphatha, engenakho: mnike ithuba lokukhuluma, ukukhala noma ukuvala nje.
- Kubalulekile ukukhumbula ukuthi umuntu ongcono kakhulu ongasiza esimweni esinzima ngumyeni noma umfazi, isoka noma intombi. Kumane kudingekile ukuthi umuntu onomzuzwana onzima uzizwe ukusekela nokusekelwa kwakho.
Isimo esibucayi kunazo zonke esiholela ezinhlobonhlobo ezinzima zokucindezeleka ukulahlekelwa othandekayo nabathandekayo. Esimweni esinjalo, kumele kube khona umuntu ozokusiza nokusekela. Uma unesithakazelo kulo mbuzo: "Indlela yokuziphatha nomuntu oye wahlushwa ukucindezeleka?", Khona-ke, kungenzeka ukuthi ungumuntu ofanayo. Umsebenzi wakho awuveli emaphashini, kodwa akukho okungeke kwenzeke. Kuyadingeka ukuba ube nokubekezela nokubekezela ukusiza othandekayo wakho nomthande wakho banqobe ubunzima bokuphila obumficile. Omunye kumele akhumbule iqiniso elibalulekile lokuphila: kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani, impilo iqhubeka, futhi njalo ukhona umuntu noma ubani.