Uma kungumbuzo womsebenzi, bazokhuluma ngesifiso sokuthi "bethande umusa", uma ngabe ngothando, bayothi "uhambe (noma uya) ngemali". Kodwa ingabe kubi kakhulu futhi kuyinqaba, eqinisweni?
Imvelo yabeka owesifazane kakhulu kunomuntu, futhi lokhu akumangazi, ngoba kuxhomeke kulo wesifazane kuxhomeke kakhulu ekusindeni kohlobo lwezinhlobo zomzimba. Owesifazane ukhulisa izingane, unakekela umyeni wakhe, unikeza ikhaya elihle. Akumangalisi ukuthi kokubili ukuvuthwa nokubunjwa kobuntu emantombazaneni kwenzeka ngaphambi "kwesigamu esiphezulu somuntu".
Izinkinga zokuqonda kanye nokuqonda phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane, abanomthelela omkhulu weminyaka, baqale, ngeshwa, hhayi ezingeni lomzimba, kodwa ezingeni lezimemezelo nemigomo yabantu.
Akukho lutho olubi ngeqiniso lokuthi indodana ethandekayo yaqala ukuphola intombazane emdala kunayo iminyaka eminingana, uhlakaniphile, unolwazi oluningi futhi naye uzoba nethuba elingaphansi lokuthola ukubuyiswa okungalindelekile emndenini. Kodwa, khumbulani, umbukeka kanjani ngokungavumi? Uqinisekile ukuthi uzingela "isisulu esincane", othile utshele lokho? Cha, kodwa kungani-ke lokhu konke ukuziphatha nokuhlambalaza? Uphi isiqinisekiso sokuthi uzojabula nesikhathi esiphila kuso?
Okungabekezelelanga kakhulu isimo sengqondo kumbhangqwana lapho owesifazane engaphansi kunomuntu. Intukuthelo ehloniphekile yokuqaphela umphakathi izombamba ekuzingeleni ifa, futhi yena - ekuphishekeleni umzimba omncane. Futhi, umthwalo wokubandlulula uzophazamisa isimo sangempela sezinto. Amantombazane amancane ngezinye izikhathi ayesaba ukuqala ubudlelwane nabangane babo - abakhululekile, abanengqondo futhi abanolwazi ezindabeni zansuku zonke. Indoda endala ingayifaka emaphutheni amaningi, uyazethemba futhi akayithandanga ukushintsha umthwalo wemfanelo kumngane wakhe.
Ezindabeni zobuhlobo bobulili, ukubaluleka okubaluleke kakhulu kunakho konke, ngakho-ke, ukuthi abalingani bahlobana kanjani, ukuthi bangakanani ukwabelana nomuntu othandekayo okuhlangenwe nakho kwakhe, izintshisekelo zakhe kanye nombono wokubheka. Amafreyimu omdala lapha awabalulekile. Yebo, uma umehluko eminyakeni yobudala engaphezulu kweminyaka engama-20 noma engu-30, akucaci ngokuphelele kusukela ekubukeni komndeni nokuzalwa kwezingane, kodwa ngakolunye uhlangothi, uma uneminyaka engama-50, futhi uneminyaka engu-69 kanti umehluko cishe iminyaka engu-20, yini ebenza bangabi khona Ndawonye? Izingane zihlelwe kahle, ukuphila kuye kwahlala ngesithunzi, kodwa akukho inhlanhla - omunye wabashade wafa, futhi kuyini ukuhlala yedwa, ugxile "emphakathini"?
Inhlangano ivame ukuthambekela ekulahleni izenzo zabanye abantu ngoba nje ixoshwa emgqeni ovamile, iphula inkambo evamile, eyakhayo. Kuphela ngaleyo ndlela kukhohliwe ngokuphelele ukuthi umuntu ngamunye ngumuntu onemiqondo yakhe, izindinganiso kanye nendlela yakhe kulokhu kuphila. Abazali abalahla intombazane yendodana yakhe ngoba beneminyaka engamahlanu ubudala kunaye abakucabangi ngemizwa yakhe, ukuthi kungenzeka ukuthi lena yithuba elingeke liphinde liphinde lilungele, ngezinye izikhathi libhubhise konke, ngoba " abantu bazocabanga ... "