Ukuthenga okuhlangene.
Thola uhambo lokuthenga ngendoda yakho. Ukuthengwa kwezinto kuphela kuzodingeka kuhlehliselwe esinye isikhathi. Namuhla umlingisi oyinhloko uyindoda. Into esemqoka akuyona ukubeka umbono wakho. Mcebise ukuthi ahlole ukuthi ucabanga ukuthi uzokwenzani. Ungabeki i-skimp ekusizeni. Mtshele ukuthi akanakulinganiswa futhi ubonakala njengendoda yangempela yebhizinisi. Kubalulekile ukuthi ezintweni ezintsha, lo muntu wayekhululekile. Ngakho-ke, ikhabethe lakhe lizoguqulwa kancane kancane. Uzokhipha ngesikhathi esisodwa kusuka "kumabhulu okuthandayo okuthandayo" ngeke kuvele. Ukubekezela kanye nokubekezela.
Izingxoxo zikaFrank.
Ungazama ukuba nenkulumo eqondile nevulekile nomuntu. Vele ugweme amazwi abukhali. Khuluma ngokushelela futhi ngobumnene ukuze i-interlocutor yakho ithathe ulwazi, kepha hhayi ukuzikhukhumeza njenge-turkey futhi engayeki ukukhuluma.
Izindlela ezilandelayo zingasebenza kahle.
Hlalani ndawonye esibukweni, bese uvumela indoda ukuthi ibone ukuthi ibukeka kanjani ngokuhleka esitokisini nasemasinini, eceleni kwesifazane ogqoke kahle. Mtshele ukuthi ngaleli fomu ngokuqinisekile uzodonsela abantu, futhi bayomkhomba ngomunwe bese behleka ngemuva kwakhe.
Amahlaya amaningi! Memeze ngamahhashi akhe asekudala, ayelokhu ehamba iminyaka eminingi, athi, unenhlanhla kakhulu yokuthi unomuntu ongenakukhathazeka, futhi ungasebenzisa imali ukuthenga izinto ezintsha wena ngokwakho, futhi uzophatha i-sweater endala ne-shabby jeans.
Mbonise ukuthi ubheka kanjani ngaphandle. Gqoka njengaye, ungakwazi ukukopisha indlela yakhe yokuthatha, ingxoxo, ukuze kube nokwehluleka okukhulu. Nginesiqiniseko sokuthi uhlobo lwakho ngeke lubangele umuntu ngaphandle kokuhleka. Mchaze ukuthi kuwe ovela enhlotsheni yakhe akuyona into ehlekisayo kakhulu, kepha kunokudabukisayo.
Izipho.
Mnike izinto ezintsha ezinhle futhi ezithakazelisayo yena angasoze azithenga. Uma lokhu kuyisipho, ngakho-ke ukuze angakucasuli, kuzodingeka ukuthi agqoke le nto. Ukuncoma okuvela kubangane bakhe kanye nabasebenza naye kuzomenza acabange, athenge izinto ezimbalwa ngesitayela esifanayo.
Indoda yakho inganika izipho kubangani, abazali, izihlobo ezingenalo ukunambitheka okwanele. Ngaphandle kwalokho, ungagxeki isipho. Ngale ndlela ungamlimaza ngokumthuka ngemizwa emihle kakhulu. Kwanele ukukhipha into emisha ekhoneni elikude lekhamera noma uliyise e-dacha.
Izibonelo ozolandela.
Ngakuwe ungathola isiqu sezibonelo zezingubo ngokunambitha. Uma ubukela i-TV, qaphela abalingisi, abaholayo, abamemezeli, abagqoke kahle. Tshela indoda yakho ukuthi "ihembe elifanayo elihlaza okwesibhakabhaka liyobukeka lihle kuye." Emagazini omangalisayo agcwele izithombe ezinamadoda adumile abembethe kahle. Futhi ezitaladini zomuzi wakho, ngokuqinisekile, kunezibonelo eziningi ezifanelekayo okufanele zilandele. Ukuhamba epaki, gxilisa indoda yakho ekubukeni kwabadlula. Menze afunde ukunquma ukuthi yini enhle izingubo nezingubo ezingekho.
Ukuqeqeshwa okunjalo kuzoba nethonya elihle ekubukeni kwakho, ngoba, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, indoda yakho izoqala ukuphawula ngezingubo zabesifazane, ngakho-ke into esemqoka ukulalela ngokucophelela, futhi uzothola ukuthi yini indoda yakho eyithandayo ezembatho zabesifazane.
Ukuze ususe izinto zakudala, kodwa "izinto ezinjalo" zabantu, kufanele uhlanganise nomcabango wakho. Gwema izicathulo zakhe ezindala nge-sauce yezinhlanzi bese uthi abagezi, bahlanza ishidi lakhe elidala ngezingxenye eziningana, basize inja yakho "iqede" izicathulo ezindala. Ukuqeda ikhabethe elidala kungaba yindlela yokwelapha yangempela kuwe. Izinto ezintsha ezembathweni zendoda yakho zizomsiza ukuba azethembe ngokwengeziwe futhi aqaphele ukukhathazeka kwakho ngaye.