Iyini isimangaliso?
Eqinisweni, ukukholelwa esimangalisweni akusiqiniseki ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi kukhona ama-fairies, ama-unicorns nama-dragons amahle. Abantu abadala, abantu bakholelwa ngemimangaliso kancane kancane. Kunalokho, bakholelwa enhlanhleni, lapho kuhlangene nezimo ezenza kube nokuziphatha okungcono noma okubonakalayo, ushintsho olumangalisayo kumlingisi nokuziphatha kwabanye aba yisisekelo sokuthuthukisa ubudlelwane. Kuyisimangaliso sokuzijwayeza ngokuphelele abantu abavele baba yingxenye yokuphila kwethu futhi bayithonya ngokuqinisekile. Abaningi bakholelwa ukuthi izimangaliso azikwenzeka, kodwa izenzakalo eziningi zansuku zonke zingabhekwa njengesimangaliso. Umbuzo: kanjani ukuxhumana nalokhu?
Abanye, sekwephuzile emsebenzini futhi beqhamuka ebhasini, okwakufanele kudlule imizuzu eyishumi eyedlule, ngokumomotheka bekhuluma ngesimangaliso. Ngenkathi abanye, ungakhokhi lutho nhlobo, noma babiza yonke into evamile yokuhlangana kwezimo. Phela, kunezibani zomgwaqo ezingalungile, izigameko zethrafikhi, abashayela abafuna nje ukuba badonsele esikhwameni segwayi. Ngakho hlobo luni lwenkulumo esingayisho ngalo? Yiqiniso, izimangaliso zenzeka noma azenzeki kuye ngokuthi sibona kanjani, nokuthi ngabe siyibona yini. Abanye bakholelwa ngempela kwezinye izinto ezimangalisayo nezomlingo ezihlala ezweni lethu, thina nje asiziboni. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, inkolelo enjalo ingase ibonakale iyingane, i-athomu futhi ihlakaniphile kakhulu, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi kuyathakazelisa kakhulu ukuhlala phakathi kokuthile okhethekile nokuchaza zonke izimo ngosizo lwezimangaliso ezehlukene kunokuba ubheke isimo sezulu nesibaluleke kakhulu emhlabeni. Ukukhuluma ngalokho okuyisimangaliso, awudingi ukudidanisa izimangaliso zakho nokuphambuka kwengqondo. Kholelwa kokuthile futhi uyibone ngempela, izinto ezehlukene. Nakuba, mhlawumbe, abantu esibacabangela ukuthi bangaphili kahle ngokwengqondo, empeleni, babone ukuthi yini efihliwe abaningi. Kodwa ayikho indlela yokusho ukuthi kungakanani ukucabanga okunjalo kuyiqiniso.
Isimangaliso siyinto ekhethekile, into esiyilangazelela futhi kwenzeka. Esimweni sangempela somuntu omdala, izimangaliso ziba kancane kancane, kepha azilahlekelwa yizici zazo, ngoba zikhona emathonini nasezimangalisweni. Ngokuvamile, kunzima ukuphendula ngokuqondile umbuzo, yikuphi lokhu okungaqondakali kahle, ngoba umuntu ngamunye unomqondo wakhe ngaye. Ngendlela, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umuntu ukholelwa noma akakholelwa ezimangalisweni, wonke umuntu unesimangaliso sakhe, omunye umuntu uyaqiniseka Ukuthi ngeke kwenzeke. Kodwa noma kunjalo, akuyona into yokuthi sonke sifunda inganekwane ngesikhathi sethu ebuntwaneni futhi sikholelwa emasimini omlingo. Ngenxa yalokhu, ukuqonda kwethu kusenethemba lokumangaza futhi abaningi bazama ukubona empilweni yansuku zonke. Futhi-ke umbuzo uvela: kuwufanele yini?
Ingabe udinga ukukholelwa isimangaliso?
Yini eyenza sikholwe izimangaliso? Abacindezeli bathi ukukholelwa okuwukuphela kokudumazeka okuvela kulokhokholo. Kuyadingeka ukuba uthembele futhi ukholwe kuphela kuwe kanye nemibuso yangempela, ngoba izimangaliso azikwenzeki, ngakho-ke ngenxa yokholo olunjalo ubuhlungu obulodwa. Kodwa kuyiqiniso? Uma umuntu ekholelwa isimangaliso, emva kwalokho kwenzeka ngemuva kokuba kwenzeke, uzwa injabulo enkulu ngenxa yokuthi umcimbi okhethekile wenzekile kuye. Ngisho noma kungabalulekile, injabulo evela kummangaliso isamanje. Futhi njengoba i-kakisvestno, ukujabulela nokujabulela, umuntu uqinisa impilo yakhe, kokubili ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ngokukholwa isimangaliso, sibona izimangaliso kanengi, okusho ukuthi kunezizathu eziningi zokujabula.
Abadangali baciniseka ukuthi kusukela ezimangalisweni kukhona ukudumazeka okukodwa, ngoba nje abaqapheli ama-onyxes. Abaningi bacabanga ukuthi le nkolelo yenzelwa i-naivete futhi ayifanele ezweni langempela. Kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, ukuthula kwangempela kusinikeza thina? Umbono wokuthi konke okwenzekayo ngokuya kwemijikelezo ethile kanye nanoma yikuphi ukuphambuka kulo mjikelezo kungumphumela wenkinga lapho kungakaze kube khona okukhethekile nge-intanethi, kuba yinto edabukisayo futhi icindezeleke. Ngemuva kwalokho, uma ubheka izidakamizwa, ungaqonda ukuthi bangakanani abantu abazithukuthele emhlabeni wethu. Nsuku zonke bahlala njengamarobhothi, benza imisebenzi ethile. Bafuna ukushintsha okuthile, ngoba akukho nhlobo kulokhu. Abantu abanesifo sengqondo bavame ukuhamba, ngoba akunakwenzeka ukubala konke. Futhi njengoba voodachu, okuyinto futhi uhlobo oluthile lwesimangaliso, abakholelwa, ngakho-ke noma yikuphi ukuhweba okunjalo kubhekwa njengokuqala ukwehluleka. Lapho abantu bephethe izinselele zabo, ama-pessimists athi lokhu kungumgogodla wezimo futhi okwesibili ngeke kuphinde kwenzeke, ngakho-ke kungcono ukungathathi amathuba. Ukukholelwa esimangalisweni ukuba nethemba. Ngisho noma konke kukhishwe kabi, umuntu owazi ukuthi kunezimangaliso emhlabeni, akalokothi alahle izandla zakhe. Ngendlela, musa ukudibanisa isimangaliso nesenzo nobuvila. Uma abantu bengafuni neze ukwenza noma yini futhi banethemba ukuthi konke okufunayo esibhakabhakeni kuzowela esibhakabhakeni ngomqondo ongasemuva, lokhu akukhulumi ngokholo ezimangalisweni, kodwa ngokuziqhenya nokungafuni ukuzisebenzela ngokwabo. Labo abakholelwa esimangalisweni bamane nje bavume ukuthi naphezu kwesimo samanje, okubonakala kuso ukuthi akukho ndlela yokuphuma, kuzobe sekukhona uhlobo oluthile lokuhleleka futhi konke kuyoba kuhle. Okumangazayo, kwenzeka njalo. Mhlawumbe lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ukucabanga okuhle kuheha umuntu njalo. Ngakho-ke, uma sikholelwa ezimangalisweni, khona-ke sicabanga kahle.
Ngakho-ke, uma ucabanga ukuthi udinga noma awudingi ukukholelwa ezimangalisweni, khona-ke impendulo kungenzeka ibe yinto enhle. Into eyinhloko akukhona ukudlala ngothando nomhlaba wakho wefantasy futhi ungakhohlwa ukuthi ngisho nasezintabeni zezinganekwane kanye nabahlakaniphile beza kuphela kulabo abazama ukuzimela ngokuzenzekelayo empilweni yabo. Ngenxa yokholo esimangalisweni, kulula kakhulu ukuba umuntu abhekane nezinkinga zabo, ngoba uyazi ukuthi emva kwesikhathi esibucayi ngaso sonke isikhathi sekukhona ukusa, futhi into engalindelekile izokwenzeka, into enhle, into eguqula konke kube ngcono. Futhi labo abasenza sikwazi ukungabi nalutho kwemimangaliso, empeleni, abafuni nje ukubona uhlangothi oluhle lokuphila. Yebo, yebo, yilowo nalowo ipompo kunzima ukudumazeka. Kodwa uma ungakholelwa ezintweni ezinhle, khona-ke lokhu okuhle akukwazi ukuzwa kakhulu kangangokuthi impilo yakho igcwele futhi iyathandeka. Ngakho-ke, phakathi kokholo nokungakholwa ekumangalisweni, kungcono ukuthi ukhethe owokuqala, ngenxa yalokhu ukuthi uzohlala unamandla okuqhubeka futhi ungayeki nanoma yiziphi izimo.