Kulokhu uzokusiza ukubekezela, ukubuka kanye nesifiso sokuqonda kangcono ingqondo yezobuhlobo bomzali wengane.
Imindeni enesici futhi eyinkimbinkimbi
Izinkinga ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwabazali nezingane zingabangelwa isimo sezulu esingenampilo emndenini. Imindeni lapho ama-scandals, ukungalaleli, ukungqubuzana nokunganaki okuthandwa komunye nomunye kufinyeleleka, akunakucatshangwa ukuthi yi-springboard ekahle yokukhuliswa kwengane. Maye, kodwa kukhona ubunzima obuvamile ekuziphatheni kwezingane ezikhulayo emindenini ephikisanayo. Izingane ezinjalo zivame ukugula, ziningi kakhulu, zinovalo, zinobudlova. Bakopisha kalula izenzo ezimbi zabantu abadala, futhi izwe langaphandle - isikole, abangani egcekeni noma nje ontanga - basabela kulokhu ngokungahambisani nomusa. Kuvela ukuthi isimo sithuthukiswa ukuthi ingane evela kumndeni onjalo ibhekene nobunzima obunzima bokuzivumelanisa nemvelo. Futhi-ke emndenini nangaphandle kwayo, impilo yakhe igcwele ukwesaba, izingxabano, ukuhlambalaza nokungaqondi kahle.
Ukuxazulula izinkinga ekubhekaneni nezingane kumndeni onjalo udinga njalo. Futhi kubalulekile ukuqala ngokuqeda izingxabano kanye nokuziphatha okulimazayo kokuziphatha nokuxhumana phakathi kwabantu abadala. Ezinye izazi zengqondo zakwazi ngisho nokufakazela ezifundweni zabo ukuthi izingane zivame ukujabula kakhulu emindenini lapho abazali bebeka ubudlelwane phakathi kwendoda nomfazi phambili kanye nobuhlobo nabantwana okwesibili. Yilokho, bobabili indoda nomfazi kufanele baqaphele kakhulu ukuthuthukiswa kwemizwa yabo kanye nobuhlobo babo, futhi kuphela uma konke kuhamba khona, gxila ezinkingeni zezingane. Uma uthola ukuthi izingane zakho zithathwe kakhulu, ukhohlwa ngomkakho, lokhu kugcwele ubunzima obungadingekile.
Imindeni yabazali abangabodwa
Imindeni engaphelele inezinhlobo zayo, izinkinga ezithile. Ngokujwayelekile zihlobene neqiniso lokuthi umzali kufanele enze indima bobabili nonina ngesikhathi esisodwa. Kunzima kakhulu ukuqaphela uma umuntu ekhulisa ingane yobulili obuhlukile. Umfana, okhuliswa ngumama onesizungu, angase aphule izindinganiso zokuziphatha komuntu phambi kwamehlo akhe. Intombazane ayikwazi ukucabanga ukuthi owesifazane kufanele aziphathe kanjani emndenini, uma ekhuliswa nguyise yodwa.
Ezimweni ezinjalo, izazi zengqondo zincoma umzali ukuthi athole omdala wobulili obuhlukile, oyeke afundise ingane izimiso zokuziphatha. Isibonelo, ubaba angathathelwa umalume wakhe noma umkhulu wakhe, nonina - ugogo, ugogo noma uthisha oyintandokazi. Uma umzali ongabodwa ebona umuntu emvelweni wengane, ingane eyelulele kuye, ungaphazamisi nokuxhumana. Mye athathe amasu ahlukene okujwayela umhlaba kubantu abahlukene, esimweni esidala angamsiza kakhulu.
Imindeni empofu
Lokhu kuzwakale kubi, kodwa, maye, emindenini enezinzuzo ezincane, uhlobo oluthile lwezinkinga phakathi kwezingane nabazali luvame ukuvela. Okokuqala, akunakwenzeka njalo ukunikeza ingane ithuba lokutadisha noma kuphi lapho efuna khona. Okwesibili, izingane zanamuhla zinobudlova, futhi umphakathi wabathengi, owenzelwa ngokusakazwa ngemithombo yezindaba, ubafundisa ukungafuni labo abangagqoke imfashini noma abakwazi ukukhokhela i-barrette eyengeziwe.
Le nkinga ayikwazi ukunakwa. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, kubalulekile ukukhuluma nengane, ukuxoxa ngezinkinga eziphathelene naye, ezixhunywe ngezimali, udumo. Kubalulekile ukunikeza izibonelo zabantu abaphumelele abafinyelele phezulu ensimini yabo, naphezu kokuthi bevela emndenini ompofu. Inkolelo yokuthi ukungabikho kwemali kwabazali abakwazi ukuba yisithiyo kumaphupho amakhulu kufanele bahlale nengane ngaphambi kokuqeda iziqu. Futhi ngokuqondene nezinto ezimbalwa ezibalulekile ezihlobene nomklamo wangaphandle, kufaneleke ukuqondisa ingane ekudingeni izidingo nezidingo ezithandekayo. Umphakathi wethu uhlelwe ngendlela yokuthi, imindeni eminingi iphoqeleka ukuba iphile ngokuzithoba, njalo ngekhredithi. Ngakho ikhono lokuzizwa lijabule ngaphandle kwamawashi alondoloziwe kanye ne-jeans entsha e-fangled, ingaba usizo kumntwana kuyo yonke impilo. Futhi into esemqoka ukuletha kuye umqondo wokuthi ukutholakala kwazo zonke lezi zinto akumjabulisi. Kungenxa yokuthi ukuba khona kwabangane bangempela kanye nempumelelo ebalulekile empilweni yomuntu ngokuvamile akuhlobene nokuthi kunengcebo eningi nengcebo.
Izinkinga ezijwayelekile ezihambisana nezinkinga zentuthuko
Ngisho emndenini omuhle, ngezinye izikhathi kuneziphepho. Kukhona okwenzeka kumntwana obeka yonke indlu ezindlebeni. Ngezikhathi ezithile futhi ngokucacile kahle okuchazwe kwiphethini yezingane ze-psychology izingane ziba yizinhlanhla, ziphikisana, ziyize, zingenangqondo. Ngokuvamile lokhu kubangelwa ukuthi ingane ibhekana nenkinga yokuthuthukiswa.
Inkinga yokuthuthukiswa kwengane yindawo lapho ingane engafuni khona ukuphila ngendlela endala, kodwa ngendlela entsha ayikwazi. Futhi-ke ubonisa ukungajabuli kwakhe ngokusebenzisa imibhikisho kanye nama-whims. Uma abazali bengazi ukuthi kufanele baphendule kahle kanjani izinkinga zeminyaka yobuntwana, baqinisekisiwe izinkinga ezinkulu kanye nokungezwani phakathi kobudlelwano nezingane.
Kunezinkinga eziningana zokuthuthukiswa kwengane: inkinga yonyaka wokuqala, inkinga yeminyaka emithathu, inkinga yeminyaka emihlanu, inkinga yeminyaka eyisikhombisa (uhambo lokuqala esikoleni) kanye nenkinga yesisakhula. Kufanele kuqaphele ukuthi izinkinga eziningana ziye zacwaningwa kulo lonke ukuphila komuntu, futhi inkinga yezingane ayiyona yokugcina emlandweni wakhe siqu. Nokho, sizogxila kuphela ezinkingeni zezingane.
Izinkinga zentuthuko kubantu abadala zifaka izinkinga ebuhlotsheni babazali nezingane zenkinga eyengeziwe. Futhi uma omunye wabazali enenkinga yokuthuthukiswa ngesikhathi esifanayo nengane, kucacile ukuthi isimo emndenini singaba nomlilo omkhulu. Noma kunjalo, ulwazi lwezimpawu nezici zezinkinga zezingane zanele ukuba abazali bagweme izintambo eziyinkimbinkimbi zezinkinga ezijwayelekile ebuhlotsheni babo nezingane.
Kungenzeka yini ukugwema izinkinga ebuhlotsheni babazali nezingane ngesikhathi sezinkinga zokuthuthukiswa kwezingane? Yebo ungakwazi. Fundisisa imininingwane yenkambo kanye nengqondo yengqondo yengane ngayinye, futhi uzokwazi ukuphendula ngokuphumelelayo kuzo zonke izinto zakhe. Ukusabela okulungile ezinkingeni zezingane kuvumela ukuba baqhubeke becishe bangacabangi futhi bangenakho izinkinga, yingakho ulwazi lwe-psychology lokuthuthukiswa kwengane kubaluleke kakhulu kubazali banamuhla.