Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ubuhle
Wonke owesifazane uyaqonda ukuthi ubuhle bangaphandle abukwazi ukuhlala phakade. Uyesaba ukulahlekelwa ukuheha kwakhe. Ngakho-ke, enye yezinkathazo eziqine kakhulu besifazane ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ubuhle babo.
Ngokungangabazeki, umuntu ngamunye ufuna ukuba, okokuqala, aziswa ngokuthula kwangaphakathi nezimfanelo ezinhle. Kodwa benzani abesifazane ukuheha abantu? Ingabe umhlaba ongaphakathi ocebile ungaba khona? Ingabe isikhalazo sangaphandle? Kwenzeke ukuthi amadoda kuqala aqaphele ukubukeka kowesifazane. Imfashini nezimonyo zenzelwe ukugcizelela ubuhle besidumbu sowesifazane, esinikezwa abantu.
Ukuze ulondoloze intsha, abesifazane abakukeli imali, kokubili ngokomzimba nangokwengqondo. Zihlala ezidlweni, zenze imisebenzi yokuhlinza, zithenge amaphilisi ahlukahlukene, zigeza, zenze imaski nokunye okuningi. Ngamanye amazwi, balungele ukwenza noma yikuphi ukuzidela ngenxa yokugcina ubuhle, futhi banqotshwa uhlobo lwonyaka.
Ubuhle bunamanani aphezulu. Isibonelo, ukulahlekelwa into ethandekayo ohlelweni lwezezimali kuyisihawu, kodwa ukulahlekelwa ubuhle bakho kuyasabeka ngempela. Into ingathengwa, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyabiza kangakanani, kodwa ubuhle buyingxenye eyodwa kuphela nangokwezinga eliphezulu.
Abesifazane besaba ukulahlekelwa ithuluzi labo elibalulekile lokuheha abantu. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi wayengadli, uzohlale ehlala ephelele. Into eyinhloko lapha ukuthi isifiso sokulahlekelwa isisindo asibe umqondo obuthakathaka.
Abanye besifazane, besaba ukuthola amanoni, baqala ukwenza umkhuba wokudla kwelanga noma bahlale ekudleni okunzima. Ngakho, kanye nesisindo esiningi, shiya amandla, impilo nempilo. Lapho ukwesaba kokuba ngcono kunamandla okufa, i-anorexia ivela.
Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ubuhle akuphephile, kodwa kungasiza. Ngakho-ke, isibonelo, ukwesaba ukuzuza isisindo nokulahlekelwa ukukhangwa kwenza amantombazane amaningi ukuba athole imishini yokuzivocavoca, okungangabazeki isisusa esihle.
Ngakho iyini ikhambi kule nkinga? Kudingekile ukuqonda ukuthi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ulwa kanjani nemvelo, kuzohlala kuthatha ngokwakho. Ubuhle beqiniso kufanele bubonwe ngaphakathi, hhayi ngaphandle. Khona-ke ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa isikhalazo sangaphandle kuzophela ukusebenza. Kubalulekile ukugcina umzimba wakho ngendlela ephathekayo futhi hhayi ukuwuqeda ngesifiso esiqhubekayo sokugcina ubuhle.
Ukwesaba kokukhulelwa
Abesifazane abaningi besaba ukukhulelwa. Ngokuyinhloko, hhayi kuhlelwe. "Ngokungazelelwe ngeke afune ukushada?" Bacabanga. Ngokushesha kubonakala ukwesaba isizungu nezinkinga ezihlobene nokubeletha.
Ukukhulelwa kulungile futhi akumelwe ukwesatshwe, naphezu kokuthi abesifazane abaningi bathanda ukwesatsana ngezindaba mayelana nokushaqeka kokubeletha. Ngokuphambene nalokho, umuntu kufanele ajabule ngokuthi imvelo yenza konke okulungile, ngoba abanye abantu abanikezwa injabulo enjalo. Kuthiwa uma umama ejabulile, amaqembu ahamba kalula, futhi izingane zizalwa zijabule. Kodwa lokhu akukholelwa yibo bonke abesifazane.
Abanye besifazane bathola inzuzo yokwesaba ukukhulelwa. Lokhu kufanele kuqondwe kanjani? Isibonelo, owesifazane angasho ukuthi uyesaba ukubeletha ukuze athole uzwela nxazonke. Lokhu kubangelwa ngokuyinhloko ezinkingeni zokuphila komuntu. I-psyche ye-femic ekhubazekile, engenakho ukusekelwa kwabantu abakuzungezile phakathi nesikhathi esinzima, ifuna izindlela ezingeziwe zokuthola lolu lwazi lozimele ngokwengqondo. Phela, zigwebe wena - ungatshela abangani bakho, izihlobo, othandekayo futhi bazozisola, bazokusekela futhi bayothulula amagama afudumele. Indoda ingakwazi ukusekela futhi ifakwe ububele. Ngendlela, amadoda ayesaba ukwesaba okwesifazane ngempela. Ngempela, konke okukuzungezile kuyingozi: okuhlangenwe nakho okuningi nokuphikisana nalokhu kukhulelwa; Imithwalo yemfanelo enkulu ikhona emahlombe omuntu; nxazonke owesifazane eqonda futhi ezisola.
Uma ukubuza umbuzo mayelana nalokho okwamanje "ukwesaba", khona-ke singakwazi ukwakha impendulo ngalendlela elandelayo: lokhu ukwesaba kuyindlela yokusebenza ejwayelekile yokusekela nokuqonda okufanayo. Kulokhu singaphetha ngokuthi ngokuvamile lapho owesifazane ekhononda ukwesaba ukukhulelwa, uvele ezwa ukungabi nalutho kwabanye. Uyazi ... Kwenzeka ukuthi ukwesaba ukukhulelwa ngaphambi kokukhulelwa kuyanyamalala ngokwakho, uma kukhona ukuthi umuntu othandekayo uyakuthanda futhi uyohlala esekela esimeni esinzima. Uma uphelelwa ukwesaba okunjalo, mhlawumbe kufanele usabe ukwesaba futhi unakekele impilo yakho siqu? Mhlawumbe kufanele siqale ukuqinisa ubuhlobo bethu nabantu abaseduze? Khona-ke ukwesaba ukukhulelwa kwe-nebudet kube nokuqonda.
Ukwesaba kokugula
Ukwesaba lesi sifo kuhlobene eduze nokwesaba ukulahlekelwa ubuhle. Kungashiwo ukuthi lokhu kungenye yezinketho zakhe. Ngokujwayelekile abesifazane abesabi ngenxa yobugovu, kodwa ngemiphumela yaso: ukuyeka ukukhangisa (okusho ukulahlekelwa ukunakwa komuntu), ukuba kungadingekile noma ngisho nokuningi - ukufa.
Uhlangana ngani negama elithi "ukwesaba"? Cishe, ngenxa yezizathu ezithile, ezimbi futhi ezingathandeki. Naphezu kwalokhu, ukwesaba ukugula kusiza ukuvikela impilo yakho. Ukwenza njalo ukuba anakekele impilo yakhe, vakashela odokotela abafanele, bahlole, bathole ulwazi oludingekayo. Emphefumulweni ukhuluphele futhi unyaka ozayo ungaphinda uphinde uphinde ucwaningo. Ukunakekela impilo, akungabazeki, kuhle. Kuba kubi lapho ukwesaba ukugula kuguqukela ukuguga futhi kuwuvimbela ukuba ungahlali ngendlela evamile.
Abesifazane ngokwemvelo banikezwa ukuthambekela kokukhathazeka okwengeziwe ngokufunda impilo. Ngokwezibalo, impilo yowesifazane inkulu kunaleyo yendoda. Amadoda njengabameleli bobulili obuqinile banomkhuba wokuhlukunyezwa, izinzwa ezizwakalayo ziyakwazi ukudala izimo ezihlukene zokulwa. Ngakho-ke banengozi enkulu yokufa ngenxa yokufa kobudlova. Abesifazane, ngokuphambene nalokho, ngokuvamile abanalo ukuthambekela okunjalo. Ziyashesha, zibuthakathaka futhi zinengqondo.
Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi ukwesaba lesi sifo kuboniswa ukuze uthole uzwela, ukusekelwa nokuheha abanye. Ubuzwa umbuzo othi "siyini isifo?" Sibuyela empendulo yombuzo othi "ukwesaba ukukhulelwa?".
Kuvela ukuthi ngokuvamile kaningi lokhu kwesaba kunomfazi onomuntu siqu ongekho ohlelweni oluhlelekile. Ngakho-ke, kubalulekile ukucubungula ubuhlobo phakathi kwabantu abathungisa futhi bahlanganyele ekwakheni impilo yakho. Khona-ke ukwesaba izifo kuyodlula.