Intsha iyinkinga enzima kakhulu ekuphileni komuntu wonke. Njengomthetho, kubhalwe ukubonakaliswa okuphawulekayo kwemibhikisho, isifiso sokuzibiza ngokwaso. Ngakho-ke, ibizwa nangokuthi inkinga yentuthuko, kufana nokuqina nokuqina kwenkinga yobudala obuphakathi. Isikhathi sokukhula sibhekene nokushintsha kwamandla - kusuka othisha kuya ontanga.
Ngezinye izikhathi akuzona izingane, kodwa hhayi abadala, basebenzisa izindlela ezishaqisayo zokuziveza. Ikhodi yazo ihlanganisa ukudala ama-subcultures. Babhikisha ngokumelene nezombusazwe, amasiko, imithetho. Iveza izembatho ezikhazimulayo, ezenziwe kahle, ukwakheka okufanayo, ukubhoboza kanye nemidwebo. Kodwa indlela eyinhloko yokuzibonakalisa kwabo ukuziphatha okuphambene nesimiso esivamile, umbono womphakathi wokuziphatha, njalonjalo. (ukusetshenziswa kabi kotshwala, ukuhlukumeza ngokweqile noma ukwesatshiswa kwabanye ngokuzama ukuzibulala).
Ngaphambi kokunikeza noma yiluphi iseluleko mayelana nendlela yokulwa nendlela yokuziveza ngayo, cabangela ama-subcultures amabili, ajwayelekile kakhulu.
I-Emo
Abamele lo mkhuba babizwa ngokuthi "ama-emo-kits". I-subculture ibhekwa ngabasha abasenhliziyweni, abangakwazi ukuphendula kuzo zonke izinkinga nezinkinga ngendlela engavumelani nayo. Ngakho-ke, isiqalo esithi "kid" (angl.rebenok) akuyona ingozi lapha. Ngakho-ke, ujabule futhi ukhale ngenxa yobuhlobo obuncane obungabantwana kuphela. Lokhu futhi kuyisici sokunyakaza kwe-emo.
Kukholelwa ukuthi i-emo ngabantu abajwayele ukucindezeleka nokuzibulala. Eqinisweni, lokhu akunjalo. Intsha enjalo ivele ivulele imizwelo yabo futhi ikhetha ukungazigcini konke. Kokubili okumnyama nokubomvu kunombala obuningi nombala. Amehlo agubungelwa i-fringe enzima yamahlathi.
Kodwa kunomzuzwana omuhle kukho konke lokhu. I-Emo-kizdyzachastymi yi-Straightagers, okungukuthi abamele ukunyakaza, okugqugquzela indlela yokuphila enempilo nokulahla ebuhlotsheni bobulili obuyingozi.
AmaGoth
I-quasi-yenkolo yentsha engaphansi kwezenkolo, ebonakala ngombono omubi wokuphila kanye nomusa wokufa. Ngakho-ke, isitayela se-necromantic decadence kanye nezinto ezihlobene nokufa zihlanganisa izingubo. I-Gotam ikhathazeka ngokweqile ngomfanekiso wayo kanye nokuthakazelisa kwakho konke okungokwemvelo. Intsha enjalo ivame ukulingisa ukucindezeleka nokukhathazeka okungazenzi lutho kuzo zonke izinto ezizungezile.
Njengoba kunezinhlobo eziningi ze-subculture, ukukhetha izingubo zesitayela se-Gothic kuyahluka kakhulu, futhi izingubo ngokwayo zingesabisa umuntu "ovamile". Ngakho-ke, kuyifiseleka kubazali bentombazane enjalo ukuba bahlanganyele ekuthengeni izingubo ezinjalo futhi ngobuchule bethinte ingane ukuba ikhethe ukuhleleka okungaphezulu (ngokwembono yakho) izingubo, okuzobe zihlobene nesitayela samaGothi ngesikhathi esifanayo.
Kuthiwani ngabazali?
Ebhekene nale nkinga, umzali ngamunye uzocabangela ngezinyathelo ezidingeka zithathwe ukuvikela ingane emiphumeleni eyingozi yabangane. Umuntu angabamba kanjani ingane ekhungayo ukuze alondoloze ubuhlobo obuhle naye futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo alawule izenzo zakhe futhi agcine ezenzweni zokuqhaqhazela?
Okokuqala, ungalokothi uzame ukuphendula kabi inkampani yakhe engakahleleki. Lokhu kuzokwandisa isimo kuphela. Impendulo yakho engalungile mayelana nabangane bayo iyoba esinye isizathu sokubhikisha. Ngokuvamile, nabangane babo abahlakaniphile, intsha ibonisa ukudelela izihlobo zabo. Impendulo ekunganeliseki kwakho kuyoba yinto evamile kanye nezwi elihle lokukhuluma. Ngenxa yalokho, ingane izokwandisa idumela layo emehlweni "ofunda nabo". Uzokwehlisa igunya lakho bese kuzokuba nzima nakakhulu ukuthola ulimi oluvamile nalo.
Kunzima ukunikeza iseluleko sendlela yokubhekana nalesi simo. Wonke amacala ahlukile. Ngezinye izikhathi, uma ukuhlubuka kwentsha, ngokubona kwakho, kudlulela okungaphezu kwalokho okuvunyelwe, udinga ukuphendukela kuchwepheshe. Kulesi sihlamba esingenakufanekisa. Wena, phakathi nendawo yezenzakalo, kuyoba nzima ukuhlola ngokulinganayo lesi simo. Isazi sezengqondo sizombuka njengokungathi sisuka ngaphandle futhi sambule impande yenkinga. Njengoba ufunde isizathu, kuzoba lula kuwe ukuthola inqubo elandelayo yezenzo.
Ngezinye izikhathi kufanele nje wamukele izinguquko ezenzeka enganeni yakho. Ungamkhumbuzi ngaso sonke isikhathi ukuthi ungajabuli kanjani ukubukeka kwakhe. Sebenzisa isikhathi esengeziwe naye. Khombisa ukuthi awunamahloni okuya endaweni ethile lapho egqoke noma eqoshiwe "engathandi konke". Mema abangani bakhe ukuba bangene futhi bahlele ngisho neqembu elincane. Kodwa ungakhohlwa ukuthi ungumzali, futhi uma umnikeze inkululeko yokuthatha inkululeko enjalo, usadinga ukuyikhawulela kuzimele ezifanele. Uma umvumele ukuba ahlele iphathi futhi amemele kubangane bakhe abangakahleleki, shaya isikhathi esiqondile okufanele siqede ngaso, ngokubalulekile - esikhathini esizayo esiseduze ukuvula igumbi ukubukeka okudala futhi ugeze izitsha.
Khumbula:
Uma ufuna ukuthuthukisa emntwaneni wakho imikhuba ethile (ngokumelene nabagibeli), kuzothatha izikhathi eziphindwe izikhathi ezintathu. Ukuqeda lokho kuzodingeka ukuphinda lokhu izikhathi ezingaphezu kwezingamashumi amabili.
Ngezinye izikhathi kudingeka nje utshele intsha ukuthi uqaphele ukuthi "uyumuntu omdala" futhi ucabangele umbono wakhe. Kodwa kukhona ukukhohlisa okuncane lapha. Yengeza ukuthi njengoba ingane yakho ikhule futhi manje ingakwazi ukwenza isinqumo, imithwalo yemfanelo yabantu abadala (ukugeza izitsha, ukugcoba nokuhlanza izingubo zakho ezingavumelekile, ukuya ezitolo, njll) uzonikezwa yona. Isitatimende esinjalo kufanele siguqule isifiso sakhe sokuba umuntu omdala ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka.
Siyaxwayisa inkinga
Uma ungakaze uhlangabezane nenkinga yokuhlubuka kwentsha, wesaba ukuthi esikhathini esizayo ingane yakho "eyakhula" ingaphonsa inombolo enjalo, ngakho kufanele:
Ngaphambi kwalokho, fundisa ingane ukuthi kuyithakazelisa kanjani ukuchitha isikhathi samahhala.
Mkhange ngento ethile yokuzilibazisa (ukudansa, ukubhukuda, ukudweba, njll) Ungacindezeli ingane. Makhethe ukuthi yini ayithandayo. Umsebenzi wakho, ukuwujwayela ngezinhlobo ezihlukahlukene.
Kuyinto efiselekayo ukuthi okungenani ube nokuzilibazisa okuvamile, okusebenzisana nengane.
Ingane kufanele ibone ukuthi unesithakazelo nento ethile. Yilokho, wena ngokwakho kufanele ube yisibonelo esihle kumntanakho, ukuze abone izinzuzo zalokho ozinikela kuye.
Futhi okubaluleke kakhulu. Izinkinga zomndeni kufanele zixazululwe ngokusebenzisa izingxoxo, hhayi ngosizo lokucindezeleka kokuziphatha emntwaneni nasezincwadini. Ngesikhathi sokukhula, abazali kufanele babe igunya lomntwana, okufanele lilalelwe.