Uma ubheka esikhathini esedlule, iminyaka engu-40-50, ungabona ukuthi cishe yonke imibhangqwana eshadile yayihlangene ukuze kuphile. Cishe kwakungekho ukuhlukanisa, futhi cishe zonke izihlobo zingashiwo ukuthi zilungile. Namuhla isimo sishintshile kakhulu. Inani lehlukaniso liye landa, cishe yonke into yesibili noma yesithathu ihlukanisa. Futhi konke kwenzeka ngenxa yokungaqondani komunye nomunye, hhayi ikhono lokulalela, indlela yokuqonda isigamu sakho sesibili.
Amantombazane amaningi afuna ukuziqhenya nokuzimela. Bathanda ukukhombisa uhlamvu lwabo, futhi akukho lutho lokufuna ukunikela kulowo madoda. Ngokusemthethweni, lamantombazane ahlala yedwa isikhathi eside, bese ebuza ukuthi ubuhlobo obuhle bungenzeka yini manje. Abakwazi ukubona ukuthi eqinisweni ukuthi ubuhlobo obuhle manje abangezanga nje kuphela ngephutha labo.
Nakuba esikhathini sethu ungabona imibhangqwana eminingi ehlala ndawonye isikhathi eside futhi ngenjabulo. Zonke zihle kakhulu futhi ziphelele. Abantu abaningi baqala ukuhawukela ubuhlobo obunjalo babangane babo. Kodwa umbono wokuqala uyakhohlisa. Ubuhlobo bokuzikhethela besikhathi eside buhle. Sibona kuphela igobolondo lalezi zinsuku. Lapha lo mbhangqwana uhamba epaki, bajabule, ubuso babo bubukeka bemomotheka, lapha bahamba bethenga ndawonye, ndawonye baya e-cafe. Kodwa asazi ukuthi yini ngaphakathi, asikwazi ukubuka ngaphakathi kugobolondo elihle. Igobolondo yangaphakathi yangempela ubuhlobo bomuntu nomuntu lapho besodwa. Futhi akuzona zonke izinto ezibushelelezi, ezinhle, njengoba abantu abaningi becabanga. Kukhona izingxabano, ukungaqondi kahle, ukuhlambalaza, ukunganeliseki ngezenzo ezithile zesigamu sesibili. Njengomthetho, konke lokhu kuhlala ezweni labo elincanyana, kanti kwabanye akubonakali.
Izenzo ezinjalo zingabizwa ngokuthi zilungile. Awudingi ukubonisa izinkinga zakho kubantu. Zonke izinkinga nokungaqondi kahle kufanele kuxazululwe emjikelezweni womndeni omncane. Ubuhlobo obunjalo bukhulu kakhulu, ngokungafani nalabo abashadile abathanda ukuxabana njalo futhi bathole ubudlelwane nabantwana, izihlobo, abajwayele noma emgwaqeni.
Ingabe manje kungenzeka ukuthi ubuhlobo obuhle bube khona esikhathini sethu. Yebo kungenzeka. Wonke umuntu ucabanga ukuthi ubuhlobo babo buzoba yiwona ohamba phambili. Ukuze ubuhlobo obuhle bukhona, kubalulekile ukuba babe othandweni. Uma uthanda umuntu, ungamthethelela ngaso sonke isikhathi amaphutha amancane kakhulu. Lapho kukhona uthando oluqotho, kukhona ukuqonda okubili, ukusizana, ukuhloniphana. Uma lezi zinxenye ezintathu zihlukana ebuhlotsheni, khona-ke kuzoba nezingxabano nezinhlamba ezincane.
Uma udinga ubudlelwane obuhle, awudingi ukuxabana ngezidumbu. Kumele uhlale uthola ukuyekethisa futhi wenze ukuvunyelwa. Uma ungathandi okuthile noma ungathandi okuthile kumuntu, ungaxoxa ngokuthula.
Yiqiniso, ubuhlobo obuhle manje buyi-rarity. Abantu bakhohliwe ukuthi bayakwazisa kanjani. Abaningi abaqondi ngisho nokuthi uthando luni nokuthi ungayithanda kanjani. Wonke umuntu uzibeka ngaphezu komunye umuntu. Bacabanga ukuthi imibono yakhe kanye nezifiso zakhe kuphela zilungile. Kodwa lokhu akunjalo. Ubudlelwano manje, ezweni lanamuhla, kungenzeka. Kungenzeka uma kwenzeka umuntu efunda ukuhlanganyela injabulo nenjabulo yakhe nomunye umuntu. Funda ukuhlonipha hhayi izithakazelo zabo kuphela, kodwa futhi nezithakazelo zezinxenye zazo. Izintshisekelo zihluke ngokuphelele kuwo wonke umuntu, ngakho kubalulekile ukubonisa isithakazelo ezenzweni zokuzilibazisa zomuntu othandekayo. Lona futhi iphuzu eliyinhloko ebuhlotsheni obuhle.