Kusobala konke okungafani. Ngemuva kwakho konke, njengoba wazi, azikho abantu abahle. Ezinye izinkinga zingasuswa kalula, ezinye - cha. Manje sizokhuluma ngokushiyeka kwabesifazane, okubili kokubili ngempela, futhi kwakhiwa yowesifazane uqobo. Ukungaphumeleli kwabesifazane, okokuqala, qaphela ubulili obunamandla, ngoba bayakwazisa ngokugcwele noma yiliphi owesifazane othi ufuna ukuthatha indawo ethile enhliziyweni yomuntu. Ukungahleleki kungahlukaniswa ukusilela okungokwenyama, ukuziphatha nokulingana. Masikhulume ngazo zonke izinhlobo zeziphambeko zesifazane.
Ukuntuleka komzimba
Noma yikuphi, ngisho nowesifazane omuhle kunazo zonke uhlale ebuka futhi uthola ngokwawo ukwehluleka okuhlukahlukene. Izinkinga ezingaphandle zikhathaza owesifazane ngisho nangaphezu kokushiyeka komlingiswa wakhe wonke. Kodwa ubuthakathaka balo mbhalo kuselula ukulungisa noma okungenani ukufihla. Futhi umlingiswa udinga ukuguqulwa, kodwa lokhu kuyinkqubo ende.
Ukungalungi kokubonakala kwayo, owesifazane ngokuvamile usibheka isifuba esincane, amaqabunga amaningi kakhulu, impumuzo ende noma isikhunta eside. Kumuntu, konke lokhu "ukwehluleka" akubalulekile kakhulu. Kunabantu abaningi kakhulu nokuthanda okuningi. Mhlawumbe kungumuntu wakho othanda abesifazane abanesifuba esincane futhi baphakamise impumulo. Kule ndaba, kungcono ukuthola umuntu oyokuthanda futhi akuthokozise ngesimo esinjalo sokuthi kukhona i-uvass.
Enye into lapho owesifazane engamlandeli, egcwele amafutha futhi ngokuvamile ayikhohlwe indlela yokuzovotela. Owesifazane emehlweni endoda angase abe namafomu aphelele ngokuphelele, kodwa kufanele abe nesibalo esifanele. Ukungalungi kulokhu kubesilisa kuyoba "ukunganaki" okujwayelekile kwabesifazane: amafutha amaningi kakhulu okhalweni, ezandleni, ukungabi nobukhulu besisipha kanye namasentimitha angaphezulu lapho kungadingeki khona.
Izinkinga zomlingisi
Umbono wezinkinga zamantombazane uhlamvu kusukela kumbono wesilisa nowesifazane uhlukile ngokuphelele. Owesifazane angabheka ukungabi khona kwakhe okuyinhloko kokwethembeka, umusa owedlulele kulabo abangazange bafanelwe yena, umhlatshelo kanye nabanye. Amadoda athola nokunye ukuhluleka kwabesifazane: ukukhulumisana ngokweqile, ubuvila, ukungabi nalutho kwelogiki encane, izinga elincane lezamasiko, ukuxoshwa, ukukhathazeka, ukungabi nabesifazane emikhondweni nasekuziphatheni, ukuhlambalaza noma ukungaphezu kwamagama, ukuziqhenya, ukukwazi ukuziphatha ngokulinganayo, nokuningi okuningi.
Amadoda abukeka besifazane kancane kusuka engeni ehlukile. Lokho abesifazane abakubheka ukulingana okuncane - kwamadoda amakhulu futhi ngokuphambene nalokho. Kunamaphutha anjalo, afana namadoda amaningi, awathinte. Phakathi kwabo singabamba igama:
- Isisindo esiningi. Amadoda amaningi angamakhosikazi namantombazane "emzimbeni", naphezu kokugxila kokusakazwa kwabezindaba kukhona olunye uhlobo lwabesifazane. Yiqiniso, asikhulumi ngesisindo esiphelele, ukuntuleka kwezemidlalo empilweni yowesifazane kanye nemisipha evulekile. Lokhu akukhanga kunoma ubani.
- Izinsikazi ezincane ze-islabosti. Lezi "ukwehluleka" nazo zifana namadoda amaningi, uma, eqinisweni, angawudluli imingcele enengqondo. Noma yikuphi ubuthakathaka besifazane bunikeza indoda ukuzizwa eyiqhawe langempela - liqinile futhi lizethemba, futhi lizozibonakalisa.
- Ubuvila obuncane. Uma lona wesifazane esesifazana ngokugcwele, ngakho-ke, lokhu akuvumelekile. Kodwa ubuvila obuncane bunendawo okumele ibe khona, ngoba owesifazane ohlala ngezimpelasonto uhlanganyela ekuhlanzeni, ukupheka, ukuthenga - lokhu kuyisijeziso sangempela samadoda.
- Ukubonakaliswa kwamafengqangi angcolile ngokobulili. Abesifazane abaningi bacabanga ukuthi kunzima kakhulu ukukhombisa isifiso sobulili, ukuthi indoda ayikwazi ukuqonda lokhu nokuthi ukukhululwa ngokobulili kuyiphutha. Kodwa empeleni, amadoda amaningi afana nawo lapho owesifazane wakhe ekhombisa ukulala nokulala. Kubo - lesi isipho sangempela.
- Ukuba khona kwesisu esincane. Abaningi abesifazane bazama ukukhipha ngisho nento encane yesisu, kodwa kubonisa ize. Amadoda amaningi anjengezinsikazi ezincane zamantombazane, abathandani abesifazane abathandekayo. Ngaphezu kwalokho, ukutholakala kwesisu esinjalo kungokwemvelo, futhi konke okusemvelo, akukwazi ukuthi kube kubi noma ku-gaudy.
Izimo zabafazi
Ngokuvamile amadoda, ekhetha kakade umfazi owesifazane oyedwa noma omunye futhi avumelana nokukhubazeka kwabesifazane, namanje athola ukuthi yikuphi, nakuba kubonakala sengathi kuyinto encane, kodwa kungaphazamisa ubuhlobo bomndeni. Ukuhluleka okuncane kwamakhosikazi kungathiwa okulandelayo:
- umkhuba wokuzikhumbuza njalo noma ukulawula umuntu ngezingcingo (okukhumbuza labo abafuna nje ukunakekelwa okungaphezulu, kodwa ngokuvamile balawulwa abesifazane abanojwayele ukugcina izandla zabo phezu kwe-pulse);
- izingxoxo zocingo ezindala nezintombi, odade, umama (futhi akunandaba ukuthi ngalezi zinsuku owesifazane angakwazi ukubuyisela ekhaya izindaba);
- imihlangano ende nabangani, ikakhulukazi ebusuku nabangane abangashadile;
- umkhuba wokudubula umyeni wakhe nokumenza amanothi ahlukene nabangaphandle (lokhu kuhlazisa kunoma yimuphi umuntu);
- isifiso sokuthatha umyeni wakhe naye ekuthengeni, kodwa kunalokho amenze alinde;
- hhayi ukucabangela umbono womyeni wakhe ngalokhu noma kulokhu kukhishwa, futhi futhi ukuba angalaleli iseluleko sakhe esiwusizo, efakazela ngaleyo ndlela ukuthi nguye olungile futhi uzoba ngendlela ayifunayo;
- ukuzwela kakhulu nokuzizwa, ikakhulukazi ezintweni ezincane nakubantu, isibonelo, ngenxa yezipikili eziphukile;
- ukwehluleka ukukhuluma ngokuqondile ngalokho owesifazane angathanda, ukusizwa njalo akuthandi amadoda kakhulu futhi kungenye yezinkinga ezingathandwa kakhulu.
Ngokuvamile, owesifazane owamukele isimo sesimo kufanele azame ukuzibuka kumyeni wakhe, ngamehlo akhe bese owesifazane eyokwazi ukusho ukuthi yiziphi amaphutha akhe. Uhlala kuphela ukuze uziqede.
Izici zengqondo
Kuwesifazane, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuzinakekela, ukucacisa amandla akho kanye nobubuthakathaka bakho. Into eyinhloko ukuhlanganyela lokho owesifazane ngokwakhe okubheka njengokungathi kuyingozi, nokuthi ubheka indoda engathandeki.
Yenza ukuhlolwa okulula. Buza amadoda akho ajwayelekile (abashadile nabangashadile ngokuqhathanisa) ukuze bacabange ukuthi kufanele ukukutshela ngalokho okubukeka kubo njengokungavumelani kumlingiswa wakho nokubukeka. Kungathiwa ukuthi imibono yakho izohlakazeka. Isibonelo, owesifazane ucabanga ukuthi kuhle kakhulu uma esebenza, ukuthuthuka esiteji sezinga, uthola umholo omuhle futhi anganikela yena, kodwa kubantu abaningi lokhu ukuzimela kwezimali kuyisinyathelo sokuqala sokucindezela u-ego wakhe wesilisa. Kuyinto nje ukumphika kwakhe, njengendoda enamandla nomuntu oqinile. Ngakho-ke kungaba nakho konke okunye "ukwehluleka", ngoba lokho okubheka njengento enhle kungathandwa ngokuphelele ngumuntu. Futhi ngokuphambene nalokho. Isibonelo, owesifazane uyaqiniseka ukuthi unomama okhulile okhungayo ukubukeka kwakhe, uyabesaba, ucabanga ngokufihla ngokuhlinzwa kwepulasitiki, kodwa yile mphala eyenza ukuthi iyini. Le mphala ithandwa kakhulu ngendoda.
Kubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi akufanele kube khona izithiyo, ikakhulukazi ngesimo sokungaphumeleli. Uma kunjalo, kufanele sizame ukuqeda, ngoba uma owesifazane elwa nezinkinga zakhe (ikakhulukazi lezo ezikhona futhi ezimvimbela ukuba angahlali, noma), khona-ke umyeni wakhe uzokwazi ukuguqula ukuze kube ngcono.