Kuvela ukuthi indoda ayidingi okuningi ukuqoqa izinto futhi iqhume ngokuphelele. Uma ufuna ukulahla umuntu wakho ngokushesha futhi ngaphandle komzamo omkhulu, qaphela nje ubuhlungu babo obuvamile besilisa.
1) Shintsha isitayela.
Uhlangane, futhi wabona kuwe insizwa encane ethandana naye, owesifazane oqhamuka ebhizinisini noma umgogodla ongakhathazeki? Vele ushintshe ukuziphatha kwakho, uvumele ukuhamba kwe-anti-self yakho. Into eyinhloko akusiyo ukuchaza izizathu zalokho kushintshe futhi ungabuyeli esithombeni ngesinyathelo esisodwa.
2) Yeka ukumlalela. Kulungile. Ukuphazamisa izindaba zakhe mayelana nebhola ngamazwi mayelana nencazelo yezitolo, weqa ulwazi olubalulekile oludlule, olubikayo, olubonisa ngesikhathi sokuxoxa kwakho.
3) Fundisa ukuphila kwakhe. Wonke umuntu uyazi ukuthi amadoda angabantwana abahlanzekile. Isithombe somama ohlakaniphile, oqondayo, owazi njalo kangcono ukuthi umbala ihembe lizobhekana nani, ukuthi kwakudingeka ukuthi utshele umphathi nokuthi kungani ikhompuyutha yephukile, kuyindlela enhle yokudambisa indoda ekhaya.
4) Khala. Uma ubuvame ukuzivumela ukuba ukhale izinyembezi lapho ubukela amafilimu athile athile, khona-ke manje kufanele kube khona isikhukhula sangempela. Khala futhi ngaphandle, isikhathi eside futhi unomuzwa. Uma ekuqaleni amadoda egijimela ukukhipha izinyembezi zomthandi, bese kuthi emva kwezinsuku ezimbalwa zobuncwane obunjalo, ngeke bafune ngisho ukusondelana namaNesmeyans.
5) Yenza iphutha. Ingabe wayeseqediwe imizuzu emihlanu? Ukhohlwe ukushayela? Uphinde waphonseka kukhompyutha? Ubheke ubuholi kusiqondiso sakho? Awubonanga umuthi omusha omusha? Unezigidi zezindlela ezifanele zokucasuka. Menze azizwe enecala kaningi.
6) Yenza ama-scandals. Indlu yindawo evulekile lapho umuntu ephumula khona-yilokho abakushoyo. Sekuyisikhathi sezulu neziphepho. Ungabi namahloni ekukhulumeni, ungahawukeli ama-cymbals, futhi ungalawuli umthamo wokukhala. Ekhanyayo futhi kaningi kunama-scandals, umuntu osheshayo uyokwenza izinyawo zakhe.
7) Yiba nomhawu. Umhawu ngaye kumama wakhe nabangani bakhe asebekhulile, kumthengisi esitolo, kubo bonke osebenza nabo, kubangane bakhe, kubajwayele kanye nabantu abangabazi kumantombazane kunoma yimuphi ubudala. Hlela ukuhlola, uthi izikhathi ezimbalwa wabiza abanye uDasha, babheke ngendlela ebonakalayo efonini yakhe. Lokhu kuzomsiza ukuba asheshe akhethe ukukhetha indawo entsha yokuhlala.
8) Vri. I-Vry iphakathi, i-brazen, inkulu neyincane. Ekuqaleni uzolahlekelwa, khona-ke uzocabanga, bese izinzwa zakhe zizophendulwa, futhi uzobe ukhululekile.
9) Phuma udoti. Akukhona nje kuphela oqoqa amaphakheji, kodwa owodwa ogcina imfihlo kubo bonke. Tshela imininingwane emnandi yobungane bakho obuseduze nabo bonke abakulungele ukulalela: kunina, abangane, osebenza nabo. Vumela wonke umuntu wazi ukuthi kaningi kangakanani akakwazanga, ukuthi usalokhu elele nebhede le-teddy futhi ekhala lapho ebheka i-Titanic. Ngisho noma kungenjalo.
10) Yenza uthando. Okungenani ukucabanga. Vele uzame ukuthi lokhu kufundwe ngendoda yakho. Vele ukhethe ukungakhethi, ngeke ashiye lutho, ukuthi uzohamba kanjani.
Zonke lezi zindlela zifanelekile, uma ungafuni nje ukumtshela ukuthi ubuhlobo bakho abukho ithemba futhi ayikho ikusasa. Uma uzibonele kwezinye zalezi "emabhandlela eziyingozi", usuvele uyayazi impendulo yombuzo, lapho amadoda elala khona empilweni yakho.
Kuvela ukuthi amadoda, hhayi izidalwa ezinamafutha kakhulu, awawuthandi izinto ezifanayo ezingasilinganisi nathi. Kwanele ukuba ube ngokwakho, kodwa ungavumeli ama-hysterics, amanga, ukukopela nezenzo ezingenangqondo, ukuze umuntu athethelele sonke isikhathi eside.
Uma unquma ukuqeda isoka elinesithukuthezi ngendlela ethile eyinkimbinkimbi, thatha le mithetho ngokuphepha, futhi ukusebenzisana kwakho kuzokwenza ngokushesha kube yimpumelelo.