Futhi lokhu kuyadabukisa. Ngempela, phakathi kwalabo abanamakhono, abakhulu nabadumile, nabesifazane abambalwa, futhi ngezinye izikhathi izwe elingokomoya licebile futhi lihluke kakhulu kunamadoda. Sihlale siqhakazile futhi simangalisa, singenza abantu bakhangele, siyazi ukuthi singanqoba kanjani futhi sisimangaze. Ngakho-ke kungani sonke isithunzi sethu singahlonishwa ngokugcwele, senza izinto eziningi ezingaphezulu.
Amabhuleki ikakhulukazi ukuthuthukiswa komuntu wesifazane emndenini. Lapho zonke izithakazelo zakhe ziphoqeleka ukuba zihambe ngemuva, ngokuqondene nezithakazelo nezidingo zomyeni wakhe nezingane. Ngakho-ke, konke owesifazane akwazi ukuqoqa kuye kuze kufike umzuzwana womshado, kuvame ukuphindwa kakhulu ngesikhathi sokuphila komndeni.
Futhi kubonakala sengathi, yini esikwenzayo engalungile, ukuthi siqala ukwehlisa kancane kancane futhi ngokuzethemba njengabantu ngabanye?
Yini eyenza sikwehlise ukuthuthukiswa kwethu komuntu siqu, ukuzikhandla, ukukhathazeka emhlabeni, abantu, okulinganiselwe futhi okungathandeki?
Sinezimpendulo zale mibuzo. Futhi-ke, silalela futhi sikhumbule.
Sithandwa.
Isinyathelo sokuqala ekubhekaneni nokuhlazeka njengobuntu besifazane emndenini yisifiso sakhe sokukhuluma njalo ngaye. Izingxoxo ngokuvamile nabantu abakuzungezile, ngisho nabangakajwayele, babilise ku-banal "kodwa mina", "kodwa wazi kusukela kimi", "kahle wena, yebo mina", nokunye okunjalo "Mina", nakuyo yonke indawo kuzo zonke izigaba zokuphila . Ngokujwayelekile lokhu kuholela ekuqinisweni ukuthi wonke umuntu okuzungezile usekuqaphela isikhathi eside, futhi izenzakalo ezintsha azifani kakhulu uma kuqhathaniswa nenani lolwazi olunikezile mayelana nesikhathi sokuphila kwakho konke. Ukungafuni ukulalela lokho okutholile kuzobuya maduzane kuwe. Umuntu ngokwemvelo ubugovu, futhi ethanda kakhulu inzalo yakhe, Abantu abasoze bafuna ukukulalela uma uhlale ulungiswa ngokwakho kuphela, ungabakhathaleli kangako njengendawo yakho. Umphumela uba ukungabi nokuxhumana okugcwele.
Ukuthi owesifazane othola umndeni, ikakhulukazi uma engumama wendlu, uthola umngane omusha omusha, i-TV, naye unethonya elikhulu. Uchungechunge lwama-monotonous, hhayi imibukiso yezingqondo, izinto ezihlukile, nezindabuko mayelana nokuphila kwemikhiqizo yezamabhizinisi ezifuywayo nakwezinye izizwe - ukufaka zonke izinto ezijabulisayo zokuphila kwangempela, izincwadi zokufunda, imicimbi yamasiko. Esikhathini esizayo uzokwazi ukukhuluma kuphela ngezihloko eziseduze nawe - uhlelo lwezingcingo, ukuhleka kwezinkanyezi, futhi lapho, ekugcineni, uJoseph uzoqonda ukuthi uMaria, lo akuyona indodakazi kaRoberto, kodwa nje umzala wakhe wesibini owafika lapha ngonyaka odlule kusukela ekuphelelwe ithemba, bheka nje injabulo yakho.
Izenzo zethu.
Ngokufanayo, ukuthuthukiswa kobuntu besifazane emndenini, kuzothathwa ngekhwalithi ngezenzo zakhe zansuku zonke. Kwabesifazane abathile, usuku ludwetshwe njalo ngomzuzu, futhi isimiso sisoloko sifana, ngokuhlela usuku lokuphuma bese uhamba. Yiqiniso, lokhu akuyona nje inkinga yowesifazane, ezimweni eziningi izimo ezithathwa yizibopho zakhe emndenini, abaphathi, izihlobo nezinye iziqu. Futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo, abesifazane abaningi banelisekile ngalokhu kulungiswa, futhi abazami ngisho nokushintsha okuthile, ukwethula ukuthi kungenzeka yini uhlobo oluthile lokuzikhethela, okubenza kube ngumzali omuhle noma isisebenzi, kodwa hhayi umuntu othakazelisayo futhi othuthukile. Ngezinye izikhathi ekusebenziseni okunjalo isimo sezezimali siwukusola. Kungaba nzima, khona-ke owesifazane uvame ukuzisindisa emndenini, noma ngokuphambene nalokho, ukusindisa kungenzeka uma nje usindise esikhathini esikhethekile. Futhi njengoba icala elinjalo ngenxa yomsebenzi onomphela lingaphumi, imali iya kulokho okudingekayo, hhayi lokho okufunayo. Ngakho-ke kuvela, ngenkathi abangane beqhayisa ngezinyawo ukuya eholidini, uhambo lwakho olude kakhulu lonyaka wonke, belizwe ngemuva kwamazambane, noma ngisho nangaphansi.
Kodwa nokho, ugcine nini ukubona labo abafanayo ababeletha? Futhi awunayo leso sikhathi, bese ufisa, kodwa awukamenywa ngisho nabangani bakho, wazi ukuthi uzobe uthola okuhamba phambili okungenakufika. Futhi emva kwalokho ufuna ukuzibiza ngokuthi umuntu othakazelisayo futhi othuthukile?
Ngakho-ke, uma ungahambi noma kuphi, ngakho-ke awunabo abajwayele ukuxhumana nabo, ukuxhumana okuthakazelisayo kuwe. Yebo, futhi uneliseke kakhulu ngombuthano omncane wabangani bakho, ngubani, uma kwenzeka, uma ungakakhohlwa, akusakabizi.
Umbono wethu.
Yiqiniso, izenzo zethu ikakhulukazi zinquma imicabango yethu. Indlela esicabanga ngayo ithonywa imikhuba yethu, izimiso, izimiso zokuziphatha. Futhi uma sinquma ukungayishintshi, ngakho-ke ukuhlukahluka empilweni yethu nakho kungeniswa. Kungani, into entsha, uma kukhona ubudala obufakazelwe. Ungavumeli izwe langaphandle lithonye wena. Nika konke okwakungeyona ingxenye yezwe lakho, owakhe ngokwakho.
Ngendlela, bekuyisikhathi sokugcina ubukele ukubukeka kwakho? Mhlawumbe, indlela yakho eya ku-salon ubuhle ayikhulile nje ngotshani kuphela, kodwa futhi nezihlahla. Kodwa, iqiniso lokuthi ukubonakala komuntu akukhathaleli futhi izwe langaphakathi libaluleke kakhulu akulona iqiniso, futhi usuvele uzibonele isikhathi eside. Ubuntu bomuntu abubonakali ngamandla akhe okukhulumisana, amakhono nolwazi, kodwa futhi nokubonakaliswa kwangaphandle komuntu ngamunye. Kuyacaca ukuthi endlini ayidingi ingubo evela kumklami wezakhiwo ezibiza kakhulu, kanye nekhanda lezinwele, kepha umbono wethu ngokwethu, ikhono lokubonakalisa lusizo ekwakheni ubuntu bethu.
Ngakho-ke, madodakazi othandekayo, zenzele iziphetho. Umshado akuyona ukuphela kwezwe, futhi akusona isizathu sokukhohlwa ngawe. Zithande wena, ulethe ukuhlukahluka empilweni yakho, ukukhulumisana futhi kulokhu, umbuzo wakho njengomuntu emndenini, awusoze uvele. Ngempela, ukuthi ungumuntu obomvu, wonke umuntu uzokwazi konke.