Izinzuzo kanye nokukhubazeka kokuhlala ndawonye.
Ezikhathini eziningi, ukuhlala nabazali, umndeni omncane awukhokheli izindlu, okugcina imali. Uma abazali behlala ngokuvumelana komunye nomunye futhi ubudlelwane babo buhle, khona-ke umuntu angakha ubuhlobo bawo ngokwezibonelo zabo. Ukugqugquzela ukuqiniswa kobudlelwano obuphakathi kwemindeni emibili izingxoxo ezihlangene. Ekuphathweni komndeni, zombili imindeni zisiza omunye nomunye: uma ufika ekhaya uvela emsebenzini emva kwesikhathi, ungalindela ukuba udle. Isizukulwane esincane singahlala sithola iseluleko esihlakaniphile esimweni esinzima. Lapho ingane encane ivela emndenini osemusha, usizo lwabazali luzosiza.
Kodwa kunamaphuzu amaningi amabi uma abantu abasha kufanele baphile nabazali babo. Isibonelo, abazali kaningi abamukeli ukuthi abantu abasha sebevele bekhulile. Ngokuvamile banikeza imiyalo yabo "ngendlela ehlelekile." Lokhu kuzogcina kuholele ekuxabaneni. Okungcono kakhulu, imiyalo enjalo izobe inganakwa. Kunezizathu eziningi zokwenzeka kwezingxabano. Lokhu kungase kube isimo sengqondo sokubandlulula ngomuntu ovele endlini. Uninazala ukhononda umkhwenyana wakhe, uninazala akayithandi umalokazana wakhe. Ukungazithandi kungabonakaliswa ngezindlela ezehlukene: inzondo, ukunganaki kwabazali, njll. Ukucindezeleka okuqhubekayo ezingeni lezingqondo ngokuvamile kuvame ukutholakala nemindeni emisha. Uma isimo singalungiswanga, lokhu kungalimaza ubuhlobo bashadile.
Amabhodi wezinkinga zokusebenza kwengqondo.
Cabangela ukuphazamiseka kwansuku zonke. Uma ilungu elisha lomndeni livela, kunezinkinga ezinjalo: ngubani oqala ukugeza noma indlu yangasese, ozothatha isitofu ekhishini. Futhi ukubonakala kwezinye izindawo zezicathulo ezintsha, amasokisi nezinye izinto. Kungani bengasusanga igag, njll. Kulesi simo, abazali kufanele babe nesineke nokuhlakanipha, ngaphandle kokukhuphula isimo.
Abazali bazama njalo ukunikeza iseluleko, kubonakala sengathi bayazi konke futhi banelungelo lokufundisa abantu abasha. Ngakho-ke, intsha ayiyithandi, futhi kuvela izingxabano. Iphuzu kuphela ukuthi abazali kufanele bahlakaniphe futhi bazame ukuqonda izingane zabo.
Ekuqaleni kokuhlala ndawonye, abazali bakhokhela izinsizakalo ezinye izinsizakalo, kodwa ekugcineni ziba nesithukuthezi ngokukhokhela ilungu lomndeni elisha. Ezimweni ezinjalo, ukuhlaselwa okuqhubekayo kuqala, futhi izinhlangothi zombili ziba nzima.
Futhi izingxabano zingabuka ngenxa yokungazithandi. Abanye abazali abavezi imibono yabo "evulekile", abanye abafuni ukuzivimbela imizwelo yabo futhi bakhulume kabi ngakhethiweyo noma ingane ekhethiwe. Abashadile njalo ngenxa yalokhu basengozini yengqondo futhi bayaphikisana. Ikakhulukazi "okungenaswidi" kungomuntu ophakathi kwabantu ababili abaseduze - ngakolunye uhlangothi abazali, komunye othandekayo noma othandekayo.
Ngokuvamile, lapho abantu abasha kudingeka baphile nabazali babo, akuthandi kakhulu "omusha" ngenxa yokuphazamiseka komuntu siqu. Isibonelo, uninazala akakwazi ukuhamba efulethini egumbini lokulala noma nge-curlers ekhanda lakhe. Umkhwenyana unqatshelwe ilungelo lokuhamba azungeze izindlu ezithombeni zakhe nokunye okuningi. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi kuwo wonke umndeni kukhona amasiko abo kanye nemithetho, okungekho nje ukuvumelanisa. Lokhu kubangela ukungaqondi kahle.
Izimpikiswano zingabuka lapho izivakashi ezintsha zivela endlini, uma zibuka i-TV (ngemuva kwakho konke, wonke umuntu uyayithanda izinhlelo zayo). Ungakhohlwa ukuthi zombili imindeni inezidingo zayo eziseduze. Ukuphila okuhlangene kwemindeni emibili kuletha ukuphazamiseka kwabo ekuphileni okuseduze, okungeke kuthinte ubuhlobo bobabili nabancane. Ngesinye isikhathi, kufanele uhambe ukuyothenga, vakashela abangane, ngamanye amazwi, vumela abantu abasha nabazali ukuba bangahlangani isikhashana.
Ungafunda kanjani ukuhlala nabazali bakho ngokuthula? Sebenzisa amathiphu amaningana. Zama ukufunda indlela yokuxazulula izinkinga njengoba ziphakama. Xhumana kabanzi komunye nomunye, ukhulume ngezihloko ezihlukene. Funda ukulalela ngokucophelela futhi ucabangele imibono yomunye nomunye. Kulezi zimo, bheka indlela yokuphuma ndawonye - ungasho ukuthi "lokhu kuyinkinga yakho".
Intsha kumele ifunde ukuhlonipha ukuhlakanipha kwabazali bayo. Futhi abadala kudingeka baqaphele ukuthi izingane zabo zinelungelo lokwenza izinqumo eziningi ngokwabo. Uma ukhuluma, zama ukuphakamisa izwi lakho komunye nomunye. Kanye, kufanele unqobe ukwehluleka, ufunde futhi ujabule ndawonye. Qaphela omunye nomunye, ohloniphekile nesiguli. Ungatholi amandla amabi, ngakho-ke akukho "ukuqhuma" kwemizwa. Ungazami ukuphoqa umbono wakho kwabanye. Uma usebenzise lawa macebiso, impilo yabasha nabazali izobe ihlelekile. Ungakhohlwa abantu abadala ukuthi babeselula.