Naphezu kokuba ingane ngayinye iphendula ngendlela yakhe yokuhlukanisa ngokwezinga lakhe, singakwazi ukuthola ezinye zezinkinga eziyinhloko.
Izingane zingacabanga ukuthi abazali bazo abasazithandi, ukuthi yiziphi iphutha kulokho konke lokhu. Bazikhuthazela ukuthi benze okuthile okungalungile, bafuna amaphutha abo, umzuzu lapho bengenza iphutha. Ngaphambi kokuhlukanisa, izingane ezinjalo zingamazama ukubuyisana nabazali bazo, ziyabanakekela, zizama ukusiza. Abaqotho ikakhulukazi baboniswa uthando, uthando, bafuna ukujabulisa abazali babo futhi bajabulise. Kodwa izingane eziningi eziyimfihlo zizogcina imizwelo ngaphakathi, okubi nakakhulu empilweni yabo. Ngemuva kokuhlukanisa, izingane zizwa ubuhlungu obukhulu nokudabuka, ukuzivikela, ukungazinaki, ukuphelelwa yithemba nokungakholwa.
Kuzoba yisiphi iseluleko sengqondo sezengqondo: abazali bahlukanisile futhi intsha ihoxise? Zama ukulungisa yonke imiphumela emibi yengxabano yengane, ukunciphisa izinga lokucindezeleka, qiniseka ukuthi impilo yengane ayishintshi kakhulu, futhi imnike ithuba lokuxhumana nabazali bobabili.
Ukuvalwa ngokwayo, ngendlela eyakhe, indlela yokuvikelwa ingane ebonisa ukuthi "ukufihla" ezinkingeni ezitholile kuye. Ingane ifihla ezweni langempela, ngoba lingenakulinganisela, hhayi njengoba yayingaphambi kokuhlukana kwabazali. Ngemuva kwalokho, base behlangene, bemthanda, ndawonye banqoba zonke izinkinga futhi bamnika konke ayekufunayo. Umndeni wawuphelele, abantu abathandekayo kuye kusukela ekuzaleni bebonke ndawonye, eduze kwakhe futhi bathandana. Futhi manje, ngemva kokushada, umndeni wehlile futhi ingane ingabalulekile kakhulu - omunye wabazali, umhlaba uhlukaniswa, futhi umqondo wokuthi abazali bangenakubekezelelana omunye nomunye, uyabesaba, kubangela intukuthelo kumuntu onecala ngesehlukaniso, uma kunjalo, ngenxa yalokho konke "le ncithakalo".
Lapho ingane ivala ngaphakathi kwayo, ifihla ebubini obubuhlungu obuzungezile, idala izwe elingcono ngaphakathi kwayo, lingathembeli noma ubani kusuka "kwelinye izwe", liba lingavumelani, cishe alibonakali imizwelo yakhe. Uhlala nezinkumbulo, izinkolelo eziphambili ze-pink. Konke lokhu kubangelwa ukuhlukumezeka kwengqondo nokucindezeleka. Ukubaluleka kwayo kuxhomeke ebuhlotsheni babazali komunye nomunye ngemva kokuhlukanisa, izimbangela zayo nendlela abaphatha ngayo ingane.
Ukuze usize ingane yakho ukuba iphinde iphile futhi, futhi ukunciphisa ukucindezeleka ngemva kwesahlukaniso, udinga ukumsiza ukuba aqonde isimo. Chaza ingane ukuthi abazali bakhe bayamthanda kakhulu, futhi bahlala ebuhlotsheni obuhle nomunye. Ukuthi umzali oshiya uzokwazi ukubona ingane, amvakashele, futhi okubaluleke kakhulu - sebenzisa isikhathi naye, futhi, njengangaphambili, umthande kakhulu futhi umnakekele.
Umsebenzi oyinhloko kuyoba ukukhombisa ingane ukuthi izinkinga empilweni yakhe ziyoba ngangokunokwenzeka. Uma ungafuni ukulimaza ingane - ungamenzeli amahlazo nokuxabana nomyeni wakho, ungazivumeli ukhulume ngethoni ephakeme futhi ephakanyisiwe, noma ngabe ufuna ngokuzumayo. Khombisa ukuthi uphathwa ngokuthula njengokuhlukana, futhi kumyeni wakho, nokuthi akukho lutho olubi kulokhu, eqinisweni, cha.
Zama ukuhlela ukuze umzali, okwamanje angahlali nengane, wambona njalo ngangokunokwenzeka. Isazi sokusebenza kwengqondo sinxusa ukukhetha ngezikhathi ezithile izindawo ezinjalo zokuhamba, lapho uvakashele khona ngaphambili, ukuze unciphise igebe esikhathini esidlule, ukunciphisa umehluko ngesikhathi sokuchitha nengane ngemuva kwesahlukaniso.
Futhi, tshela ingane ukuthi ukuhlukaniswa kwabazali akuyona iphutha lakhe, njengalabo abazali. Uma kwenzeka ukuthi iphutha lithinta omunye wabazali, ingane ingadlulisela intukuthelo yakhe kuye, iqale ukumzonda futhi ivaliwe kuphela ngokuqondene naye. Ngokuya ngobulili besicala, ingane ingadlulisela intukuthelo yakhe kubo bonke abanye abamele ubulili, esikhathini eside, banenkinga yokuxhumana nabo.
Uma abazali behlukanisile, izingane zingakwazi ukuhoxiswa ngokwabo ngenxa yokulahlekelwa ukholo othandweni, ubuhlobo, umndeni, umshado, ukwethembeka nobuqotho. Ba nomuzwa wokuthi yiyo yonke indlela imishado ephela ngayo, nokuthi lokhu kuyisikhathi esilindele kuzo esikhathini esizayo. Ukholo luyaqhubeka, futhi ubandlululo luvela. Isehlukaniso sabazali singabonakaliswa nokungazi lutho, ngakho-ke kuyinhlanhla, kodwa iningi lemishado yabantwana abazali babo abahlukanisile bahlukana.
Uma ingane yakho isalokhu ivalwe ngokwayo ngemva kokushada komshado wabazali, isazi sezengqondo sineluleka ukusiza, sakha amathuba okuba nobungane nokuxhumana. Khuthaza ingane ngendlela efanele, uhlele amaqembu, imfundise ukukhulumisana okulungile, ikhono lokwenza abangane. Uma ingane ifuna ukuba yedwa - ungamcindezeli ukuba akhulume, mnike lokho akufunayo. Uma engakuhlakulelani ubuhlobo nabangane bakhe, khuluma naye ngezinkinga zakhe, unikeze iseluleko esihle, simvuselele.
Futhi okubaluleke nakakhulu: emva kokuhlukanisa, mnike ingane kakhulu ukunakekela nokuthanda. Khulumisana naye, ukhulume ngezihloko ezihlukahlukene, unike ama-caresses, uthole isikhathi kuye, ngoba ngenxa yokungazinaki izingane zingase zihoxiswe ngokwengeziwe, ziphinde zenze ukuzethemba okungalungile, noma kube khona ingozi ukuthi izovela naye eminyakeni yobudala ekhulile.
Ukubhubhisa ukwesaba kwakhe okuvelele ngenxa yesehlukaniso, cela ukuthi angathanda ukuthini, udale imihlangano nezihlobo nabantwana, induduzo kanye nendawo yokuxhumana - lokhu kuzomsiza ukuba aqede ukuhlukaniswa. Lesi iseluleko esiyinhloko sososayensi wezengqondo emkhakheni we "abazali abahlukanisile - futhi intsha isuke yithinteka." Into esemqoka, ungasheshi futhi ungafaki ingcindezi kumntanakho, umnike ithuba lokuzikhethela nothando, ngoba lokhu kuyinto esemqoka ayidingayo.