Abangane bayingxenye enkulu yokuphila komuntu wonke njengomndeni nothando. Kodwa uma othandekayo enenzondo kubo bonke abangane bakho, ukuthi ungenzani kanjani esimweni esinjalo futhi yini okungenzeka yayiyisizathu sobudlelwane obunjalo?
Isitha yisitha
Okokuqala, kufanelekile ukucabangela lesi simo, lapho ukuziphatha komfana wakho kungumphumela wezingqinamba ezinengqondo nokuhlaziywa kwezenzakalo. Okusho ukuthi, uma ukhuluma ngokumane, ubona futhi uyaqonda ukuthi inkampani yakho imbi kakhulu kuwe noma ukuziphatha ngendlela engcono kakhulu. Isibonelo, mhlawumbe izintombi zakho azidibi ubuhlobo obuseduze nabaningi, futhi abangane bavame ukuphuza utshwala, bese kuthi kukhona okubi nakakhulu. Uma kunjalo, isenzo seseka lakho siqondakala kahle futhi sinengqondo. Ufuna ukukuvikela ethonyeni labantu ababi. Mhlawumbe wena ngokwakho awunazi ngalokhu, kodwa inkampani yakho ikudonsa phansi. Uma kunjalo, ungacasuli le nsizwa bese uzama ukumelana naye. Kungcono ukuhlaziya ngokuzimela ukuziphatha kwabangane bakho, kanye nobuhlobo babo nabanye abantu. Nje ungazami ukufakazela inkampani yakho. Bheka iqiniso emehlweni akho. Khona-ke uzokwazi ukuqonda ukuthi ungubani ngempela nokuthi kungani isoka lakho liphikisana nobudlelwane obunjalo. Cishe, wena ngokwakho uzoba eceleni kwakhe bese uhamba kancane kancane enkampanini embi.
Umhawu
Kodwa-ke, akuzona njalo amadoda aziphatha ngokufanayo ngaphandle kwezinhloso ezinhle. Kunezimo eziningi lapho lo mbhangqwana uxabana namantombazane nabangani bawo bese uwabeka ngokumelene nenkampani kuphela ngezinhloso ze-mercenary. Isizathu esivamile kakhulu salokhu kuziphatha ngumhawu. Indoda ayifuni ukwabelana nabathandekayo bakhe nabanye abantu. EVparnih ubona intombi yakhe engase ibe khona, futhi abangane bakhe bahlale bebiza izinkukhu ezingenalwazi ezingamfundisi lutho. Ngesikhathi esifanayo onnikak akakwazi ukuphikisa iphuzu lakhe, kodwa uyaqhubeka ukuphikelela ukuthi intombazane akufanele ukuxhumana nabantu abanjalo. Empeleni, amantombazane afana nalawa angabanikazi. Besaba ukuyeka nokuvumela abantu bacabange ngobuchopho babo, baxoxe nabanye futhi baveze imibono yabo. Amadoda anjalo ayinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, kodwa awakwazi. Banoba nomhawu ngazo zonke izinsika, ngoba ekujuleni, bazibona bengakufanelekile le ntombazane futhi besaba ukuthi uzohamba. Indoda enjalo ihlale ikhathazekile ngokuthi abangane bayo bayothi izinto ezimbi ngaye, bakhombise ukungaphumeleli kwakhe, wesabe ukuthi abanye abantu abazungezile le ntombazane bayoba ngcono. Ukuqondiswa kuphela ngomhawu, abantu abasha bahlale bekhuluma ngabangane bentombazane enemiphumela emibi, nakuba beseceleni kokucabanga ukuthi banengqondo kakhulu, behle, abanethalente njalonjalo.
Ukwesaba ukulahlekelwa ukulawulwa
Ukungathandi kakhulu kwabangane kubonakala phakathi kwezidakamizwa ezicindezelayo. Lesi sigaba sabantu sifuna ukuqapha konke. Kubo, owesifazane uyimpahla yangasese, engenalo ilungelo lokuveza umbono wakhe futhi enze ngendlela ayithanda ngayo. Umfana we-despot uhlale eqiniseka ukuthi wenza into efanele futhi intombazane izokwenza izinto ezifanele ngaphansi kokulawula kwakhe. Kodwa uma ekhuluma nabangane bakhe, khona-ke laba bantu bayomshayela endleleni yeqiniso, noma ngabe bayomisa okuhlukile. Ngendlela, imicabango yakhe iyilungile, njengoba inkampani, ukubona indlela umngane wayo ehlupheka ngayo ezandleni zomuntu ongekho emthethweni, ngokuqinisekile uzama ngandlela-thile amkhanyise futhi asindise ekuphileni okunjalo. Kodwa i-skoreevsego evela kubangani ngeke isebenze, ngoba abadedengu bayazi ukuthi "bafunde kanjani" ngokuphelele. Bayothola ukuthi kumngane ngamunye yiziphi izinkinga ezingenakwenzeka kanye ne-takumelo kuyokwenziwa, ukuthi intombazane izoqala ukubonakala, njengokungathi ikhuluma nabantu abanobubi. Izidumbu azivumeli ukuthi izisulu zabo zibe nabantu abaseduze. Uma ungafuni ukushintsha imibono yabangane, bavele baqale ukwesabisa bese beyishaya intombazane, uma nje engaxhumani nenkampani yakhe. Ngokuba abadeleli, akukho lutho oluyinqaba noma olwesabekayo kulokho abakwenzayo. Abantu abanjalo bahlale beqiniseka ngesidingo sokulawula, okuqhubeka behola phezu kwesisulu. Insizwa ingakwazi ukuthola ngokucophelela kubangani bayo isigamu izinhlangothi ezimbi bese imtshela nsuku zonke ngakho. Ohlakaniphileyo futhi ohlakaniphileyo, unzima kakhulu ukubona ukuthi ubeka isisulu sakhe ngokumelene nabangani bakhe.
Belayavarona enkampanini
Esinye isizathu esenza isoka lakho lingathandi abangane livinjelwe kakhulu - wayengamamukeli emphakathini wakhe. Uzizwa sengathi uthanda abangane abangenangqondo, unomuzwa wokuthi "uyisimanga esimhlophe" futhi lokhu kumcasula. Ngakho-ke, insizwa iqala ukugxeka konke kubangane bakho. Akathandi amahlaya abo, isitayela sabo sokugqoka, ukuziphatha kwabo. Noma yini oyitshela abangani bakho, le ndoda iyathukuthela ukuthi iyisiphukuphuku, iyisiwula, ayiyona into ehlekisa futhi engalungile. Empeleni, ulaka nje, futhi mhlawumbe ngisho nomhawu ngawe, ngoba wamukelwa, kodwa akekho. Imizwa enjalo ivela kulezo zimo lapho isoka lakho linabangane abambalwa, futhi uningi, iningi lawo madoda. Le ndoda ayinaki ukulahla umphakathi wesifazane ngokungathí sina, ngoba usenayo intombi. Ngaphezu kwalokho, abesifazane bazama ukuziphatha ngokwethembeka futhi bangabonisi ubuhlobo babo bangempela, ukuze bangacasuli intombi. Futhi la madoda angase ahlekise futhi adlale ngokuphambene nalokho, futhi aveze umbono wabo ngokuziphatha kwendodana yakho eyomcasula .
Uma ubona ukuthi isimo siphuthuka ngokuqondile, kufanele nje ukhulume nesoka lakho nabangane. Chaza ukuthi bakucasula ngokuziphatha okunjalo. Ngakho-ke, umuntu ngandlela-thile kufanele athole ukubuyisana kanye nezithakazelo ezivamile, ngoba awuzimisele ukudela omunye noma omunye. Akekho owenza ukuba uhlanganyele futhi ufunge ubungane obungunaphakade. Kodwa ngeke kube buhlungu ukubonisa ngisho nokuqonda okuncane nokubekezela umngane. Ngempela, empeleni, abangani bakho noma isoka lakho alibi kakhulu. Bayaba bantu abahluke kakhulu futhi wena, njengomuntu owazi wonke umuntu ngokugcwele, kuzomele uzame ukuveza into ngokwakho ukusiza abafana baqede ukulwa.