Ungakwazi ukuziphatha esithangamini ngezindlela ezehlukene, kuncike, ngokwezinga elikhulu, ukuthi uluhlobo luni lwesithombe esinqunyiwe ozikhethile. Mhlawumbe empilweni ungenaso isibindi nesibonakaliso, ngakho-ke kuyi-Inthanethi uthathe isinqumo sokuba owesifazane othakazelisayo - ngendlela, lezi zivame ukuxoxwa esithangamini. Noma ukhathele ngokuba yintombazane yensimbi, ngakho-ke wakhetha isithombe esiseduze futhi esibucayi, esengozini ... Futhi mhlawumbe usuzimisele ukuba ngokwakho, wabelane ngazo zonke izimfihlo zakho, ihlaya, ngezinye izikhathi-ukuba ube yisisulu, ngokujwayelekile, ukuba ungabi yindoda enhle.
Kodwa isithangami yisithangami, nayo yonke imfudumalo nomoya onobungane azinikeza ngokukhululekile, nokho ngeke kube khona ukungqubuzana. Futhi konke ngenxa yokuthi sonke sihlukile, futhi sibona zonke izinto ngezindlela ezahlukene, futhi kusukela kulokho kuphakama izingxabano kanye nokuhlukana, ngisho nangokwesigatshana esisodwa esishiyiwe. Akunakutsho ukuthi ukuxoxa nawe esithangamini yindaba ehlobene nokugxila nokulahlwa. Mhlawumbe usanda kubanikeza izihlobo zakho ezingokoqobo izizathu eziningi zokucabanga - futhi bawasebenzise ngokushesha, baqumba impilo yakho baqala ukuyihlola ngaphansi kwe-microscope? Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yisiphi isizathu sokuxoxisana, umbuzo uhlala uvulekile: ukuthi ungaziphatha kanjani, uma uxoxwa esithangamini yiqembu labantu abaye bakusiza njalo futhi bakhuthaza, kodwa namuhla bavele banquma ukuthi awusiye umuntu ofunayo wena ukukhipha?
Ukuphendula umbuzo mayelana nokuthi ungaziphatha kanjani, uma uxoxa ngokuzijabulisa futhi ungafihli, kufanele ucabange ngokushesha ngokuziphatha kwakho kwiforamu. Phela, noma yikuphi ukuxoxa ngomuntu othile kunesisusa, isenzakalo, into yokuxoxa, ekugcineni.
Okokuqala - cacisa umbuthano wezintombi "ezintombi" ezijwayelekile eziye zahlela ukuthi uphazamiseke. Khumbula: uluhlobo luni lobuhlobo obutholile esithangamini? Mhlawumbe kwesinye isihloko esivuthayo uxabana, futhi ekugcineni phakathi kwakho kuphelile? Yiqiniso, okuyinhloko yezingqungquthela ukuthi izingxoxo zanoma yikuphi isihloko zihlukaniswe ngamakamu amabili: "for" futhi "ngokumelene" (uma kunokwenzeka ngaphakathi kohlaka ingxoxo, Yebo). Umbuzo owodwa uwukuthi: la makamu aphuma kanjani esimweni? Cishe, awukwazi ukuthula ngokuvumelana nokuthula, futhi izingxabano zadluliswa kusukela esihlokweni esisodwa kuya kuzo zonke izingxoxo. Uqale i-podkoly, ukuhlambalaza, ukuhleka - konke lokhu akusho indlela yokuxhumana okukhiqizayo evamile. Akukakushiywa ukuthi ufuna nje ukusinda esitokisini - bese ulungele ukuvikela umugqa wokuvikela. Abesifazane bayakwazi ukulwa, ngisho nhlobo.
Kodwa uma isimo ngesibambano esingalungile sivame futhi akuxhomeke kuwe kuphela kodwa nakwabamelene nawe, kunezinye izinketho, ngenxa yokuthi ungaxoxwa ngakho ngecala elibi. Mhlawumbe, uye waqaphela udumo lomfazi oziqhenyayo? Ngemuva kwalokho, sivame ukufuna ukubonakala singcono, sihlakaniphe kakhulu, sihlakaniphile, sihle kakhulu, ikakhulukazi uma sijikeleza eqenjini lesifazane - noma ngabe liyiqiniso. Ngokuyinhloko, ngezinye izikhathi sidlulisela phambili isimo sethu esiphezulu sezenhlalakahle, esingaba nomona. Futhi, qiniseka ukuthi uzoba nomona, ngaphezu kwalokho, kukhona labo abangakuthandi ngekitsch. Futhi lamantombazane akwazi ukuxoxa nawe phambi komuntu wonke ukufakazela ukuthi uzibeka ngaphezu kwamanye. Futhi kulezi zinkundla aziyithandi - kuzo zonke izinkundla zilingana (ngokunembile, kufanele zilingane, nakuba lokhu kwenzeka okungavamile).
Yiqiniso, ungaxoxa futhi usuke ekuboneni okuhle - futhi lokhu, ngakolunye uhlangothi, kuyamangalisa! Nakuba lesi simo singabangela ukuba owesifazane angakhululeki. Emva kwakho konke, mhlawumbe udunyiswa ngamandla futhi ngokuyinhloko kwamanye amathalenta owawubonakalise kuwo amalungu esithangami, nokuthi wona angabani. Ubophe umfutho ohlakaniphile kumyeni wakho, kangcono kunesitolo, uphekwe i-goose esimnandi ema-apula, ufunde ukusingatha imizwa yabantwana, wazi konke mayelana nekhono ... kungaba khona izizathu eziningi! Futhi labo ababaqaphelayo, bangakwazi ukwabelana kalula ngalolu lwazi nabanye, ngaphandle kokucabanga ngisho nokuthi umkhankaso wokukhangisa okunjalo ungase ungajabulisi kuwe.
Ukuziphatha kuzo zonke lezi zimo kuyadingeka ngezindlela ezahlukene.
Uma ingxoxo ingalungile, khona-ke kudingeka udinga imbangela yayo. Thola umuntu onobuhle nalabo abakuhlukumeza kakhulu, bese ubabuza umbuzo oqondile "ebunzini": "Kuthiwani? ". Lindela impendulo ehlakaniphile, futhi uma uqonda ukuthi uphelele kabi, mhlawumbe kufanele uxolise ngalokhu konke ukuyeka? Uma kwenzeka ukuthi ukugeleza kokungcola kuqhubeka nokugeleza kuwe (ikakhulukazi ngemilayezo yomuntu siqu) - ungabhala ngalokhu kumengameli, futhi uzophoqeleka ukuthatha izinyathelo zokuvimbela lokhu kukhwabanisa. Abenzi bokubi kudingeka balwe nezindlela zabo.
Nakuba, mhlawumbe, isithangami ngokwayo akufanelekile ukulwa nayo? Mhlawumbe kungcono ukushiya ikhanda eliziqhenyayo, futhi uzithole uthole izwe eliyinkimbinkimbi ngokwengeziwe?
Uma isizathu sisekuwe, futhi uyazi - zama ukulungisa umugqa wokuziphatha kancane. Ngempela, kuyi-Internet kulula! Lokhu akuyona impilo yangempela lapho kungekho khona ukubuya emazwini ashiwo futhi akusikho isikhathi sokucabanga ngezimpendulo ezithile. Esikhathini sesithangami, unesikhathi esingenamkhawulo ukuze uhlunge impendulo yakho, susa okungalungile kuyo, thatha ukumomotheka okunomusa. Phela, ngisho nasempikiswaneni nomphikisi kudingeka ukwazi ukuziphatha kahle futhi ngesithunzi.
Ngakho-ke, lapho uxoxwa ngesithunzi sakho, mhlawumbe udinga ukuzilimaza? Phela, amakhono akho namakhono akho azisa inani elikhulu labantu abangabajwayele ngempela - futhi lokhu kuphela okumele kukunikeze kufanele kukunikeze ithemba ngamakhono akho! Kodwa uma kusengakujabulisi kakhulu - mhlawumbe kunengqondo ukubhala kahle "kubasebenzi bakho bokukhangisa" ongasetshenziselwa ukuba ube khona endaweni yokukhanya? Abantu abavamile abakwanele bayokulalela amazwi akho futhi bayeke ukukhangisa ngaso sonke isikhathi.