Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi ingane yokuqala ayinaso isikhathi sokukhula, futhi abazali bayothola ukuthi maduze uzoba nodade noma umfowabo. Lezi zindaba zivame ukwethusa umbhangqwana osemusha, ukholelwa ukuthi kusencane kakhulu ukuqala ingane yesibili. Kodwa ake nginikeze ama-pluses ambalwa emifushane yobudala. Izingane ezinemibono emincane yobudala ziyakuthanda kakhulu ukudlala, zinezinhloso eziningi ezivamile. Ngomama ngokushesha uma omncane ekhula kancane, kuyoba nesikhathi esengeziwe samahhala. Izinto kuqala zizodlula ukuzalwa kuze kube sesibili futhi ngeke kube nombuzo, lapho ukubeka khona isikhala, isithuthi, lapho ingane yokuqala isivele isivele ikhulile. Umama akudingeki abuyele emsebenzini, bese ehamba ngekhefu lokubeletha futhi, njengoba besho, ngesikhathi esifanayo. Ngokufanayo, ngokuyinhloko, asisho nje kuphela ngezingane, isimo sezulu, kodwa futhi nangabantwana abanomthelela weminyaka engu-2-3.
Umehluko eneminyaka engama- 6-7 futhi unenzuzo. Umntwana osekhulile usuvele waya esikoleni futhi akadingi ukunakekelwa okuningi njengoba ngaphambili, futhi umama unesikhathi esiningi sokufundisa omncane. Ingane yokuqala ingasiza umama ngezindlela eziningi, nje ungaphenduli ingane endala ibe yinanny! Uma kungenjalo, uzovusa umuzwa womhawu ngomncane. Ungamphoqeleli ukuba enze lokho angafuni, ikakhulukazi njengoba unqume ukuba nomunye ingane ngokwakho.
Iminyaka eyi-16-18 ibeletha ingane yesibili inhle kulabo abangekho "umama" osemncane, lapho owokuqala ezalwa eneminyaka engama-40. Kulesi simo, umntwana osekhulile usuvele esekhulile, kodwa umama, emva kweminyaka eminingi kangaka, umama, njengesihlandlo sokuqala. Kodwa umntwana omdala uzoba nomndeni wakhe kanye nomntanakhe futhi omncane uzoba nomngani omahle.
Kunoma yikuphi, uma kufaneleka ukuqala ingane yesibili, kungcono kuwe! Izingane zihlale zijabula! Futhi uma ucabanga ngalombuzo, hamba! Yeka umehluko okwenzayo ukuthi kungakanani okuzoba ngowokuqala lapho ingane yesibili izalwa! Futhi-ke, ngokujwayelekile, ukunquma ukubeletha enye ingane, ikakhulukazi ezikhathini zethu ezinzima - lesi sinqumo esinesibindi futhi wonke umndeni kufanele uziqhenye ngawo!