Ngeshwa, uma intombazane ifaka izingxoxo zabantu mayelana nobulili - ukusabela kwakhe kuyinto enengekayo noma ukwesaba. Njengoba abafana bengamahloni ngokwemigomo engcolile, ubulili ngabo - kungumkhuba wesilwane, ongenalo uthando kanye nobuhle.
Kungani abantu bevame ukukhuluma ngocansi?
Ukuze ukwandise ukuzethemba nokomoya wakho wokulwa. Amantombazane akhuluma ngezocansi, noma azungezwe abangane, noma ngamantombazane angajwayelekile. Ukukhuluma ngezocansi, la madoda avuselelana emiphakathini emisha ngaphambili.
Uvame ukuzwa ukukhala kobulili emlonyeni womfokazi kuwe. Kulokhu, umfana akakwazi ngisho nokubuka amehlo akho. Futhi ukukhala kwakhe kufana namabble babble noma amagama angamahloni. Kungani amadoda enza lokhu futhi kungani akhetha wena njengomhlatshelo?
Njalo uma uzwa into enjengale, uzama ukuqeda ukukhathazeka okunjalo ngokushesha. Imicabango igijimela ekhanda lami: kungani ngabe ngigxile kulokhu kukhishwa? Mhlawumbe ugqoke futhi ucasulayo? Ugqoke ingubo emfushane kakhulu noma i-makeup ekhanyayo kakhulu?
Uqala ukuzitholela ngokwakho futhi ngeze. Endaweni yakho kungaba yimuphi omunye intombazane. Abafana bayaphonsa lemishwana ukuze balondoloze isithunzi sabo sokuzihlonipha nokwesilisa.
Ukwesaba kwamadoda. Ngeke ukholwe, kodwa abafana besaba kakhulu ukukhombisa imizwa yabo nemizwa yabo yangempela. Besaba ukuvuma ukuthi intombazane ibiza kakhulu ngoba inamandla phezu kwayo.
Akukho lutho olwesabekayo kunomfana kunokuba ube ne-henpecked. Okungcono kakhulu, kusabisa abantu ukuthi bangabi yizigqilakazi, kuyesabeka ukuthi abangane bazokwazi ngakho. Abangane bomfana bangcwele futhi angeke bawase amehlo abo.
Abafana bavame ukukhuluma ngocansi, ngoba bazama ukufihla abangane babo imizwa yabo yangempela, uthando lwabo ngentombazane. Phela, konke lokhu okuthandana, okubaluleke kakhulu kuwo wonke intombazane, akusizi ngalutho kubafana. Ngokuqondile, abesilisa abanalo ilungelo lokuvuma ukuthi nabo bafuna uthando nokuthanda. Uma evumela ukulahlekelwa okunjalo, abangani ngeke basabheka njengomuntu. Uthando nokuthandana nomfana kuyimbonakaliso yobuthakathaka. Indoda yangempela ayikwazi ukuba isithunywa.
Abafana bavame ukukhuluma ngezocansi - ngakho-ke bazama ukubonisa abangani nabo bonke abakuzungezile ukuthi kule ndaba uyazi ukuthi uyindoda yangempela futhi akadingi imizwa nemizwelo, kuwo wonke amantombazane kanye namantombazane ahloniphekile.
Njengoba uneminyaka yobudala, abafana bahlola ukuziphatha kwabo futhi baqala ukuziphathisa njengamadoda wangempela. Phela, ebusheni, ukukhuluma njalo ngezocansi nokuxhashazwa ngokocansi, kungaba yinkolelo noma ukuzikhukhumeza ukufihla ukwehluleka kwabo.
Abafana bavame ukukhuluma ngocansi, ngoba besaba ukulahlekelwa inhlonipho yabangane babo. Uma engakwazi ukusekela isihloko sengxoxo, ngakho-ke kufanelekile okuthile - yilokho okushiwo wonke umuntu ocabanga.
Kucatshangwa ukuthi. Laba bafana bacabanga njalo ngezocansi kuphela. Ngakho-ke, ukufakazela kubo bonke abangane abazungezile ukuthi ufana nabo, lo mfana uzophinde ahlale ekhuluma ngocansi. Khona-ke umthetho womhlambi usebenza-noma ngabe konke kuhamba, ngilapha.
Izingxoxo eziqhubekayo mayelana nobulili kubafana - lokhu yisikhathi sokuguquka. Kulo mzuzu, lo mfana ukwazi ukukhuluma kuphela, izenzo nezenzo ezivela kuye uze ufike. Abafana abaqondi ukuthi amantombazane emisebenzini enjalo - inkulumo eqhubekayo ngocansi - ithathwa njengokukhathazeka komfana. Ngakho-ke, ezama ukubonakala sengathi wonke umuntu, umfana nje uyayishaya intombazane.