Impahla kufanele ibe mnandi
Okokuqala, udinga ukunquma ukuthi yini nokuthi uzama ukushintsha. Ukushintsha kwendawo kufanele kube mnandi kuwe. Okusho ukuthi, uma unikezwa ukuya e-dacha futhi ucabange ngezinkinga zakho, ukulima imikhakha oyizondayo, khona-ke ushintsho olunjalo esimweni alukwazi ukuba nomusa. Ngokuphambene nalokho, ukubheka ama-expanses anokucasula futhi ahlanganyele ebhizinisini elingathandwa, uzozizwa ucindezeleke ngokwengeziwe futhi uzisole ngokuthi uchitha isikhathi ezintweni ezingavamile. Ngakho-ke, uma unquma ukushintsha isimo ukuze uxazululwe zonke izinkinga ezicindezelayo, yiya esihlokweni, oye wathandana ngaso isikhathi eside, noma kulabo oye wawafisa ukuvakashela isikhathi eside, kodwa akuzange kunikezwe ithuba. Ukushintsha isimo kuzosiza kuphela kuleli cala, uma ujabule futhi ujabulisa ngempela. Ngempela, konke lokhu kuklanyelwe ukukuphazamisa ngokuphelele inkinga yokucindezela, bese usiza ukubheka amacala angaxazululwa kusuka engeni entsha.
I-inthanethi kuphela
Uma uya endaweni ethile, kufanele ukhumbule ukuthi endaweni entsha uvele uvinjelwe ukukhuluma ngento engalungile nokukhathazeka. Endabeni uma unquma ukuya ohambweni nabangani, ungawaxwayisa ukuthi ngeke akunike ithuba lokudabuka futhi uqale isihloko ngezinkinga zabo. Ungakwazi ngisho nokunikeza isigwebo sokukhulunywa ngalunye kwezici eziholele ekucindezelekeni. Abangani bakho kufanele bakhumbule ukuthi uhamba ukuze ume "ukupheka" ezindleleni zakho zomuntu siqu, ukhohlwa ngakho konke futhi uphazamise. Ngakho-ke, nabo, kufanele bacabange kancane kancane futhi baziphathe ngendlela eyenza ukwakhiwa okuhle kubo bonke abakuzungezile. Uma bebona ukuthi usulungele futhi ukuzindla futhi uqale ukukhathazeka mayelana nemicabango yakho nokungabaza, khona-ke masenze ngokushesha bazame ukunaka noma ukukhumbuze ngokuqondile ukuthi ushintsha isimo ukuze ungahlali endaweni entsha, kodwa ukuze ube kangcono. Uma uzama ukuhlupheka endaweni ethile yedwa, bazofika futhi ngokuqinisekile bayokukhipha kulo msebenzi ongadingekile.
I-Terminities
Ukuze ushintshe isimo, kuthatha okungaphezu kosuku. Iqiniso liwukuthi uma uhamba usuku olulodwa, uqala nje ukuphazamiseka, njengoba konke sekuphelile. Kulokhu kuzobe kudabukisayo nakakhulu futhi kungenzeka ukuthi isimo sakho sizobe sibi kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, uma unquma ukushintsha isimo, khona-ke kudingeka uhambe endaweni ethile okungenani ezintathu noma ezine. Ngalesi sikhathi ungakwazi ukungena, ukujwayela imvelo entsha, uzizwe ukuphumula futhi ukhohlwe ukuthi uyakhathalela. Ngendlela, ngokuqhubekayo uvela edolobheni lakho lakubo, kungcono ukuthi ube nombuso. Uma uqonda ukuthi ushiye komunye umkhawulo wezwe, futhi izinkinga zakho nezinkumbulo zakho zihlala edolobheni lakini, kube lula ukukhohlwa ngabo. Ngendlela, ibanga livumelekile ngisho nakulezo zimo lapho ukucindezeleka akubangelwa izinkinga zempahla, kodwa ngenxa yenkinga yengqondo. Indaba ukuthi izindawo zokuzalwa zigcina izinkumbulo ezithile. Futhi uma sisekude nabo, ithonya labo ekukhohliseni liyanciphisa kakhulu. Ngakho-ke, uma kunzima ukuba ujoyine nomuntu wakho othandekayo noma ulahlekelwe othandekayo, qiniseka ukuthi uyahamba ngangokunokwenzeka futhi isikhathi eside kunazo zonke. Futhi noma kunjalo, ungavumeli umuntu akukhumbuze izinkinga zakho. Endaweni entsha, okungafani kakhulu nokujwayelekile, uzoqala ukuzwa imizwelo emisha eyokwakhumbula izinkumbulo zakho zangesikhathi esidlule. Kodwa kunoma yikuphi, uma unomuzwa wokuthi awukwazi ukubheka izindawo ezijwayele ubuhlungu, kuyadingeka ukushintsha isimo. Iqiniso liwukuthi izikhumbuzo zakho eziqhubekayo ngeke zikunike ukuthula.
Indlela yokuziphatha endaweni entsha
Uma uhamba nohambo nabangani, ngakho konke kulula. Kumelwe usakaze isikhathi sakho ukuze singabe sihlala sijabule futhi sicabange. Akekho othi kudingeka uhlele futhi ungalandeli ngokuqinile. Ngokuphambene nalokho, isimiso esicacile nsuku zonke singakudabukisa nakakhulu. Mane nje udinga ukuhlala ukhona okuthile ukuze usungulwe nento okufanele uyinakekele. Siyabonga uNkulunkulu, kulula kakhulu ukwenza lokhu endaweni entsha: njalo zama ukuhamba endaweni ethile, bheka nxazonke izinto, uye ezindaweni. Ngokuvamile, sebenzisa isikhathi ukuze ngaphambi kokulala nje ungenalo amandla okhiye into yokuzibonakalisa nokuzihlupha ngezinkumbulo. Wena nabangani bakho kufanele nizame ukuchitha isikhathi esiningi ngangokunokwenzeka emoyeni omusha. Uma unethuba lokwenza imidlalo ethile esebenzayo, qiniseka ukuthi uyakwenza. Ukuzivocavoca umzimba, okujabulisa kakhulu, ukuphulukisa ngokuphelele umphefumulo wemizwelo engadingekile, imizwelo nezinkinga zengqondo. Ngakho-ke, zama ukuzilayisha, kodwa lezi zinto zimele zikujabulise.
Noma kunjalo - ungaphuzi. Okungenani ngamanani amakhulu. Khumbula ukuthi utshwala lusikhuthaza ukuba sikhumbule isikhathi eside esikhohliwe futhi sonke-hyperbolize. Uma unomuzwa wokuthi ukulinganisela kwengqondo yakho kusesimweni esiyingozi, ukunciphisa ukusetshenziswa kotshwala okungenani. Uma kungenjalo, kuzophela ngezinhlamba ezimbi nezinye izinto ezingenangqondo, okuzobe usenamahloni kamuva.
Utshwala alukwazi ukusetshenziselwa icala uma umuntu ephuma yedwa. Nakuba imikhosi ehlangene ivame ukuletha abantu ndawonye, uma unqume ukuhlangana nokuxhumana nomuntu, kungcono ukuthenga utshwala kubo, kodwa ukuzibulala. Okokuqala, ngesimo esibucayi ngaso sonke isikhathi kuyoba lula kuwe ukuhlola isimo. Ungakhohlwa ukuthi usemzini ongajwayelekile, kodwa noma yini engenzeka. Futhi okwesibili, awukwenzi lutho oluyisiphukuphuku, oyozisola ngalo futhi ngeke ukwazi ukushintsha nje isimo, kodwa futhi ube nabangane abasha abangakwazi ukukhipha ngokuphelele izinkumbulo ezimbi emphefumulweni wakho. Futhi kungenzeka ukuthi indawo oyikhethile ukushintsha isimo iyoba ikhaya lakho elisha.