Ngokuvamile ungabona emgwaqweni, esitolo noma nge-polyclinic yezingane, njengoba umama ejezisa ingane ngokomzimba ngenxa yephutha elincane kakhulu. Futhi, lokho esikubona emgwaqweni kungabizwa ngokuthi yingxenyana encane. Uma abazali bephakamisa izandla zabo phezu kwengane nabantu abangabazi, ke kwenzekani ekhaya? Kungani abazali beshaya ingane, kunokukhuluma naye nokuchaza okuhle, futhi yini embi?
Abazali bangcono ngomntwana, ukuze bangabi. Yiqiniso, ke ingane "ivulela amehlo" kubazali, kodwa, njengomthetho, sekwephuzile futhi ingane isivele isamukele iphethini yokuziphatha. Kuyinto evamile kuye, lapho ukucasula okunamandla kubuthakathaka. Lokhu kuziphatha akubona ekhaya futhi ekhulayo, kuthatha lesi simodeli kuye. Wonke umuntu kufanele acabange ngakho, kodwa abazali banelungelo lokushaya izingane futhi kungani benza kanjalo?
Ingane ejwayele ukujeziswa esebenzisa i-strap yasekhaya izoziphatha kabi emgwaqweni, enkulisa nasesikoleni. Akaqondi ukuthi kungani kungalungile ukushaya ingane, kodwa uyashaywa.
Abazali kudingeka baqonde ukuthi abanalo ilungelo lokushaya ingane, futhi ngokujwayelekile ukushaya into yokugcina yomuntu.
Kubonakala sengathi kuyamangalisa lapho beshaya ingane encane kakhulu. Ubunqunu amabhulukwe akhe? Thola ibhande! Ingabe izingubo ezingcolile zifanele izinyembezi zezingane? Akunzima ukuphonsa izinto ezingcolile kwi-stylalka futhi baqhubeke nokwenza ibhizinisi labo. Ukudla ngesikhathi sokudla i-dinner, isinkwa esiwile somama abaningi siba isizathu sokushaya ingane. Cha, akekho owake wathi mayelana nokushaywa ngendlela ehlanzekile, okungukuthi, egazini, kodwa ukushaywa ebusweni, ukushaya izindebe, noma izandla kungabuye kuthiwa ukushaya, ngoba lokhu kubangelwa ingane ubuhlungu ngokomzimba.
Kumantombazane, isijeziso somzimba sibhekene nobuntwana ngokuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi bayazikhethela abayeni babo ngomuntu ozobaphatha ngamandla. Ngakho-ke i-psyche yomuntu ihlelwe, ukuthi imodeli yomndeni ihlelwe esemncane. Kuvela ukuthi abazali ngezinhlelo zabo izenzo zokuphila kwentombazane futhi kuthinte ngqo ukukhetha komlingani ongase abe khona.
Ukushaya ingane ukufakazela ubuthakathaka bomuntu, ukufakazela ukuthi abazali abazange bakwenze, babengakwazi ukubhekana nalokhu.
Ingane ibona isijeziso njengokuhlazeka. Unamahloni, angakhululekile, kodwa akakwazi ukwenza lutho ngalesi simo. Kamuva, ekhula, uqala ukuzonda abazali bakhe. Ingane ayifuni ukubuyela ekhaya, ngoba i-deuce edayari iyisizathu sokuhlazeka. Yini elandelayo? Balekela ekhaya, inkampani yasemgwaqeni futhi unganaki abazali, ngoba bazobe beshaya, ngakho-ke yimuphi umehluko ...
Ukujwayele ukujeziswa njalo, ingane iyeka ukuzwa ubuhlungu futhi kubonakala sengathi imane imshiya. Konke abazali abazokwenza kuyona inzondo yabo ngokwabo ekukhuleni. Futhi iminyaka engu-13-16 yobudala ibhekene nobunzima, ngalesi sikhathi kungcono ukugcina ingane ilawulwa, kodwa hhayi ngebhande, kodwa nje ngamasu namathiphu anobungane. Udinga ukuba umngane wengane.
Ukuze ungalahlekelwa ukuzethemba kwengane, kubalulekile ukuyeka ukubamba ibhande. Izinkinga zixazululwe ngokukhuluma nokuchaza. Futhi ungasho ukuthi ingane ayiqondi amagama. Uyaqonda. Kulula nje ongazange uchaze ngamagama. Ukukhuluma nomntwana kuyadingeka uma nje kukhishwa esibhedlela, kubalulekile ukuthi le ncane iyaqonda amagama abazali bayo, ihlule kuzo. Ngakho kuyoba okungaphezulu konyaka odlule, akudingeki ukuthi uthathe ibhande. Ngoba abazali abanalo ilungelo lokushaya izingane zabo.