Yini ehlukanisa abantu abazethembayo? Njengomthetho, baphumelela. Sekuyisikhathi eside kakade amagama athi "ukuzethemba" kanye "nokuphumelela" sekuye kwafana. Labo abangashiyi phansi ngaphansi kwezinyawo lapho bebona i-interlocutor, banesihawu, banamandla, bayakwazi ukwenza othintana nabo futhi bafeze lokho okuye kwaqalwa kuze kube sekupheleni. Abantu abanjalo bayakwazi ukwabelana ngomsebenzi nokuphumula. Uma udinga ukusebenza kanzima, ukungaxilisi nokucindezeleka, noma ukugula isikhathi eside nezintaba zamathebulethi ngeke kube yisithiyo. Kodwa uma kufika isikhathi sokuphumula, ngaphandle kokuzisola okuncane kuzonqamula ifoni ephathekayo futhi ivumelane nokungahleleki kahle. Amapulangwe okuphakama kokuzihlonipha kufanele afunwe ebuntwaneni. Kukhona amaphuzu ambalwa ayilungisa.
Isikhathi sokubeletha nokubeletha
Ngokwesisekelo sokungaqiniseki, ngokwezazi ze-psychologists, ukwesaba umama wobuzayo esikhathini esizayo. Uvela ngaphambi kokuzalwa, ngoba esesiswini, umntwana uzizwa ukuthi ufuna kangakanani futhi ulindele. Uma umama ecabanga ngokunikeza umuntu omusha emhlabeni noma ukukhipha isisu, umntwana okokuqala uzizwa lo mzwelo ongajabulisi futhi kungenzeka ukuthi empilweni yakudala ngeke athembeke futhi abe nesaba kubantu abakuzungezile.
Kuze kube maduzane, ababelethisi babetha izinsana papa, ngakho baqala ukukhala baqala ukuphefumula. Kwenzekani? Ingane yayilungiselela ukuzalwa kwezinyanga ezingu-9, ukukhandleka, ukunqoba umsele wokuzala, futhi into yokuqala eyenziwa yizwe yayimshaya. Ungamethemba kanjani futhi uzizwe ephephile? Kuhle ukuthi namuhla umhlangano onjalo awukwenziwanga, - abakwa-psychologists bayakujabulela ngakho.
Ukudala kokuqala. Kubonakala kanjani? Ngaphandle kokumomotheka, awukwazi ukukwenza ngaphandle kwalo: ngezinye izikhathi ingane ingapenda ngalokho ayidla isigamu ngosuku edlule. Bazali, ningammangaleli ngesenzo esinjalo sokuziveza futhi ningasho ukuthi fu, kungenjalo kusukela esemncane umntwana angase abe nokukholelwa ukuthi konke okudaliwe nokusebenza nguye kubi futhi kubangela ukulahlwa.
Izinyathelo zokuqala. Uma umntwana ekhwela okwesikhashana futhi ngokushesha wafunda ukuhamba ngenxa yokusekelwa kwabazali, mhlawumbe, empilweni, uzohamba ngokuzethemba. Umzwelo wokusekelwa kanye nomhlabathi oqinile ophansi uzohlala kuze kube phakade. Yeka indlela ozolile ngayo nokuqiniseka ukuthi uzizwa eqenjini elisha, ukungena kanjani ekamelweni labantu abangabazi kuncike ukuthi ngabe uvunyelwe ukuvula izikhiye ebuntwaneni bakho bese ubeka "i-oda" lapho. Kuvela ukuthi ukuvinjelwa kokutholakala kwama-horizons amasha kuhlala ememori kuze kube phakade.
Uthisha wokuqala . Usungula umlingisi wokuqala ezweni elisha, lapho, ngezinga elithile, edlala indima yomama. Nguye ongagcina ekubhubhiseni noma, ngokuphambene, uqinise ukholo lwakho emntwaneni wakho. Konke kuncike ukuthi ngabe iklasi lizohlukaniswa labafundi abahle kakhulu futhi amasela emoyeni nokuthi yiyiphi "caste" ezoba ingane.
... Ngifunda ngokuhamba
Ukuzithemba kusekelwe ezintweni zangaphakathi nangaphandle. Okokuqala kufaka ulwazi, amakhono, isipiliyoni, izimfanelo zomuntu siqu, izinto zokuzilibazisa. Imoto ebiza kakhulu, indlu enkulu yezwe nomfazi oyisibonelo kunikeza umuzwa wokuzethemba. Kuyathakazelisa ukuthi abantu base-sanguine babonakala njengokwethenjelwa kwangaphakathi - ngenxa yokubona okuhle kwezwe, kepha abantu base-choleric cishe banokungathembeki. Kuvela ukuthi ngisho nokubukeka umuntu angahlukanisa abantu abanokuzethemba okuphakeme nokuphansi. Ngamunye wabo unesenzo somzimba, isenzo sokubukeka, isimo sokukhuluma, uhlobo lokukhuluma, okudala lokho okuthiwa i-corset yokuzethemba.
Indlela yokuzethemba
Isinyathelo 1. Lahla ukwesaba. Indlela elula - ukubhala ephepheni, ukumomotheka nokushisa - umlilo uyacima.
Isinyathelo 2. Gcina idayari yokuphumelela, bhala ukunqoba kwakho okuncane nsuku zonke. Isibonelo: "Namuhla ngithi cha futhi angizizwa nginecala ngenxa yalokhu." Ukwenqaba kusho ukuthi ube nephuzu lakho lokubuka.
Isinyathelo 3. Sebenza ngamacaphuno. I-aphorism eyithandayo izokhumbuza njalo into ebalulekile, qinisekisa imibono yakho futhi uqinise ukuzethemba.
Isinyathelo 4. Yenza okuthandayo, - ukuzilibazisa, ukuchitha isikhathi esimnandi, ukuxhumana nabangani. Injabulo yemiphumela izokhuthaza ukuzethemba.
Isinyathelo 5. Ukuhlela ngokucophelela impilo yakho. Kokuhlelwe kwansuku zonke, kuphela u-60% kuphela owenziwe, ngakho-ke ubeka phambili phambili futhi wenze izinqumo ezifanele.
Isinyathelo 6. Hlela imigomo engokoqobo, uyiphume endaweni "Ngisenayo kakade". Khumbula isimo sakho.
Isinyathelo 7. Khulumisana kaningi nabantu abanokuzethemba futhi ufunde kuzo ukuzimela, ukuthinta, ukuvimbela kanye nezinye izimfanelo ongekho.
Isinyathelo 8. Bhala imithetho yakho yokuziphatha nokuziphatha emaphepheni. Isikhundla sakho umhlabathi, umbono womuntu siqu, ngaphandle kwalokhu kunzima ukucabanga umuntu othembekile.
Isinyathelo 9. Bhalisela izifundo ze-oratory, lokhu kuzosiza ukuqeda ukwesaba ukukhuluma komphakathi nabantu abasha emvelweni.
Isinyathelo 10. Yenza ukuzivocavoca okulula nsuku zonke imizuzu embalwa: yimela emuva emgqeni oqondile (udonga), cindezela ngemuva kwekhanda, amahlombe, izintethe. Lokhu kuzokwenza ukuhleleka okulungile, uzobonakala uphakeme, futhi kubantu abakhulu baphathwa ngenhlonipho.