Abanye babo bebelokhu befunda iminyaka emihlanu kusukela ebuntwaneni, kodwa baye bazuza kancane ekuphileni kwabo. Ezinye izinkanyezi ezisuka esibhakabhakeni azibambi, kodwa zikhulile - iya kubaholi. Kungani ukuqala okuqakathekile ekukhuleni akusikho njalo kuholela empumelelweni ekukhuleni?
UMNIKELI WEZIKHOKELO ZABAKRISTU
Isifiso sokwenza konke okuphilayo kuvame ukuzalwa kaningi ekuqaleni kokukhula. Lokhu kungenye yezinto ezibonakalayo zobungqingili beselula. Umfana ofanelekayo noma intombazane ehlakaniphile uyakhula, wonke umuntu uyamdumisa, uyamhlonipha, futhi kancane kancane uyaqala ukuzibonga. Ufuna ukwenza konke okungcono kunabo bonke abanye - noma cha nhlobo.
Ngakho umuntu uba yisiboshwa sabanye abantu abalindele. Wonke umuntu ulindele ukuphumelela kuye, futhi uzama konke okusemandleni akhe, akakwazi ukukwazi ukuphumelela.
Kodwa empilweni, kukhona ukwehluleka. Awujabulisi, kodwa akusizathu sokungena ekucindezelekeni, ukuphula. Noma kunjalo, lokhu kungenzeka kubantu abane-syndrome yomfundi ohloniphekile abangenayo isipiliyoni sokulahlekelwa, ukulahlekelwa nokunqotshwa.
Umfundi onjalo ohloniphekile ekuphileni komuntu omdala uqaphe futhi akasengozini ukuthatha umthwalo womholi: uthanda ukuba ngumsizi kumholi, isazi, umhlaziyi. Akakwazi ukwenza izinqumo ezimweni zokunqongophala nokweqile kolwazi noma ukuphazamiseka kwayo: umfundi omuhle kakhulu kufanele ahlaziye konke, acabange nge ...
Umfundi ohloniphekile akakwazi ukuhamba ngaphezu kwemikhawulo yemfanelo yakhe, ngoba wesaba ukuxazulula le nkinga ngokungalungile. Yena, njenge-tram, uhamba ngendlela evulekile futhi akanakuzimela ngokuzimela ngandlela-thile.
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Enye into indoda emithathu: uyazi kusukela ebuntwaneni ukuthi yimuphi inhlanhla. Yebo, kaningi wayengenakukwazi ukuxazulula inkinga, kodwa wafunda ukuphuma, ukunciphisa okwesikhashana isimo sakhe, ukubhekana nokuhlazeka futhi ajabulele ukunqoba. Lokhu kwamenza wazinza nezimo ezinengqondo.
I-Troychnik, engazi i-ford, ibamba ngesibindi emanzini, ayesabi ukuya endaweni lapho kungekho muntu khona, ayiqapheli ukuhamba ngaphezu kwemikhawulo yomuntu siqu, ngoba akasoze asole ukuthi ukungazi kahle kangakanani. Umuntu onesifo esihle kakhulu somuntu uveza imiphumela yesinyathelo ngasinye futhi, engazi indlela yokuxazulula le nkinga, akasithathi isinqumo sakhe.
Njengenganekwane u-Ivanushka, indoda engaphambili eneminyaka eyisishiyagalolunye isibindi ngesinye isibindi igxuma e-cauldron ebilisayo - futhi iwina, futhi ngokuvamile umfundi ohloniphekile akayingozi - futhi akaphuzi i-champagne.
Umfundi ohloniphekile uyesaba ukungena ebhizinisini elisha, ngoba kuzodingeka okungenani okwesikhashana abe yindlalifa, futhi lokhu akukhathazeki kakhulu kuye. UTroitschniku akesabi ukubonakala ephaphathekile, akanandaba nokuthi bacabangani ngaye; yena uyazimela emphakathini.
Nazi izici ezintathu eziyinhloko ezingenza umuntu abe yimpumelelo: ukuzimela kwangaphakathi emibonweni yabanye, ukuguquguquka nokuba khona komgomo.
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Ngabe umfundi ohloniphekayo angashintsha yini esitokisini esithuthela endleleni eqhutshiwe, engena emotweni enamandla yonke engenazo zebuksuet kunoma yimuphi umgwaqo? Mhlawumbe, nakuba ngeke kube lula. Kodwa unomsizi - ikhanda lakhe elikhanyayo, ingqondo yakhe.
• Into yokuqala umfundi okufanele ayenze ukukwenza ukuhlukanisa futhi azibheke ngaphandle, ukukhuluma naye. Ukuze wenze lokhu, kuyasiza kakhulu ukugcina idayari. Emva kokufunda amarekhodi akho amadala, ukubuyela emuva, zama ukuqonda ukuthi ungubani nokuthi yini ofuna ukuyenza. Ngokwengqondo, inqola enjalo evela kuwe iyabizwa ngokuthi ukubukeka.
• Ukhetho oluthe xaxa lokubuka izithombe ezindala. Yilokho engangikhona ngaphambili, ngingathandi lokhu. Ngangikufunani, ngiphupha ngani? Kungani kungangisebenzanga kimi?
• Indlela yesibili inkhulumomphendvulwano nomuntu mayelana nawe. Kungcono uma i-interlocutor engumqondo wezengqondo.
Zama ukucabanga ndawonye ukuthi kungani ungakwazi ukuzibona wena.
• Indlela yesithathu ukuzibuza imibuzo esemqoka: yini engalungile empilweni yami; yini engivimbela ukwenza into engazange ngiyenze? Futhi ekugcineni, ngifuna ukuzenzela ini empilweni yami?
Yiqiniso, uma uqala ukucabanga ngezinto ezinjalo, kunezizathu eziningi ezingahle zokuzidonsa ngaphandle kwempambu. Kodwa uma uqaphela ukuthi ukwesaba ukwehluleka kungaholela kuphi, khona-ke kuyoba namandla okuphumelela.