Uma kuziwa ekuthandeni, abesifazane basuke bekulungele ukudela, izenzo ngisho nemilingo, ukuze nje bahlale benomusa kumuntu othandekayo. Kodwa ingabe sidinga ukuhlonishwa okunjalo lapho isixazululo senkinga sisebusweni? Impendulo embuzweni omdala: "Indlela yokukhangisa kumuntu?" - ifakwe emzimbeni wesifazane. Igama lakhe lingumagnetism. Lokhu kuyisici esikhethekile sokukhanga, okusebenza endaweni ethile ngezinga elimangalisayo. Kusebenza kuze kube yilapho umkhuba ungaphazamisi ubuhlobo, okwakwaziwa, obungakwazi ukulala ngisho nemvelo. Ukuze ubuyele ebuhlotsheni bokuqala kwezinsuku zokuqala kanye nalezi zikhathi zegolide lapho umuntu ekhanga kuwe njengemagnet, kungenzeka kalula. Masibuyele esimweni sethu sabantu besifazane futhi sikhumbule noma sifunde ukuthi singayisebenzisa kanjani ukuze sizuze thina kanye nendoda yethu ethandekayo. Ngakho ungenza kanjani othandekayo wakho nendoda oyifunayo kuwe? Sizokwenza ubudlelwane obuhle obuhle nawe - obuhle, obumnene, obonayo. Futhi yizikhonkwane ezinokwethenjelwa kakhulu zobulili obunamandla, futhi bayakwazi ukuhlala eduze futhi ngokuzithandela ngisho nendoda engavumi kakhulu.
Izikhonkwane aziyona nje isichazamazwi lapha. E-psychology ye-neurolinguistic, igama elithi "amahange angokwengqondo" lisho ubudlelwane obuseduze nento ethile noma isenzo. Lokhu kungaba isithombe, ukuthinta, ukuhogela, njll. Ukuphindaphinda ngokuphindaphindiwe isenzo esithile esimnandi, sisho impendulo enhle kumuntu futhi silungise lo mbutho njengokungathi ihange ligcina izinzwa. Akunakwenzeka ukushiya ngokuzithandela okuhlangenwe nakho okujabulisayo kanye nomuntu okusemandleni abo. Sizosebenzisa lesi sici somqondo womuntu, sakha amahange anokwethenjelwa, okubangela isidingo somuntu esiqotho sokugcina esinye, kodwa "ogwini" olunjalo.
Ihange # 1 lolwandle oluhle
Kusukela esikhathini esidlule, owesifazane ungumlindi nomgcini wendawo. Yini okufanele uyigcine - umsebenzi wamadoda. Indlela yokugcina - umsebenzi oqondile wabesifazane. Indoda ezingeni elingaqondakali lizohlala lihamba nezinyawo zayo lapho ihlambala khona njengoba ithanda khona, lapho kungekhona nje umyalelo, kodwa umyalelo ngokuvumelana nemikhuba yakhe, futhi lapho ingane izwa khona ukubheka. Ngokuvamile ukubhema kunomhlobo okhethekile we-magnetism. Kungenzeka ukuthi "izinsimbi" ezinamandla kunazo zonke, ngoba ziyisizathu esihle kakhulu sokukhumbula okujabulisayo. Qonda ukuthi yiziphi iziqholo ezenza indoda yakho ijabule noma imenze abe nemizwelo emihle, futhi "uqinise" imizwa yakhe yokuxhumana.
I-Anchor # 2 Ulwandle lokuzilibazisa
Indoda izwa ikhululekile lapho ingakwazi ukuphumula ngokuphelele. Ukugeza okufudumayo okunomsoco ophuzizayo, ukukhathala ukuphuza noma ukuphuza itiye yendabuko kusikhathi sokuphuza ngesikhathi sokuxoxa kungase kube yilawo masiko ayenakekelayo lapho umuntu othandekayo ngezwi elizwakalayo eyoba umlutha. Ukukhathazeka ngokududuza kwakhe ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo-ngokomzwelo, futhi uzobona ukuthi kunokubuthana njalo nabangane noma ukulibazisa emsebenzini njalo, uzogijimela lapho elindele ukunakekelwa okuqotho nokuthula.
I-Anchor # 3 Ugu loluthando
Leli "anchor" elicacile futhi eliphumelelayo kunazo zonke. Kodwa-ke, omdala ubuhlobo, kunzima kakhulu ukugcina uthando oluphezulu. Yiqiniso, indaba yothando yimbangela yokusebenzisana phakathi kwemizwa, nokho kuncike kowesifazane. Ngeke kube yinto engafanele ukuhlanganisa "izinhlangano" kuzo zonke izinzwa ezinhlanu zomuntu. Umthelela osebenzayo kubo ngokuqinisekile uyoletha umphumela olindelekile:
- Imisindo ebonakalayo izosiza indoda ukubona ukuhlanzwa komzimba wesifazane nokukhangisa izingubo (ikakhulukazi ekhaya!)
- I-Tangent - ukuze "ubone" izandla ubunqunu bomzimba, imigqa epholile yokugoba umzimba, ukugeleza kwezinwele noma ama-silky cool.
- Ukulalela - uzwe umculo wakho owuthandayo noma ushayele esenzweni owaziwa kuphela emibinini emibili.
- Olfactory - zizwe uthando lokunuka, okuyinto ephawulekayo ngokubangela ama-aromas-aphrodisiacs adumile.
- I-flavouring - ukunambitha uthando ngendandatho, inhlangano ehambisana nayo kuphela, kodwa enamandla kakhulu.
Sithemba ukuthi manje uqonda isimiso sendlela yokuqinisekisa ukuthi indoda yakho ethandekayo idonseleka kuwe. Qhubeka uhlu lwe "anchors" ongakwenza wena. Into eyinhloko akufanele ibe nobuvila ukwazi indoda, ukuthanda ngobuqotho kuye futhi ukuguqula imikhuba yakhe, izidakamizwa namaphupho zibe yizivumelwano zakhe, kholwa kimi, zizobe zithembeke nakakhulu kunezintambo ze-anchor!