Iningi lababameli besifazane bayaqiniseka ukuthi amadoda ebudlelwaneni bobulili anesidingo esikhulu. Lo mbono uyiphutha. Izifiso zomuntu wonke zikhethekile. Uma uyibheka kusukela ekubukeni kwengqondo, khona-ke imibono yamadoda kule ndaba ixhomeke, ngokwengxenye, ngesigaba sabo sonyaka. Futhi-ke, izidingo zesilisa zobulili zishintsha kanjani eminyakeni ehlukene?
Iminyaka engu-20-30 - ukuphakama kobulili
Lesi sikhathi singabizwa ngokuthi sivivinyo sesikhathi kanye nephutha. Kule minyaka, ukushintsha abalingani bobulili, bathola ulwazi, okwandisa ukuzethemba nokuzihlonipha komuntu ngamunye. Kubantu balesi sizukulwane, ukulangazelela ama-knights nokungaziwa yisici. Okulandelayo okulandela isiphetho ukuthi ukuze baziqaphele futhi bazikhiphe inzalo, indawo ekhethekile kufanele inikezwe ngokungabi nanolwazi. Mayelana nobulili, lapha, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuqala. Lokhu kuhlanganisa, isibonelo, imidlalo yokudlala indima nakho konke okuhlobene nabo.
Futhi kubaluleke kakhulu ukudlulisela umlingani wakho, ukumhlonipha kwakho. Vosphischenie ukuziphatha kwakhe, izenzo, ukubukeka, isibalo, izingubo, njll.
30-40- isikhathi sokukhetha
Kule nkathi yokuphila, ubudlelwane bobulili bungaphezulu kokungabalulekile. Kulesi sigaba sonyaka, indoda iqala ukuzindla ngalokho okubaluleke kakhulu empilweni yakhe, ukuhlola imigomo nezidingo. Ngakho-ke, okokuqala, akusekho ukubukeka, kepha ikhono lokuqonda.
Ngakho-ke, kungaphetha ngokuthi izingubo aziseyisihluthulelo sokuheha. Into ebaluleke kakhulu umphefumulo, ingqondo, ikhono lokukhuluma nokulalela, ukuba ube interlocutor omuhle. Ngakho-ke, ekuhlotsheni nomuntu onjalo oneminyaka yobudala, kubaluleke kakhulu ukuba umngane. Yamukele njengoba kunjalo. Kulesi sikhathi ummeleli wesibindi oqinele usuvele uzikhethele lokho okulindelwe emvelweni, futhi uyazi ukuthi ungowesifazane onjani.
Into esemqoka ukuqonda ukuthi igama likulindeni, nokuthi ngabe ungakwazi yini ukuhlangabezana nezidingo nokulindela. Akulula kakhulu ukudlala indima yomunye umuntu.
Ngokuphathelene nokuphila ngokocansi, kule nkathi sekuchazwe kakade, kunezidingo nezifiso eziqinisiwe. Ngakho-ke, asikho isidingo sokusungula noma yini entsha lapha. Kuyadingeka nje ukuthola ukuthi umuntu othandekayo unambitha kangakanani, kunjengokuthi akunjalo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kuyabonakala yini noma izingubo zokuqala, nansi konke okunye. Ngakho-ke, ukuze ubuhlobo bube namandla, kubalulekile ukuthola izihluthulelo kumuntu kuzo zonke izinhlelo.
Endala kunama-45
Lesi yisikhathi lapho ukukhangwa kocansi kuqala ukunyamalala. Ngakho-ke, ukuze ubuhlobo obuseduze, kubalulekile ukudala isimo esithile. Sebenzisa isikhathi nendawo ukuze ube yedwa, uzizwe umngane, ubambe isimo sengqondo esifanele. Futhi, ukuze i-polovikhotnosheny ephumelelayo idinga ukugcina indlela yokuphila enempilo, ngoba kule minyaka yobudala, ukushisa kuthinta amakhaza. Ngakho-ke, owesifazane kufanele akhuthaze isidingo samadoda ngendlela yokuphila enempilo. Ubuhlobo bobulili kufanele buqhutshwe ngendlela ehlukile futhi engaguquguquki. Lokhu kungenxa yokuthi ukuphumula okude kuyamlutha kulokho okumele kube okufanayo. Futhi ukuvuselela ubudlelwane balo mkhuba ngezinye izikhathi kuyinkimbinkimbi kakhulu, ngakho-ke kungcono ukungavumeli lokhu.
Kulesi sikhathi asikho uthando oludlulile, ngakho-ke kuyadingeka ukushintsha izinto ezincane, okubheka njengokuqala okungabalulekile kakhulu. Kungaba ukubukeka okubuhlungu, ukububula, ukumbamba, konke kuxhomeke emcabangweni wakho. Vele udinga ukwengeza uhlobo lwe "zest" ukuze uvuse umqondo wokuzwa.
Kuyafaneleka futhi ukuphawula ukuthi umuntu oneminyaka engama-45 uzwa ukuthi ukulangazelela ubudlelwane bakhe obusondelene naye akufani. Abaningi ohlelweni lokusebenza kwengqondo balungele lokhu, okungathinta izenzo, ukuziphatha, izifiso. Lapha ungakwazi ukubuyela ekuqaleni. Ngokufanayo, eneminyaka engu-20-30 ngokuphathelene nendoda. Kubaluleke kakhulu ukuhlonipha isimo sakhe, ukubukeka, amandla akhe kanye nokuziphatha ngokobulili. Khuthaza zonke izinhlobo zezifiso zesigamu sakho futhi ungakhohlwa ukuletha okuthile okusha.
Kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi iminyaka engama-45 eminyaka yokuphila ayipheli, kodwa ngokuphambene nalokho, lesi yisikhathi lapho amathuba amasha avula phambi kwakho, ithuba lokuqala ukuhlala kabusha. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi yizihambeli, ukuhamba, ukuvakasha. Ungazama into entsha, into ezoletha imizwelo emihle kumuntu wakho nomuntu wakho. Ungaziphiki lokhu. Khona-ke ubuhlobo bakho ngeke buphele, kodwa ngonyaka ngamunye uzoqina kuphela.