Ingabe kufanele uhambisane nesoka ngaphansi kophahla olulodwa? Futhi lokhu kuzothinta kanjani ubuhlobo bakho obuseduze? Futhi hhayi nje obuseduze kuphela? Lo mbuzo ukhathazeka ngabesifazane abaningi banamuhla. Phela, uhlelo olujwayelekile: umshado - ukuphila okuhlangene sekuvele kubhekwe njengento esekelwe abaningi bethu. Futhi kuthiwani uma "singahambisani nabalingiswa"? Yingakho abantu abaningi bakhetha ukuhambisa kusengaphambili. Yini elandelayo? Indlela yokuziphatha ngendlela efanele ukuze ungabeki impilo ibe yindlu yempi? Uyomangala, kepha kunemithetho emihlanu kuphela eyisisekelo yokuhlala ndawonye. Kulula. Uthembekile.
1. Uma ungamazi igama lakhe, thatha isikhathi sakho. Isibonelo esihle: ukuzama ukuhlalisana kwaqala ngokuhle. Abangane bawazisa emadolobheni, emkhosini we-jazz, futhi bavele bafinyelelana ngaso leso sikhathi. Ngemva kwesonto, wavuma uthando lwakhe, futhi ngemva kwenyanga wathuthela kuye. Ubusuku bokuqala endaweni yokuhlala evamile eqhubeka kanje: imizuzu eyisishiyagalolunye yokudla kanye nethelevishini, bese kuba amahora amathathu wesini esabekayo. Konke kwakunzima kakhulu, kuhle kakhulu. Kodwa ngemva kwezinyanga ezine wasinda, wabeka udoti wakhe esikhwameni esisodwa sezemidlalo. Yini abayichithayo? Okude ukuluhlu. Izinyathelo eziyinkulungwane nezodwa ezimbi zalokho okwenzeka nsuku zonke nangehora.
Wayengakwazi ukubekezelela. Futhi naye, naye. Wacasulwa - futhi wayenjalo. Uma engase akhombise ukuthi wayezinikezele kuye, njengeLabrador, wayengamthethelela umkhuba wokutshontsha umhlane wakhe ngemfoloko yokudla. Futhi uma ehlakaniphile nesifiso sokwazi ukuthi igama likababa wakhe lingubani, kungenzeka ukuthi wayengeke akhulume kakhulu ngenxa yokuthi akaze avalile umnyango wangasese. Ungalokothi. Ngokuvamile, indaba evamile yokuthi impilo ibulawe kanjani konke. Ngakho sicela uqaphele ngalokhu. Zama ukuhlola ngokujulile "ohlala naye" omusha. Funda kabanzi ngakho, kusengaphambili, cabanga ngalokho ongathanda ukumthethelela. Ukuncintisana kuyadingeka. Ngaphandle kwabo, ukuhlala ndawonye akuyona ndawo. Qhubeka nomthetho olandelayo.
2. Gcina ibanga - isibambiso semicabango emisha. Ezweni kukhona okunye okuhlukile kulo mthetho wegolide. Isibonelo: UDima wayehlala ndawonye nentombi yakhe u-Olya iminyaka emibili yonke, futhi bajabule kakhulu ukuthi abakwazi ukubhekwa ngaphandle kwezinyembezi zemizwelo. U-Dima usemisa izinsuku zakhe ngamanye amahloni, futhi usamshiya ngamanothi othando, ngezinye izikhathi edlala kakhulu, ezindaweni ezingalindelekile. Futhi konke kuyamangalisa kakhulu, ukuthi ngezinye izikhathi ngifuna nje ukubuza: ungakwenza kanjani okuthile?
Ngokuvamile, kusasaziwa ukuthi kuzophela kanjani. Ngokuvamile kunalokho, abantu basondliwa "njalo", njengetiye elimnandi kakhulu. Ukudelela ebuhlotsheni kudingekile. Ukushiya isikhala semicabango, izifiso eziyimfihlakalo, ukufisa okungenangqondo. Uma konke kusengaphambili kuhle, usuku nosuku - luzokhathala ngokushesha noma kamuva. Ikakhulukazi uma abantu abasha behlala ndawonye. Noma kunjalo, uNkulunkulu makwenqabe ngamunye wethu ukuba angene esigabeni sezinto ezinjalo ...
3. Ukulwa nokuzimela kwakho. Kungani? Ngoba ungabantu ababili abahluke ngokuphelele. Ungalokothi ukhohlwe lokhu! Isibonelo esihle: uDean noKolya benza konke ndawonye. Njalo futhi yonke indawo. Futhi ngokuzumayo ngehora elilodwa "elihle" ebuhlotsheni babo njengamanzi aqhuma. Kwakukhona ukuthi ngamunye wabo wayevele ebekezelela, elalela enye. Kodwa uthando lwawina, futhi bangathola isisombululo esivamile. Manje sebeze badle ngokwehlukana. Lapho efika ekhaya, uDean uncike kuma-apula, futhi uKolya, ngamazwi akhe, udla "into ebhakabhile." "Ebusuku, ngidla ekuseni futhi ngidle ukudla, futhi udle isikhathi eside futhi uthanda amafutha futhi aneziphunga," kusho uDina. "Sidla sodwa, yilo kuphela i-dessert esinayo, ejwayelekile." Inkinga ixazululwe. Wonke umuntu wahlala kuwo hhayi ekulimazeni ubuhlobo. Ngokwethembeka nangendlela endala.
4. Ungahambi ngenhloso yokugcina inoveli yakho. Kufana nje nenhlamba njengoba uzama ukukhulelwa, ukuze ungalahlekelwa othandekayo. Isibonelo esicacile: Yura ucabanga ukuthi indlu ejwayelekile (yebo, ngefenisha efashisayo) izomsiza ukuba agcine inkosikazi eduze kwakhe. Kodwa kwakukhona ukuqhuma komlilo - baxabana ngenxa yombala wephepha lodonga, lapho uthando lwabo lwentandokazi lwaba khona kancane kancane futhi lwaphela. "Ukuphila okuhlangene kwandisa kuphela isizungu sethu," kukhononda u-Yura futhi ngokushesha wagijimela ukuyokhipha izimpumputhe ezintsha.
Uma ungaqiniseki ngamandla emizwa yakho, noma nje ungakalungi impilo ngokubambisana - ungabi mkhuba. Izindlu eziphelele - oh, ngeke zilondoloze uthando lwakho! Futhi kungenza ngcono izinkinga. Futhi kanjani!
5. Nika izihluthulelo zakho othandekayo (kusuka ekukhiyeni). Ngezinye izikhathi akudingekile ukuba "ngokugcwele" bahlangane. Ungakwazi ukushintshanisa okhiye kusuka ezindlini zakho ukuze uthole ukufinyelela nganoma isiphi isikhathi. Kodwa ungahlali ndawonye. Isibonelo esicacile: UChristina noMitya bathola ukuthi umuntu angaphila, njengoba bekusho, lapha nalapha futhi ahlanganyele izihluthulelo ezivela ezindlini zabo. "Manje ikhabethe lami ligcwele ama-rags, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo ngisindise isikhala lapho ungaphefumula khona," uDmitri uyajabula. "Ngamanye amazwi, ukugqoka kwakhe kanye ne-ski cap kuphela baye bathuthela kimi!"
Kungaba yindlela yokuphuma uma ungakaqiniseki ngenhloso yokugcina ndawonye. Uhlobo "lwesikhathi sokushintsha." Futhi lapho-isikhathi kanye nemizwa izobonisa.