Izimbangela zegebe.
Uqhelile, futhi uhlala uhlambalaza ukuthi mhlawumbe, konke bekungeke kube okuhlukile kuwe. Yingakho-ke, ubeka ithemba lakho kulokho okungabuyiswa. Futhi uma (noma nonke bobabili) ninemizwa, kanjani ukuthi ningaphupha ngalokhu? Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba ucabange ukuthi kufanelekile ukubuyisana ubuhlobo bokuqala, udinga ukuqondiswa isizathu sokuthi kungani uqhekekile. Futhi izizathu ezinjalo, njengokubusa, okuningi. Futhi bangabelana ngokungenacala, okwesikhashana kulula ukukhohlwa, ukusinda, nalabo abashiya uphawu olujulile enhliziyweni, isikhathi eside sihleli kwimemori yakho. Esimweni sokuqala - uma uphula, njengokungathi uyisiphukuphuku, ungaqondani, unomona ngesizathu, noma wenza ngenxa yesibambiso esincane, manje esizisola ngaso manje. Ngalesi sizathu, ungakwazi ukulinganisa kalula, ukuwawela ngokuphelele futhi kulula ukuqala konke nge-ex yakho kusukela ekuqaleni. Kodwa kukhona futhi lezi zizathu zegebe, okungathinta kakhulu ubuhlobo bakho ngisho nangemva kokubuyisana. Yibo okubhekisela kulawo maqiniso ashiya "ukujula okujulile enhliziyweni" komunye wabalingani futhi kunzima kakhulu ukusho okuhle. Isibonelo, isoka lakho langaphambili, elifuna ukuvuselela ubuhlobo bakho, elikukhohlise ngonya (noma ngabe likhona), liphakamisa isandla sakho ngokumelene nawe, lihlazole ngokokuziphatha njalo njalo. Kungenye yalezi zizathu ezenza uthathe isinyathelo esinomthwalo wemfanelo futhi uthi cha kulesi sigaba. Kulesi simo, kubalulekile, okokuqala, ukucabanga ngekusasa lakho eduze kwalomuntu. Ngempela, akusilo iqiniso, lapho uhlangene ne-ex yakho, uzophinde uphinde uzibonele zonke lezi zinkinga ngokwakho. Khumbula ukuthi abantu abavamile ukushintsha futhi uma kunjalo, kungenzeka ukuthi lokhu kuzokwenzeka futhi. Ngelinye igama, uma ucabangela ukhetho lokuthi kungadingeki yini ubuyele kulo mfana, cabanga ngalesi senzo ngokucophelela futhi ukhumbule ukuthi yini eyabangela ukuhlukana kwakho.
Siqhathanisa amaqiniso.
Uma ungakanqume okwamanje, buyela emuva esoka lakho lesandulela noma uqhubeke ungamnaki, zama ukwenza uhlu lwazo zonke izimfanelo zakhe ezinhle nezinhle. Phela, uyazi inkulumo ethi: "Leli phepha lizohlala lihlala njalo", - kungani ungaluhloli? Thatha iphepha, ulidwebe ngamakholomu amabili: okokuqala ubhalele wonke ama-pluses (chaza ukuthi yini oyibashayela yona), futhi okwesibili - amaminithi wesoka lakho langaphambili. Bese ubeka ngaphansi komcamelo, futhi ekuseni, ekhanda elisha, funda konke lokhu. Yiqiniso, ungasho ukuthi esikhundleni sokuthi ungaphonsa imali. Kodwa ngeke ikunike lutho, ngoba liphathelene nekusasa lakho, lapho ufuna ukubona eduze kwakho indoda enikelwe futhi enothando. Ngakho-ke funda lezi zinhlanganisela kanye nezindleko bese uzenzele isiphetho esijwayelekile, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi udinga ukubuyela ebuhlotsheni bokuqala. Ngendlela, khumbula lokho owuthandana nalo muntu nokuthi uphumelele kangakanani ukufunda nokuwuthola. Khumbula ukuthi lokhu kusho okuningi futhi ngokuqinisekile kuzosiza ukunquma okufanele ukwenze.
Imigomo inqume okuningi.
Iyini igama lobuhlobo bakho langaphambili? Isonto, inyanga, izinyanga eziyisithupha? Yini engingayisho, awuzange usebenze ukuthola leso sikhathi esifushane "esiphakathi segolide" esithandwa yibo abathandi futhi "baphefumule". Noma mhlawumbe wawungenayo leyo chemistry noma nje ungenaso isikhathi saso. Kodwa kunoma yikuphi, Yebo, ungabuyela kulobu buhlobo bese uzama ukwakha futhi. Yebo, uma uhlangene ndawonye unyaka, amabili, amahlanu ... futhi wahlukana, kholwa kimi, akunakwenzeka ukuthi noma yini izoshintsha uma ujoyina. Uma ungenayo isikhathi esanele sokwakha uthando lwakho, akusizi ngalutho ukunamathela futhi, ngoba bangaphinda baphule. Futhi okwesibili lokhu kuzoba buhlungu nakakhulu.
Phila ngaphandle kokucabanga ngawe ...
Kunoma yiliphi ikomidi eligcotshwe, i-seam ihlale ibonakala, ngisho noma usebenzisa iglue ephumelelayo kakhulu ukuyifihla. Yilokho okwenzekayo ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwabantu. Hamba kabili emfuleni ofanayo, icala, empeleni, lihloniphekile futhi, njengoba likusho, selivele lifakazelwe, kodwa ingxenye yesengozi ihlala njalo. Lokhu kubalulekile ukukhumbula. Cabanga ngakho, mhlawumbe akufanele ubuyele esoka lakho langaphambili? Ngemuva kwakho konke, ukuhlala ngeso lengqondo lokuthi ungathola konke kusuka emzamweni wesibili, kumane nje udubule kude nawe ithuba lokuhlangana nalowo ongokoqobo, lapho yonke into ingavela emzamweni wokuqala. Cabanga, mhlawumbe awudingi ukubuyela esikhathini esizayo, kodwa kufanelekile ukuqala impilo entsha (ubuhlungu be-tautology) kusuka kukhasi elisha kanye nothando olusha!
Futhi iseluleko sokulungisa: ungabuyeli lapho usuvele ushiswe khona, ngoba kungenzeka kuwe futhi, bese ukushisa kuzoba buhlungu kakhulu, futhi ubuchopho bube bujulile. Uyakufanelekela okuhle kakhulu! Kufanelekile ukuthanda nokuthandwa ngaphandle kokuhlolwa, ukuphindaphinda nokuzama "inombolo yezinombolo ezimbili", okungeke kwenzeke, ingakwazi ukunikeza ukuvalwa. Phila ikusasa, hhayi okwedlulele futhi uphonsa ikhanda lakho okungenasidingo okukudonsela emuva ku-isoka lakho langaphambili kanye nobuhlobo obukade naye! Inhlanhla!