Ngokwezibalo zengqondo, ukuziphatha okuyisibonelo, njengombuso, izinkinga ezingathí sina kwengqondo zifihlekile. Lolu uhlobo lwemayini yokulibaziseka, futhi uma lingabonakali futhi lukhutshaziwe ngezikhathi ezithile, ukuqhuma kwemiphumela engavumelekile kuyolandela: kusukela ekuhlulekeni komuntu siqu kanye nokwehluleka kwezifo ezingaqondakali, izifo eziphathekayo kanye nokuxhomeka okuhlukahlukene. Ngakho-ke, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uzizwa kanjani, kuyinto enhle futhi elula endimeni yabazali bezingane ezilalelayo, kuyakudingeka ukuthola ukuthi kungani isizathu salokhu kuziphatha, futhi uma kungenzeka ukuqeda. Izimo zokwakheka kwesiyalo sokulalela emntwaneni zifakwa kusukela ekuzalweni.
Leli zwe eliyingozi ...
Ukwesaba izwe langaphandle kungenye yezimbangela ezivame kakhulu zokulalela izingane okungavamile.
- Kubonakala kanjani? Umntwana onamahloni, onesizotha, esaba ukuhlala wedwa nezingozi zezwe langaphandle, ezama ukuhlala esondelene nomama wakhe, engadlali imidlalo engozini, agwema konke okusha nokungaziwa, angangeni oxhumana nabo abazimele nabangane bakhe.
- Kungani lokhu kwenzeka? Ukukhathazeka okwandayo kungenzeka ngenxa yokungazinzi kwesimiso sezinzwa, kuhlushwa ukuhlukunyezwa kwengqondo kwasekusaneni (isibonelo, uma ngemuva kokuzalwa okunzima ingane inganikezwa yona isikhathi eside). Kodwa-ke, iningi labazali ngempumelelo "lilungisa" lesi simo, ekholisa ukuthi, ngokulalela abazali kuphela, angakugwema izingozi: "Uyabona, umama akazange alalele futhi aphule idolo lami!"
Qaphela: izibonakaliso ezingezona amazwi ziyingozi nakakhulu kunamazwi, ngoba zilungiswe ezingeni elingenakuqaphela. Isibonelo, lapho umntwana efunda ukuhamba futhi unina njalo umsekela ngemuva kwekhanda lakhe, engamvumeli ukuba awe, amarekhodi angaphansi kwesibalo: "Ngaphandle kukaMama, angikwazi ukuhamba futhi."
- Lokhu kuholela kuphi? Uma esemncane umuntu engabhekene nezinhlekelele ezincane nezinkinga, akafundi ukubikezela imiphumela yezenzo zakhe, afune izindlela ezihlukile zokuxazulula izinkinga, okusho ukuthi lapho esekhulile uyogwema izimo ezidinga isinyathelo kanye nomthwalo wemfanelo, futhi ukhethe abalingani ukuba baphathiswe indima yomzali.
Yini okufanele uyenze ngakho?
- Zama ukubhekana nokukhathazeka kwakho. Ungakhathazeki ingane yakho ngokumesaba kwakho nokungabaza.
- Kusukela ebuntwaneni, cwilisa umntwana endaweni ephephile, lapho angazi khona ngokuzimela izwe elikuzungezile. Lokhu akusho ukuhlala naye enkundleni yezemidlalo. Ifulethi kumele lilungiswe ukunyakaza kwamahhala.
- Khuthaza noma yisiphi isinyathelo somntwana.
- Hlola ukuhluleka kwakhe naye. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, gxila hhayi ekulaleleni, kodwa ngomthwalo wemfanelo yomuntu siqu: "Uma ubona umgodi ngesikhathi, lapho ugijima, ngeke uwele phansi" esikhundleni sokuthi "uMama akazange alalele, ngakho ngawa phansi."
- Emidlalweni yokudlala indima, bese esephila, fanisa izimo lapho ingane kufanele ikhethe khona ukuzimela.
"Ngokungazelelwe bazongiphula?"
Esinye isizathu sokulalela ngokungenasisekelo ukumesaba ukulahlekelwa uthando lwabazali,
- Kubonakala kanjani? Uma ingane ingenaso isiqiniseko sokuthandana komzali okungenasisekelo, angazama 'ukufanisa' ukuziphatha kwayo okungenakuqondakala, ukugcwalisa ngokugcwele izidingo zomzali noma ngokudla ukuze abone kuqala izifiso zabo. Abazali bakwenza kucace ukuthi ingane iyazibophezela kuphela uma zihlangabezana nezilindelo zabo: musa ukwenza umsindo, ungangcolile, ungadli lutho.
- Okwesibili, ukungaqondakali futhi okunzima ukuphatha izifo: ukungakwazi ukuqondisa ukuhlukumezeka kwempi, ingane elalelayo iphendukela kuye.
- Okwesithathu, ekungabikho kokuzijabulisa komphakathi: izingane, ezijwayele ukulalela okungenamthetho, ziba ngabantu abadala, zivame ukuba izisulu zobudlova bomndeni, amahlelo amabi.
- Okwesine, ku-"pendulum syndrome": ekufinyeleleni kwentsha, abathandi bezingane bavame ukungena ezinkampanini ezincane, njengokungathi bazama ukuhlola ukuthi abazali bazo bazobathanda yini.
Yini okufanele uyenze ngakho?
- Ungalokothi usho noma uvumele ingane iqonde ukuthi uyamthanda ngenxa yokuziphatha kwakhe okubi.
- Gweba lesi senzo, hhayi umuntu: "Kuyasihawukela ukuthi ugqoke izingubo zakho ozithandayo" kunokuthi: "Hamba, angifuni ukubona izinto ezinjalo ezingcolile."
- Uma ingane ingenzi ukuziphatha kabi, ungamcasuli, kepha, ukuveza ukungajabuli kwakhe, kumsize ukuthi athole indlela yokuphuma: "Kungobubi kakhulu ukuthi ubuhlungu kunogogo wakho. Ake sicabange ukuthi singamcela kanjani izicelo. "
- Ungafuni ukungaqondakali emehlweni omntwana: ngitshele ngokuthula ngephutha lakho, unganqikazi ukukhohlisa futhi ukuhlukumeza naye.
Ukulalela njengempawu
Ukulalela ngokweqile kungaba ukubonakaliswa kwezinkinga ezingokwengqondo kuphela, kodwa nokugula. Ngesikhathi esifanayo, ingane ibukeka ijabule kangangokuthi isikhathi sokuba abazali abazi lutho.
I-Autism
Izingane ezincane ezine-autism zezingane eziyinhloko zibonakala njengezingelosi ezincane: azikhalazi ngaphandle kwesizathu, aziceli izikhombi, zilungele ukuya amahora ukuyobhala umshini wokubhala noma ucabange ilanga elangeni lodonga. I-Denerger Syndrome. Ukukhathazeka okubuhlungu kokuhleleka nokugcinwa kwemithetho ngokuqinile kugcizelela le nkinga ethile yomzwelo. Izifo zenhliziyo, izifo zegazi, zinciphe igciwane. I-Lethargy, i-phlegmatic nokuqapha ngokweqile ingase ibonise ukuthi umuzwa ukhululekile ngenxa yezinkinga ezinkulu zezempilo.