Ekugcineni, lokhu ukuxilongwa akuyona into embi kakhulu: okuhle nge-HIV akusho ukuthi umuntu ugula nge-AIDS. Umuntu onesandulela ngculazi angashada futhi abe nezingane ezinempilo. Ngakho-ke, inkinga enkulu yegciwane lesandulela ngculazi lihlale lihlobene nabanye.
Ebudlelwane nabantu abane-HIV, izinkinga zengqondo zingahlukaniswa ngezigaba ezimbili. Esigabeni sokuqala kuzoba nezinkinga zokuzihlonipha komuntu, isimo sakhe sengqondo ngokuqondene naye kanye nesimo sakhe esisha. Ekuqaleni, abantu bavame ukuzithola besesimweni esinzima kakhulu. Akasazi ukuthi ngubani ozobuyela kuye ukuze asisize futhi asisekele, akazi ukuthi izihlobo zakhe nabangani bakhe bayasabela kanjani. Phakathi nalesi sikhathi, noma ubani othola ukuthi unesandulela-ngculaza ucindezelekile. Mhlawumbe, othile ovela ezihlotsheni usuvele uyayazi ukuxilongwa. Kulesi simo, udinga ukusekela, ubonise ukuthi ubuhlobo abukashintshi, futhi lo muntu usathandwa futhi uthandekayo.
Izinkinga ebuhlotsheni nabantu abakuzungezile zivela ngesisekelo sezinkinga zangaphakathi. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, umuntu angacasuka noma acindezeleke. Izinkinga zengqondo ekubhekaneni negciwane lesandulela ngculazi kufanele zitholwe ngokucophelela esigabeni sokuqala sokuvuselelwa, lapho umuntu engakaze afakwe embonweni wesimo sakhe esisha. Ngalesi sikhathi, angaba yingozi kuye nakwabanye. Imicabango engenzeka ngokuzibulala, ngokuphindiselela kumuntu osolwa ngokuzibulala. Kulesi simo, kufanele uhlale uthintana nesazi sengqondo. Mhlawumbe, ukukhulumisana nabantu asebevele benqobe izinkinga ezingokwengqondo esikhathini sokuqala futhi bazokwazi ukwabelana ngolwazi kuzosiza.
Isimo sengqondo sabantu abangasondelene kakhulu futhi abangenalo uthando ngenye indlela yombuzo. Lapha, njengoba kungenakwenzeka ngendlela, isisho esithi "Umngane uyaziwa enkingeni" ingokoqobo. Yiqiniso, ukuxilongwa - inani eliphakeme kakhulu, ukuthola isimo sengqondo sangempela kuwe kwabanye. Kungase kuqondwe, ngokwesibonelo, ngokwenza isenzo esithile esingafani nalokho okulindeleke kwabanye. Ngakho-ke kulandela ukuthi emva komshado noma isehlukaniso, ukuguqulwa komsebenzi womuntu nomuntu kuhlala kuphela labo bantu abangalahla umbono wakhe siqu futhi abazami ukuziphoqa. Kusalokhu kuzisola ukuthi abanye bethu bahlonipha ukubukeka kwabo okukhangayo emehlweni abanye ukuthi abaqapheli ukuthi bangabanjwa kanjani ngemibono yabo. Mhlawumbe kukhona ukuxilongwa okuningi kulokhu - uzoshiya kuphela labo abakuthanda ngempela.
Umuntu one-HIV kufanele athole indawo entsha ekuphileni. Okuyinhloko yokuxazulula izinkinga zengqondo ukwamukela isikhundla somuntu. Ukwamukela ukubaluleka kokuphila komuntu kanye nokuzikhethela komuntu. Kungenzeka ukuthi umuntu kuze kube yile mzuzu engazi ukuthi kungani ephila, kungani ehlanganyela kulokhu noma into leyo. Lesi sifo siyinselele, futhi le kholi ayikwazi ukushiywa.
Ngokuqinisekile kuzodingeka ushintshe indawo yakho yomsebenzi, mhlawumbe nokuhamba. Kodwa ungafihli. Ungakwazi, ubalekele abantu, kodwa awukwazi ukuphunyuka kuwe kanye nenkinga. Abanye bangabe benesihluku ekubhekaneni negciwane lesandulela ngculazi, kodwa lesi senzo sibhekene nokungazi. Abantu abaningi abatholwe ukuthi bangena ekukhanyeni basebenza. Babengesabi ukukhuluma kuthelevishini, emaphephandabeni, kuyi-Inthanethi futhi bemezela obala inkinga yabo. Njengoba kwenzeka, akuwona wonke umuntu owasabela kabi ngalesi simo. Ngokuqwashisa emphakathini, ukuqonda kukhula. Phela, inkinga enkulu yokwenqaba abanye ukuthi lesi sifo kubhekwa njengesibonakaliso sokuziphatha okuphazamisayo, ukwephulwa ngokobulili, ukulutha izidakamizwa. Lapho abanye beqonda ukuthi eceleni kwabo enkingeni kwakuyindoda evamile, njengabo, ukulahlwa kunika indlela yokuzwelana.
Izinkinga zengqondo kubudlelwane nabantu abane-HIV aziveli nje ngenxa yesimo sengqondo esibi kulolu sifo emphakathini. Ungasebenzisa impilo engaphezu kweyodwa ukushintsha imibono yabanye, mhlawumbe, ngisho nangokuphathelene nesihloko esinzima kangaka. Kodwa udinga ukuqala ngokwakho kuqala. Ukuvalwa enkingeni yabo kanye nokucindezeleka kukhona imiphumela yokwesaba. Umuntu wesaba ukuhlazeka nokulahlwa. Lokhu kuphinda kubonise ukuthi umuntu uncike kanjani esimweni sengqondo sabanye abantu kuye. Kungenzeka ukuthi ubhekane nenselele enkulu kangaka kuphela ngokuqaphela ukwaneliseka komuntu. Ngezinye izikhathi kufanele uphinde ucabangele isimo sakho sengqondo ezintweni eziningi futhi uhlanganyele nezinkolelo eziningi. Omunye kufanele akhumbule ukuthi ngisho nokuxilongwa okubi kakhulu akuyona ukuphela kokuphila. Kungenzeka ukuthi impilo isinika ithuba lokubona izinhlangothi zalo ezintsha.