Yini abantu abacabanga ngayo ngabathandi

Unkosikazi ... Kakhulu kangakanani kulo mqondo wokuphikisana, izingxabano kanye nezingxabano. Abaholi bezenkolo ababonanga lutho olungcwele kulabo besifazane, bawaphikisa ngobuhle nobuqili, babiza imbangela yokubhujiswa kwezimiso zokuziphatha kanye nesibonelo esibi sokukhuliswa kwesizukulwane esincane. Ingabe lokhu kuphazamisa ama-mistress? Kulula. Ziyilo, zikhona futhi zizobe zikhona. Ingabe ukuziphatha okuqinile kwamadoda kuyayeka? Futhi akunjalo. Iningi lazo, inkosikazi ifakwa "kubasebenzi", ngenxa yemfashini, ngokuqaphela "ukuzingela", njll. Ngamunye unesizathu saso. Yikuphi, nokuthi kungani amadoda ehlukanisa izimpilo zabo, kungcono ukubuza ngokuqondile kubo. Yini abantu abacabanga ngayo ngezingubo? Bachaza kanjani ukuhlala kwabo empilweni yabo?

Amadoda ahlambulula amanga mayelana nama-mistress

Yiqiniso, amadoda anesithakazelo, futhi umbono wabo kulokhu kuwubucayi kakhulu. Kodwa-ke, inhloso yocwaningo lwethu akusikho ukusesha iqiniso kakhulu njengomzamo wokuqonda logi lomuntu ngendlela yokuhlubuka. Yini abantu abakucabangayo ngemibono yezenhlalakahle mayelana nezindlala? Inganekwane 1: umthandi ususa ubuhlobo obwenqatshelwe. Amadoda amaningi avuma ukuthi abe ngowokuqala ukuqala imihlangano nemihlangano ejulile, ngoba, njengoba bekusho, banesithakazelo kulokhu. Uma benquma ukuhamba endleleni yokukhaphela (ngokuzenzekelayo noma ngamabomu - akubaluleki kakhulu), akunakwenzeka ukuyeka le "locomotive". Basebenzisa zonke izinhlobo zamasu, amacebo, izipho, ukunakekelwa, ukukhohlisa nokuthembisa. Inganekwane 2: indlovukazi owesifazane oziphatha okubi. Abesifazane, bathathwe amadoda abashadile, abavame ukuziphatha kabi futhi abanenhliziyo elukhuni njengendlela yokuziphatha kanye nombono womphakathi obatshela kubo. Icala ngalinye liyindaba ehlukile yomphumela wesifazane. Amadoda avuma ukuthi imibono yomphakathi ibheka ukuthi iyinhlanhla yama-naive, esetshenziselwa abesifazane abaqaphele. Kunalokho, basebenzisa ubusha babo, ubuhle futhi bazinikezele iminyaka yokuphila.

Inganekwane 3: inkosikazi ifuna ukwakha injabulo yabo ngokwabo. Kubesifazane besimanje, amadoda aqaphela isifiso esikhulu senkululeko nokuzimela, kuhlanganise. kanye nasezihlotsheni zomndeni. Akubona bonke abathandi abafisa ukubhubhisa umndeni womuntu nokwakha phezu kwamanxiwa abo injabulo yabo. Ngokuvamile, inkosikazi yanamuhla ayidingi indoda. Udinga indoda enomuzwa wokuthi uyathandwa, futhi hhayi eqhutshwa yihhashi ejokeni lomndeni womndeni. Namuhla, umshado usuphelile ukuheha. Inganekwane 4: indlovukazi - i-mercenary, i-mercantile neyengqondo. Ngisho namadoda avuma ukuthi esikhathini sethu owesifazane kulula ukwenza imali ngokwabo kunokuthola indoda ehloniphekile. Uma umuntu ecebile futhi "ezithengela" udoli omuhle, khona-ke, njengokungathi kunoma yikuphi "into" yakhe, ufuna futhi uzobe esetshala imali, ekhulise inani layo. Futhi wenza lokho esikhundleni sakhe. Kodwa namuhla amadoda amaningi, ehlehlisela amehlo abo, avume ukuthi kulezi zikhathi ezibucayi akuzona izikhulu kakhulu. Ubuhlobo ngaphandle kwemali, njengoba wazi, uthando olungenabugovu. Inganekwane 5: inkosikazi ayihlonishwa. I-World cinema, izincwadi ngisho nomlando zikhazimulisa izindlebe nje, zibazungeza i-halo ye-romance, imfihlakalo nesono esihle. Ama-Courtesans, i-hetaera, izintandokazi zishiye umkhondo ogqamile futhi zizokhunjulwa kuze kube phakade. "Othandekayo" abafazi bayabonakala njengento evamile, futhi ngenxa yokuthi "abahloniphekile" izinduna zenza izinto, zibeka ingozi emsebenzini, umndeni ngisho nokuphila.

Amadoda mayelana nezimbangela zangempela zokuphinga kwabo

Kuthiwani ngalezi zinduna, yini engekho kumakhosikazi? Iyiphi isikhalo sabo? Kubonakala sengathi uthando luyabonakala, futhi lungaboniswa ngamaphuzu amaningana:

• Umkhosi waphakade. Indoda ifinyelela kowesifazane osesimweni esingakhathazekile.
• Ukuziqhenya komuntu othembisiwe. Ngenkosikazi, indoda iyiqhawe kanye ne-knight. Ekhaya nguye wonke futhi ufanelekela konke, futhi ngenxa yalesi sihloko igama lesiqhawe alinikezwa.
• Isimo seveli. Ubudlelwane nenkosikazi abuphathisiwe ngumthwalo wokuphila, isimiso nesimiso esibuhlungu sokuphila komndeni nsuku zonke.
• Ubulili obudlova. Uthando olubiwe lunikezela kokubili ubudlelwane, kanye nobulili "isenzo" esithile kanye ne-adrenaline okwesikhathi eside engekho nomfazi osemthethweni.

Phakathi naleso sikhathi, ngokuxoxa ngokukhululekile, amadoda aphika wonke la maphuzu.

• Unkosikazi uqonda okungaphezu komfazi? Cha, noma kungenjalo njengomfazi, okungekho isidumbu esisodwa salunye usawoti esidliwa kuso, futhi usuvele ezwa yonke into ngokoqobo kusukela ekubukeni kwesigamu, ngisho noma engavumelani nalezi mbono zomyeni wakhe. Ukukhanga okulula akunawo ukuqonda, futhi izingozi azidingeki.
• Unkosikazi usemncinyane futhi uhle kunomfazi? Ngokumangazayo, ngokuvuma okuqotho, amadoda athi ukubukeka nobudala akuzona ezibalulekile futhi ngokuvamile kulahlekelwa ubulili kanye nesifazane. Futhi uma umuntu eyaziqhayisa futhi engenalutho, khona-ke inkosikazi ayiyona indaba yakhe nhlobo, kube yiNdlovukazi yobuhle. Akakwazi ukuziqhayisa umphakathi jikelele kanye nomphakathi ogunyazayo.
• Unkosikazi akafuni futhi azinqabile? Futhi akunjalo. Uhlu lwezifiso zakhe (hhayi kuphela izinto ezibonakalayo) ngokuvamile lidlula izidingo zomlingani wakho, kuhlanganise kokubili izinto, nomndeni, nendlu, nezidingo zomuntu siqu. Sekuyisikhathi eside umfazi eshiye isidingo sokwaneliseka okungenani, akazenzi njengama-fean romantic nobufakazi bansuku zonke bothando.

Ngakho iyini isizathu sangempela sokungathembeki kwamadoda? Amadoda akwazi ukuhlaziya, aqotho futhi athembeke okungenani, ngokwawo, abize ngokungafani ukuthi akukho mthwalo wemfanelo. Ngenkosikazi awukwazi ukwesaba izinkinga ezihlobene nempilo yakhe, izindlu nezindlu zezindlu, ukungabi nomthwalo wemfanelo wokukhulisa, ukuphepha nokuphila kwezingane, ukungenzi izinhlelo ngekusasa nokungazibophezeli. Kuye - iholide eqhubekayo nokuntuleka kokucindezeleka. Futhi uma kukhona okungahambi kahle, ungakwazi njalo ukuhlehlisa "ngesiNgisi" futhi ubeke enye indawo. Lowo oyobuyisa isimo sokunganaki. Umndeni - umsebenzi, inkosikazi - uphumule kuye. Ngokuvamile, indoda ayikhathaleli ukuthi ngubani inkosikazi yakhe (ubuhle, intsha, i-adrenaline - enhle, kodwa amabhonasi ozikhethela). Unesithakazelo kakhulu emizweni yakhe, okuyinto ehlangabezana nayo ngesikhathi esifanayo. Futhi uma ukudalulwa kwezenzo zakhe ezingekho emthethweni "ngakwesobunxele" kukhula, yena, njengomthetho, ngaphandle kokungabaza nokuzizeza, uzokwenza ukhetho emndenini. Ubuhlobo obunzima nenkosikazi yakhe ezinhlelweni zakhe akufakiwe. Akuyena lokhu owamholela. Unkosikazi ovela egameni elithi uthando. Futhi uthando luyisimo sengqondo, iholidi elingenakulinganiswa nezibopho.