Umfanekiso wesifazane ozimele oqinile ezweni lanamuhla

Kamuva nje isithombe sesifazane ozimele ozimele ezweni lanamuhla langempela! Kodwa-ke, kuyamangalisa kakhulu ukuthi ube ozimele kakhulu, kukho konke okusemandleni akho ukuzinqumela wena nakho konke okwenziwe? Okulandelayo kuzokusiza ukuthi uqonde ukuthi yini eholela ekulawuleni ngokuphelele impilo yakho.

Umfanekiso wesifazane oqinile

Ungumuntu onenjongo kakhulu, ugcwele ubungqabavu namandla. Ungakwazi ukuveza ngentshiseko izifiso zakho nezinhloso zakho, awuthandi ukwenza ngendlela ejikelezayo, njalo ukhetha umgwaqo oqondile. Kubalulekile ukuba uzizwe futhi ubone ukuthi impilo yakho ingaphansi kokulawula kwakho. Ukwesaba okukhulu kuwe ukwesaba ukubonisa ubuthakathaka nokuthembela komunye umuntu. Ngakho-ke, ngokuzithandela uthatha umthwalo wempilo yakho, kanye nempilo yabanye.

Ebudlelwaneni obuseduze, nawe uthatha isikhundla esingathandeki: konke noma lutho. Ngakho-ke, ukuba intombi yakho kunzima kakhulu, ngoba kufanele uhlangabezane nezinga eliphezulu kakhulu. Futhi akuwona wonke umuntu ongasondelana nawe.

Ebudlelwaneni namadoda kungokwemvelo ukuthi uthathe umthwalo wemfanelo futhi uholele nawe. Ngakho-ke, ngokuvamile kusukela ezinsukwini zokuqala zokuthandana uba umholi ebuhlotsheni. Uhlela imihlangano, uhlele ukuzijabulisa futhi uqondise izifiso zakho. Futhi ukukhanga kuwe kukhona amadoda anamandla akwazi ukwakha izimpilo zawo. Phela, awufuni neze ukuhlanganisa impilo yakho nomuntu olahlekile nobuthakathaka.

Zikhona izitha ezungeze?

Kuphi isidingo esinjalo sokuhola, ukubeka abanye intando yabo nokulawula abantu? Kungenzeka ukuthi abazali bakudumisa ngempumelelo ethile kanye nokubonakaliswa kwezimfanelo zomuntu eziqinile. Futhi ngakho-ke awukwazi ukukwazi ukungabi namandla. Ngemuva kwakho konke, uma ubonise ukuhlukunyezwa kwakho nokungavikeleki, khona-ke udumo lwabazali ngeke lube kuwe, kodwa komunye umuntu. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi abazali bakuqhathanise nezinye izingane. "Kungani umngani wakho efundela" okuhle kakhulu, "nawe ...?", "Bheka umfowenu uhlanganyela ema-Olympiads wezibalo, futhi unezintathu". Futhi uma unodade osemusha noma umfowenu, owathethelelwe lokho ongazange akushoyo, njengoba ungumdala, khona-ke inkolelo yokuthi izwe alungile futhi lidingekile ukulwa nendawo ngaphansi kwelanga selihlezi kuwe. Futhi udinga ukufakazela ubuqotho bakho futhi ulwe nobulungiswa. Futhi yikuphi okuwutholile umsebenzi onjalo, kubalulekile ukuvikela. Futhi ukuvikela insimu yakho, ukuvikela amalungelo akho, ujwayele ukuhlola noma yikuphi umuntu njengesitha esishaya impahla yakho. Ngakho wena ngokwakho uvikelekile ezinkingeni ngomfanekiso wesifazane ozimele oqinile.

Khumbula inganekwane "I-Queen Queen"? UGerda omncane waqala uhambo lapho iNdlovukazi yeqhwa ithatha umfowabo uKai. Le ntombazane yayingesabi yizinkinga ezazihlangana endleleni yakhe. Futhi, naphezu kokuthi wayenzima kakhulu, akazange abonise igramu eyodwa yokungabaza nokwesaba. Ukuthembeka kwakhe nothando lwakhe kwasiza ukuncibilikisa iqhwa ekhanda lomfowabo ...

Ukuphila akuyona inganekwane ...

Kodwa impilo ihlukile emlandweni wezinganekwane, ukuthi kulokho okungajwayelekile ukuthi umuntu uhambele ngokuzimela kwakho nensimu yakho, kulokho okungokwakho. Futhi izenzo zeqhawe ziyadingeka ezimweni zasempi, hhayi ezweni lanamuhla nokuphila okunokuthula. Kodwa uqhubeka udala idrama empilweni yakho, silwela lokho osekukhona okwamanje, futhi ungaboni ukuthi ngenxa yomzabalazo empini, ubuhlobo, ubuqotho, ukusondelana nazo zonke izinto oqale ngazo kulo mpi. Emva kwakho konke, akukho iNdlovukazi yeqhwa empilweni, kodwa kukhona okungokoqobo, ethandwa nguwe ozwa ukucindezeleka, ukulawula, ukusola nokungazethembi. Futhi kungani kufanele ahlale efakazela kuwe ukuthi uyakuthanda, uma enani, hhayi omunye? Kungani kufanele afinyelele izindinganiso zakho, landela izimiso zakho ngesikhathi lapho efuna ukusondelana nawe nokungaqondile. Kodwa ungamshiyi ithuba lokubonisa imizwa nemizwelo yabo, ukungabaza kwabo nokwesaba kwabo, awubamukeli futhi ubalahle njengengamukeleki futhi engadingekile, ucabange lezi zibonakaliso njengobonakaliso obuthakathaka. Futhi uma ekushiya, ucasulwa: "Yini enye ayengenayo?". Kodwa noma yimuphi umuntu usafuna ukuzizwa edingekayo, ebalulekile futhi enenjongo. Futhi ufuna ukuzithanda wena. Bambalwa abantu abathanda ukulwa nomfazi wabo othandekayo, njengombuso, bafuna ukufezekisa ukuqonda nokwamukelwa. Futhi umuntu obuthakathaka kuphela uzoshintshisa inkululeko yakhe yokusekela izinto ezibonakalayo.

Ngakho-ke kuvela ukuthi uma utshalwa ngokwengeziwe ebuhlotsheni bamandla, ukwethusa ngokwengeziwe ukuthi uzolahlekelwa lobu buhlobo futhi uqinisile futhi uqiniswe ngokwengeziwe uba ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ukulawula phezu kwesimo. Ngaphansi kwamandla alokhu kwesaba, ukwandisa ukulawula futhi uhlangabezane nokuphikiswa okungaphezu komuntu othandekayo. Ukuzwa lokhu kuphendula, uyabona ukuthi ukukhaphela nokuqinisa ukulawula. Futhi lokhu kwenzeka uma nje umlingani wakho ekulungele ukulwa nawe. Futhi lapho ekugcineni ekhathele ukulwa, uzokushiya yedwa kanye nemimoya yomoya eyakhiwe yilokho okucabangayo. U-Asam uzohamba efuna uthando esikhundleni sempi.

Lokho amadoda adonsela owesifazane oqinile

Ufuna ukuhlangana nomuntu ozobukeka njengowe: oqinile, onamandla nesibindi. Futhi ekugcineni uhlangana naye. Kodwa, ngeshwa, ngeke abekezelele ukulawula kwangaphandle. Futhi uma ungena ebuhlotsheni bokuncintisana naye, cishe akunakwenzeka ukuthi uzofuna ukuqhubeka nobuhlobo obunjalo emshadweni ovumelekile futhi aphendule indlu yakhe empini.

Kwesinye isenzakalo, ungadonsela "okwakhiwe" okujwayelekile. Ngeke aphikisele ebukhosini bakho obungenasisekelo, kodwa uzolahlekelwa yonke imithwalo yemfanelo yobuhlobo, ikusasa ngisho nokuphila kwakho emahlombe akho. Uzokuvumela ukuba uqaphe isinyathelo ngasinye, uthathe zonke izinqumo, futhi zonke iziphambeko zakho akusoze zibeke icala. "Angitholanga umsebenzi omuhle, ngoba wena ..." - uthi, elele embhedeni futhi ephuza ubhiya. Futhi konke ukuphila kwakhe kuzodingeka "ukuhudula" naye kanye naye, mhlawumbe ngisho naye. Kodwa udinga i-ballast?

Imithetho yokusinda ezweni lanamuhla

Lawula owodwa. Zama ukuqonda ukuthi kungani uthatha umthwalo wakho konke okwenzekayo okuzungezile, ngisho noma ungakhathazeki ngokuqondile. Uma wazi ukwenza kangcono, akudingeki ukwenze. Khumbula lokhu!

Rule ezimbili. Zama ukubheka umhlaba kancane kancane. Konke okusemhlabeni kuxhunyanisiwe, konke kulinganiselwe, futhi kukhona, ngaphandle kwakho, eminye imishini yonke "yokulawula". Lona amandla emhlabeni wonke. Kubalulekile ukuthi uqaphele ukuthi konke okukwenzeka emhlabeni sekuvele "kuhlelwe" ngokuhleleka kwemvelo. Futhi akudingeki ushintshe noma yini.

Umbuso wesithathu. Zama ukulahla impilo yomunye umuntu. Yimuphi umehluko okwenzela wona, yisiphi isinqumo isithandwa sakho esizothathayo? Lona okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe. Hlonipha indoda yakho.

Rule ezine. Isimiso sokuthi "ukuphila ngumzabalazo" kuvame ukungahambi kahle. Konke okudingayo, kuzofika kuwe. Futhi akudingeki njalo ukulwa. Ukuphelelwa yisikhathi kulungile, kuhlaziya wonke umuntu ngalokho okukuyo. Uma omunye umuntu ecela indoda yakho, mhlawumbe lokhu akuyona inketho yakho. Ngoba indoda yakho izakuba yakho kuphela. Futhi uma wenza iphutha bese uqala ukunqoba lokho okudingayo, khona-ke uzolahlekelwa yikho. Phela, akekho okwazi ukuhamba ngezindlela ezimbili. Futhi, ngokukhetha eyodwa, evame indlela engafanele, silahlekelwa yibo bonke abanye.

Ukubusa kwesihlanu. Zama ukwakha ukwethemba kwabanye abantu, kokubili ngokuthembeka, nangokwethembeka. Abekho abakhohlisi abaningi "abaqeqeshiwe" emhlabeni. Yiqiniso, mhlawumbe umngane wakho akazange agcwalise isiphi isithembiso esinikezwe. Kodwa akufanele ubhale phansi njengesitha kamuva.

Isimiso sesithupha. Nweba umbono wakho wezwe, futhi uzoqonda ukuthi awunawo amathoni amnyama namhlophe, futhi abantu abahluleli baba namandla futhi babuthakathaka. Futhi kwenzeka ukuthi amandla owesifazane alala ngokuqondile ebuthakathakeni bakhe. Ngakho ungafihli ngemuva kwesithombe somfazi ozimele ozimele ezweni lanamuhla futhi unganqikazi ukucela usizo ezimweni ezinzima kuwe. Lokhu kuzokunika ithuba lokubona isimo sakho ngamehlo wabanye abantu.