Isikhathi sobuhlobo: indoda enkosikazi yakhe

Iyini isisekelo nobude bobuhlobo: umyeni nenkosikazi yakhe? Sizozama ukuthola impendulo yalo mbuzo namuhla, ngokubheka ngokuningiliziwe ekuhloleni kobudlelwane obangela "unxantathu wothando".

Igama elithi "inkosikazi" emadodeni amaningi lihlotshaniswa nemfihlakalo kanye nobulili bendodakazikazi indoda eshadile ehlangana ngayo ngasese kumkayo. Ngokuvamile, ubuhlobo bobuhlobo obunjalo busekelwe ekuthandweni nasekuthandaneni. Yile ncazelo yento enjengokuthi "inkosikazi" engcono kakhulu owesifazane ohlangana nendoda eshadile. Ebudlelwaneni nenkosikazi, indoda inezinzwa ezimbi kakhulu, ubulili, ukuvinjelwa kanye nokushaya okunjalo kushaya ifoni kanye nokwazi ukwenza okuthile okuvinjelwe, okusebenza nakho okuhle. Kodwa umthwalo omkhulu kangakanani ubude bomshado womyeni nenkosikazi yakhe, futhi yiyiphi indima ngayinye kulaba bantu abathathu (umfazi, umyeni, inkosikazi) abaye bawela ngaphansi kwesimo esinjalo?

Umyeni, umfazi nenkosikazi.

Noma yikuphi inkosikazi eyayingase ishade indoda ishade, inesikhalo sayo, lapho umuntu ephila "ukuphila okuphindwe kabili". Esigabeni sokuqala sobudlelwane obunjalo, yiyo inkosikazi onamandla onke. Phela, wayenesithakazelo futhi wakwazi ukuthola umuntu owake wahlala nowesifazane iminyaka eminingana emshadweni womthetho. Kodwa, naphezu kwalokhu, iningi lakhe futhi isikhathi umuntu asinika owesifazane omusha empilweni yakhe, hhayi kumkakhe. Futhi noma ngabe uchitha isikhathi nomkakhe - angacabanga ngaye. Indoda inikeza intando yakhe enkosikazi yakhe hhayi kuphela emicabangweni yakhe, kodwa nasemisebenzini yakhe. Uyamnika izipho futhi ufuna ukubona injabulo futhi ejabule. Lapha kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi, njengoba kwakungeyona into enhlekazi yenkosikazi, umfazi lokhu ukuziphatha komngane womshado akujabulisi kakhulu futhi kuletha ubuhlungu obukhulu bokuziphatha. Ngakho-ke akulungile kakhulu uma inoveli enjalo ehlangothini inesikhathi eside kakhulu. Kodwa ngokuhamba kwesikhathi wonke amaphuzu ngaphezulu kwe "I" namanje kufanele ahlele futhi uma engekho omunye wabathintekayo "othandweni lwezintandokazi" enza kanjalo, impilo izokwenza.

Kusho ukuthini ukuba "ezicathulweni" zenkosikazi ?

Isisekelo sobuhlobo obunjalo, njengomthetho, amanga nokukhohlisa, kodwa, nokho, inkosikazi ihlale isobala konke okushiwo ngenhla. Ngisho ngaphandle kokucabanga ngisho nokuthi umuntu onjalo angakhohlisi umkakhe kuphela, kodwa yena ngokwakhe. Lo wesifazane ubona kuphela uqobo, emkhaphelayo wangempela. Kodwa uma uhlulela ngokusobala, lo wesifazane uphinde abe uhlobo lwesisulu sezimo. Futhi le ndoda lapha yenza indima egoist yangempela. Ngendlela, isikhathi sobuhlobo obunjalo buvame ukulungiswa. Lokhu kufakazelwa ukuthi amaphesenti amancane kakhulu emadodeni ashiya umndeni ngenxa yenkosikazi. Ngenxa yalokho, ubudlelwane obunjalo abukwazi ukuhlala isikhathi eside kakhulu, ngoba akuwona wonke owesifazane ozokwaneliseka ngokuba "okukhethwa kukho" futhi "alinde isimo sezulu ukuba asolwandle" ngethemba lokuthi ngenxa yakhe indoda izoshiya umkayo. Ukulinda okungapheli - lokhu okuphezulu okusekelwe ebuhlotsheni nenkosikazi yakhe ...

Ikusasa lazo zonke izinhlangano ezintathu.

Yiqiniso, empilweni kukhona wonke amaphesenti amancane amadoda ashiya omkawo ngoba ama-mistress awo asekhona. Kodwa, ngenhlanhla noma usizi, lokhu kwenzeka ngokungajwayelekile. Futhi incazelo eyinhloko yalokhu yukuthi owesifazane omusha, lapho edala umndeni, umuntu ulindele ukungaqiniseki okuphelele, okungeke kushiwo ngomuntu okhubazekile, kodwa owaziwa isikhathi eside empilweni yakhe kanye nomfazi wakhe wamanje. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukuthanda uthando nenkosikazi kunika umfazi ongalungile ithuba lokuzizwa ngothando lonke "lobuhlobo obwenqatshelwe", futhi lapha njengoba bethi "kungani ukhokha ngaphezulu." Yebo, futhi eshiye umkakhe, indoda iyakwazi eduze kwesifazane omusha ukulahlekelwa yinkululeko yakhe, ayifunayo okungaphezu konyaka owodwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ubudlelwane obakhelwe ekukhohlisweni ngeke kube nokuphela okuhle. Ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, ukukopela komuntu njalo kuzomhlukumeza inkosikazi yakhe, futhi uzobuyela emndenini.

Uma umuntu esenquma isenzo esibalulekile empilweni yakhe futhi uya enkosikazi yakhe, isikhathi sobuhlobo phakathi kwabo sizophela ekufeni. Phela, bobabili, okwesikhashana, bahlala bezungezwe ukukhohlisa okuphelele, okusho ukuthi leli qiniso lizobakhombisa, okusolakala ukuthi sekukhona impilo yomndeni.

Ingabe indoda izohlala nenkosikazi noma umfazi wayo?

Ubudlelwano ohlangothini oluvame ukufika emshadweni. Futhi lokhu kufanele kukhunjulwe ngaso sonke isikhathi. Kanye nemihlangano yokufihla njalo, kanye nemfihlo, elindele ukuwa. Yiqiniso, iqiniso lokuthi indoda ethile endaweni ejulile engqondweni yakhe ibona ikusasa lakhe eceleni kwalesi wesifazane, kodwa isimo sakhe sengqondo esiqotho kumkakhe nasemkhayeni wakhe sisaphila, nakanjani asifakiwe.

Kufanelekile ukuphawula ukuthi ama-mistress avame ukulethwa yilabo madoda abazwa ukungenalutho ngaphakathi noma bamane bekhathele yi-monotony futhi bafuna ukuzama into entsha. Futhi uhamba phezulu ohlangothini futhi ugcwalisa ukungabi nalutho "nokuxhumana okunonya" okunjalo kumuntu, njengokungathi akukho lutho olubuyela emndenini ngendlela engakaze ibe khona futhi, okubaluleke kakhulu, ukuzama ukubuyisela ubuhlobo bakhe bangaphambili nomkakhe. Ngelinye igama, inkosikazi kuleso simo iyindlela enhle kakhulu yokukhipha nokuphuma kwesikhathi, kodwa, njengoba wazi, ubuhlobo obunjalo obude ngeke buhlale. Ngemuva kwalokho, okuthiwa "uthando lwama-adventures" indoda iyaqhubeka nokuphila impilo yakhe yomndeni eyithulile futhi elinganisiwe, ngisho ngaphandle kokukhumbula izikhathi zayo ezisekhohlo.

Uma kungenzeka ukuthi "ukungathembeki" akusho ngisho ukuhamba nokuphonsa inkosikazi, wayezoyixosha. Futhi isizathu esiyinhloko lapha ingcindezi evela eceleni kwakhe kumuntu, ukuze ashintshe okuthile futhi enze ukukhetha kwakhe kokugcina. Futhi amadoda, njengoba uyazi, abathandi uma ecindezelwe, noma asheshe ngesinqumo. Yingakho, indlela engcono kakhulu kuyoba "ukuphunyuka emkhunjini odilikayo" nokuphuma ngokushesha endaweni ephephile lapho esejwayele ukubona ukuthi ungubani, okungukuthi, ubuyela kumkakhe. Umfazi kuphela okwazi ukuqonda futhi amthethelele, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunzima kangakanani kuye. Njengoba bethi, ngeke nje wenze lokhu ngenxa yenhlalakahle yomndeni wakho.

Yilokho isithombe esiphezulu sobudlelwane phakathi komkami nomyeni kubukeka sengathi-nkosikazi, lapho okwesithathu, noma okunye okwesithathu, kuhlale kungenasici, futhi kulesi simo ngokuvamile kuyinkosikazi.