Ingabe kukhona uthando phakathi kwendoda nentombazane

Uthando lumuzwa onobuqili futhi ophefumulayo obonakala kubaningi ukuthi awukho nhlobo. Ngoba ngokuvamile uthando ludideka nezinye, ngokuqinile, kodwa hhayi imizwa ejulile. Futhi mhlawumbe iqiniso, alukho uthando? Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kunjalo, umuzwa uvela kanjani phakathi kobulili obuhlukile? Nansi uthando lomama - lukhona, nolunye alukho. Esihlokweni sethu esithi "Ingabe kukhona uthando phakathi komfana nentombazane" sizozama ukuqonda: ingabe kukhona umkhawulo kulo mzwelo nokuthi ngabe ukhona yini phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, noma uthando ngokuvamile lubizwa ngokuthi ezinye imizwa?

Mhlawumbe, ukunikeza impendulo engavamile embuzweni othi "Ingabe kukhona uthando phakathi kwendoda nentombazane?" Ayikho into engenzeki. Kunoma yikuphi, akukwazi ukwamukelwa emhlabeni wonke futhi lowo wonke umuntu ozovuma ngawo wonke umuntu. Phela, abaningi bethu baqinisekisa ngokucacile ukuthi akukho uthando kuleli zwe! Noma kungani bekusho kanjalo-lowo ngumbuzo. Mhlawumbe, ngenxa yothando olwake lwaphula inhliziyo yabo.

Ukuphikisana ukuthi uthando phakathi kwendoda nentombazane engekho, mhlawumbe, iyisiphukuphuku futhi ayinalutho. Ngalokhu sivele siphumelele zonke lezozinto eziphilayo eziqhakazile kanye nemibhangqwana ejabulayo eveza imizwa yabo futhi inika uthando olujabulisayo komunye nomunye. Kuyini, uma kungenjalo uthando?

Abaphikisi balo mzwelo okhanyayo bathi uthando alukho ngendlela ehlanzekile, ukuthi njalo kunemvelaphi ethile, ake sithi, iqembu elithakazelisayo, elithintekayo Uthando lwalowo muntu ongenacala obonakalayo. Kodwa shiya lokhu mercantile: akuzona bonke abathandi badinga okuthile kusuka othandekayo babo.

Noma cha, okuncane kabi. Sonke sidinga okuthile kusuka othandekayo bethu. Futhi, okokuqala, sikhuluma ngothando, ukufudumala, ukunakekela, ukukhathazeka. Sidinga imizwa, sifisa ukuzwa. Sifuna ukuzwa ngokuphindaphindiwe umzuzu omuhle wokuthinta kokuqala nokubanga, ngokuphindaphindiwe ubheke amehlo akho owathandayo, ufune kuzo esinye isimemezelo sothando. Futhi ufuna ukubiza konke "ukuzwelana nezici zenzuzo"?

Okokuqala, uthando lubhekene nomzwelo wokuqothulwa kumuntu. Kubonakala sengathi ngaphandle kwakhe awukwazi ukudla nokuphuza, ngisho nokuphefumula kuba nzima. Uzwa isidingo esiphuthumayo sokumbona njalo ngomzuzwana, ukucacisa isandla sakhe esifudumele, ukwamukela futhi uvele ube khona, okungenani ngokubukeka kuthinta izici zakho ozithandayo. Uthi ukuboshwa kuyinto ephawulekayo yeminye imizwa eqinile - isibonelo, ngokuba ubungane. Kodwa, ubona, uma umuntu engumngane wakho oseduze, ngeke uzizwe imizwelo echazwe ngenhla. Yiqiniso, ngaphandle komngane uzoba nesithukuthezi, ufuna ukuchitha isikhathi nabangani bakho abahle. Kodwa uma othandekayo ebonakala ephila, ngisho nabangane abasondelene baya emuva.

Uthando lukukhathazeka. Lesi sifiso sokusindisa kunoma iyiphi inhlekelele, ukuhlasela, hhayi ukuvumela noma ubani akucasule. Ukunakekela kudala zonke lezo zinsuku ezinomusa nezomphefumulo, ezithandekayo ezithandwa othandweni lweqiniso. Lapha uhamba epaki yasebusika, uphefumulela iphunga elimnandi leqhwa. Futhi uyaqaphela, kodwa ngokuqhubekayo ubopha inqobe yakho yobuningi ngokuqinile, ukuze umoya ophazamisekile ungaqhubeki ezindlebeni zakho. Ubuza uma ugqoka amagilavu, futhi uma ubakhohlwa ekhaya, uzokufudumala izandla zakho yonke indlela. Uzolungisa isikhala sakho ngesineke somama, sonke isikhathi ezama ukumboza isifuba sabo esivela emakhazeni. Futhi uma ufika ekhaya, ngokushesha uyakuthumela endlini yokugezela ukuze ubheke, futhi uzozilungiselela itiye elishisayo lokushisa.

Yimuphi omunye umuzwa wokukhathazeka okunjalo ngempela? Asikhulumi ngothando lomama wengane yethu manje, ngoba ukubizwa kwegazi kanye nesimiso somama kunamandla kunabo bonke abanye imizwa, lolu thando alulokothi ludlule, awukwazi ukulikhanda enhliziyweni yakho.

Kodwa-ke, mhlawumbe, uthando lwangempela, oluye lwaba khona phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, alukwazi neze ukushiswa. Ungazama ukuyikhohlwa, ubalekele kuyo, ufihle ngemuva komunye umuntu. Ungakwazi ngisho nokutholwa kanjalo kangangokuba okwesikhashana ukhohlwa ngomuntu omthandayo iminyaka eminingi futhi ongakwazi ukukukhohlwa. Ungajabula ngisho nendoda entsha, kodwa ngezinye izikhathi, ngobusuku obumnyama, lapho isigamu esisha sesibili sizolala, ngokuthula ngamukela umcamelo, awukho-futhi ukhumbule lowo mfana, othandekayo, ongcono. Futhi ukudabuka kuzokuqeda, kuwele phezu kwakho, njengebhola leqhwa. Akunakwenzeka ukukhohlwa uthando lwangempela, futhi uma ukhohlwa lokho, kusho ukuthi kwakungeyena uthando, kodwa uthando oluqine kakhulu, olusemngceleni wothando lobugqila kanye nobubele obuzinikezele obuvela kuwe. Uthando lweqiniso awunikeli. Kodwa uma uqonda ukuthi awunayo indlela yokuphuma futhi ubuyela othandweni lwangaphambili akunakwenzeka - khona-ke udinga ukufunda ukulibona njengekhasi elijabulisayo lokuphila futhi ujabule ukuthi kwenzeka kuwe. Uma kungenjalo, uzokudla ngaphakathi, akubeke ithuba lokuvuselela injabulo yakho yesifazane.

Nakuba, mhlawumbe, akunakwenzeka ukusho ngokucacile ukuthi kungaba khona uthando olulodwa kuphela. Phela, isitatimende esinjalo sisho ukuthi sivame ukukhuluma ngothando nangesikhathi, nakuba empeleni, lapho amazwi othando ephuma ezindebeni zethu, siyaqiniseka ukuthi siyathanda. Futhi ungabambeki ngokweqile le mizwa, ethi bangamanga futhi basungulwa, ngoba uthando empilweni lunye kuphela. Mhlawumbe uthando luthanda kakhulu futhi lungasivakashela izikhathi eziningi. Ngempela, yini enye, ngaphandle kokuqina, yangempela, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu, uthando olulodwa, ingasiletha injabulo enjalo, ukunikeza isifiso esinzima sokuphila nokuthandwa?

Uma nje inhliziyo yomuntu idinga uthando, uthando luyoba khona futhi luqhakaze ngaphakathi kwethu. Ngezinye izikhathi uletha ubuhlungu, ukudumala nokucasuka. Noma, akulungile ukubiza umuzwa onjalo "uthando." Uthando luyinto elula, engenangqondo eyenza inhliziyo ihlabelele, ingabe ihlupheka. Futhi uma uletha ubuhlungu - bese ucabanga: yilolu thando? Mhlawumbe uvele ubhekene nomuntu onokumane, kepha akafuni ukuthi ube ngowakho? Kufanele ngivumele ukuzwa okunjalo okubhubhisayo kuphephe emphefumulweni wakho? Emva kwakho konke, ukhetha impilo yakho kulokho. Ubani ongasoze wawazisa imizamo yakho, ingabe usengozini yokulahlekelwa umuzwa wangempela ongeke uwubone ngenxa yobumpumputhe nokusondelana kwenhliziyo yakho?

Ukuthola uthando kuyinjabulo enkulu, ukuyigcina - ubuciko beqiniso, ukushisa nsuku zonke umsebenzi onamandla nokuqina kakhulu. Nokho, kholwa mina, uthando lufanele! Uthando lufanelekela konke ukuzidela emhlabeni, kodwa uthando lwangempela ngeke lukuphoqe ukuba wenze imihlatshelo engathí sina ngempela.