Iningi lethu lilalelisisa impilo yezingane zethu: kubalulekile ukubonakala ukukhwehlela okulula - futhi sesivele silungile ngamaphilisi nama-broths. Siqapha umsebenzi wazo zonke izitho kanye nezinhlelo zomzimba wengane ngaphandle kweyodwa into: izinzwa zezingane zethu ziyizifiso ngokulandelana. Kodwa kunjalo? Ukuphazamiseka kwezinkinga ezinganeni kanye nezibonakaliso zabo kuyisihloko sengxoxo namuhla.
Konke kuqala ngokusana. Kungani ingane ikhala kakhulu? Njengomthetho, bayichaza ngokulula: unomlingiswa ongenakuqhathaniswa. Eqinisweni, uyakhala ngenxa yezizathu eziphelele. Kungakhathaliseki ukuthi uyakunakekelwa kahle, noma uyaphila ngokomzimba, noma ugula ngengqondo. Okusho ukuthi, akukho into enjenge-whims. Lokho esikubiza ngokuthi uhlamvu olubi, njengomthetho, kusho ukuthi umuntu ugula ngenhliziyo. Maye, namuhla izibalo eziphathelene nezifo eziphazamisayo ezinganeni ziyadumaza: ngaphezu kwengxenye yabantwana besikole kungatholakala ukuthi "kukhona ukuphazamiseka kwemizwa" uma abazali babo befika engqondweni ukuvakashela udokotela. Kodwa, ngeshwa, amacala kuphela okungahoxiswa abuyele emtholampilo.
IZIMALI ZOKUSEBENZA: IBHIZINISI AKUSI-INSTITUTIONAL ...
Ngokuvamile bathi: "Uyesaba." Eqinisweni, lo mqondo ungafaka noma yini oyithandayo, ngoba uhlu lwezifo ezinokuveza isithombe "sokwesaba" akuyona nje kuphela, kodwa futhi kunezizathu zangaphakathi. Ukungaziphathi kahle kungukuzalwa komzimba (isibonelo, njengabantwana-i-neuropaths), kunezimo ezidingekayo, futhi kungatholakala ngenxa yokuhlolwa okunamandla noma imfundo engafanele. Ingxenye esheshayo yokunqotshwa yingxenye ehlukene yobuchopho, kanye nesimiso sezinzwa noma i-psyche yonke. Kulesi simo, uhlobo lwezinkinga zesifo ezinganeni nasezibonakalweni zabo lungatholakala kuphela udokotela.
UKUKHONA: NEUROSE!
Yini engenza ngokungenakuphika ingxenye ebalulekile yokuphila komuntu wonke? Izinkinga zomndeni, izimo ezinzima zokuphila nokucindezeleka. Akuzona zonke izilwane ezibhekana nazo, ezizovikela (ngemuva kwakho konke, abanye abantu, ngisho nangemva kokuwela ngaphansi kwemvula evamile, ngokushesha babambe iqhwa). Ngakho-ke, uma ezithola esesimweni esinzima, angenza ukuphendula okungathandeki kahle (kuhlelela ama-hysterics, eduze, njll). Uma ukusabela okunjalo kuwumkhuba, cishe kungenzeka ukuthi ingane ine-neurosis (ngesiGreki- "isifo sofuba"), isifo esidinga ukwelashwa isazi sezinzwa. Ochwepheshe bakholelwa ukuthi njalo kusekelwe ekuxabaneni kwangaphakathi: nguye "ophindaphinda kabili" ingane futhi emenza angazinzi ngokomzwelo. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi izingane zibonakalise okuthiwa yi-monosymptomatic neuroses, ezibonakaliswa ngenye kuphela, kodwa kubonakaliswe uphawu oluqhakazile (ukugwinya, uphawu, i-enuresis, njll). Ngokuvamile, abazali ngokwabo bavusa ukuthuthukiswa kwengane ye-neurosis ngokusebenzisa izenzo ezingalungile.
IZINDABA ZEMPAKATHI EZISEBENZIWE
♦ Abazali banikeza ingane umthwalo owengeziwe, ukunikeza izikole ezimbili, imibuthano ehlukene, njll.
♦ Abazali babona ukwehluleka kwabo emntwaneni bese bazama ukulwa nabo.
♦ Umama akabonisi uthando lwakhe kumntanakho, okwenza kucace ukuthi indawo yakhe idinga ukutholwa.
♦ Umama ongaqashiwe uzungeze ingane ngokunakekelwa ngokweqile.
♦ Ingane iyaba ngufakazi wezinhlamba emndenini.
Izenzo zakho:
Yiqiniso, ukuphazamiseka kwamaphilisi kuphela kungelapheki. Cishe, ngosizo lodokotela kuzodingeka ucabangele indlela yakho yokuphila. Ngemuva kwakho konke, ukuze uvimbele ukuphefumula kwengane, kufanele kuqala kuqala ukulawula ukuziphatha kwakho. Kunemithetho okufanele ibonwe:
♦ Ungazami ukumisa ukubonakaliswa kanye nezimpawu ze-neurosis (ukuphazamiseka kokulala, ukushaya indlwabu, njll) - kubaluleke kakhulu ukubona izimbangela.
♦ Uma wena ubhekene nokuphazamiseka kwemizwa, zama ukuphulukiswa okungenani ngenxa yengane.
♦ Uma wena ubhekene nezinkinga nabazali bakho lapho usana, zama ukuvumela lokhu nezingane zakho.
OKUFANELE UKUQONDE:
♦ ukukhathazeka kontanga ekuthuthukiseni kwengqondo;
♦ ukuthatha ingane ngendlela enomthelela (isibonelo, kuphela ngesiShayina noma kuphela emathematika aphezulu);
♦ Uma ingane ihamba ikhanda ngomdlalo futhi ibuyele esikhundleni sayo (isibonelo, utshela wonke umuntu ukuthi useyinja, futhi uhamba ngezinsuku zonke kuzo zonke ezine);
♦ Uma elahlekelwa yithakazelo empilweni, uyayeka ukuzilandela;
♦ Uma ingane inemicabango (ukhuluma naye, ulalela okuthile);
♦ Uma ingane ilala futhi ilele emibonweni egcwele engathí sina (isibonelo, ngalobo busuku bathatha izihambi kuye noma ukuthi wahlakaza amafu).
KUPHELA:
Mayelana "nama-physics" kanye "nama-lyricists"
Esikhathini sokuxoxwa kwabazali abayizinkulungwane eziningana, kwafunyanwa ukuthi ukuqubuka kwezifo ezingqondweni kuneminyaka lapho abantwana beya esikoleni (iminyaka eyi-8-12). Izazi zezinqondo zithi lokhu akukona nje ukuguquka endleleni yokuphila nokwanda komthwalo kulokhu, kodwa futhi nokuzikhethela kwendlela yokufundisa ekhona ezikoleni, okungukuthi umthetho, ugcizelelwe yi-"hemphere yesokunxele" (okungukuthi, eqondiswa kakhulu kubhekane nezibalo nezibalo). Ilungelo - i-humanitarian - i-hemisphere ithuthuka kancane kancane ekutadisheni, nakuba izingane ezinama-orientation anjalo zingaphansi.
"Ihhashi nenyamazane ephazamisayo"
Izazi zengqondo ziye zahlukanisa abantu ngezigaba ngokungahambisani: ngokusho kohlobo lwezinto ezinesimo sengqondo, ngokuvumelana nesimo semvelo esibaphatha ngaso, njalonjalo. Ukwazi lezi zigaba, uzokwazi ukunquma uhlobo lomntwana wakho futhi ufundise ngokufanele. Isibonelo, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubulili bendodana e-"ego" (isibindi), kuyadingeka ukuyivimbela ekukhuliseni ubudlova, nangokuthi "i-genophilile" (wesifazane), ngokuphambene nalokho, ukuvikela kusuka emanzini futhi ungagcini umuntu ngamunye. Ngokufanayo, ungaqhubeki njalo futhi ulungise i-phlegmatic, zama ukuvimbela i-choleric engapheli, i-cheer melancholic. Uma uzama ukulungisa ingane kumazinga ajwayelekile, ngokuqinisekile kuyoholela ekuphazamiseni kwemizwa kanye nokuxabana kwangaphakathi.
Neuroses - abasengozini
♦ izingane ezinamahloni ezingaqiniseki ngokwayo;
♦ izingane ezinganikezwa ukuzimela;
♦ ukuphazamisa ngokwemvelo, izingane eziqaphele kakhulu;
♦ nokulalela, "ukuqhutshwa" kwezingane (ngokuphakamisa ukusikisela);
♦ Izingane ezincishisiwe noma, ngokweqile, zanda umsebenzi;
♦ izingane ezibucayi ezingakwazi ukuzimela;
♦ izingane zijwayele ukuhlangenwe nakho okunamandla ngisho nokuhluleka okuncane kakhulu (noma inhlanhla);
♦ "izingane ezingadingeki" (isibonelo, "ubulili obungalungile") noma izingane ezizalwa ngesikhathi esingafanele abazali (kanye nokushisa kokufunda, inkontileka enenzuzo, njll).