Naphezu kokukhala njalo, ama-whims kanye nama-scandals, ingane isusa kancane kancane i-egocentrism yangaphambili, iyazi ukuthi yini engakwazi futhi ayikwazi, futhi iyaqonda uma idunyiswa noma ihlambalazwa. Okufanele kube ukuthuthukiswa okulungile kwengane esikoleni seminyaka yasenkulisa, funda esihlokweni esihlokweni esithi "Ukuthuthukiswa kobuntu bomntwana esikoleni semfundo yasenkulisa."
Ukuthuthukiswa komzimba nokuzizwa kwenzwa
Uma kuqhathaniswa nezigaba zangaphambilini, izinga lokukhula liyehla. Ngonyaka wesithathu wokuphila, isisindo somntwana sikhule ngo-2.3 kg, ukuphakama - ngo-9 cm; emva kokufinyelela eminyakeni engu-4, isisindo senyuke ngo-2 kg, ukuphakama - ngu-2 cm Ukwengeza kuba mdlalo wezemidlalo, isibalo - slender. Kule minyaka yobudala, abafana bavame ukude futhi banzima kunamantombazane. Abafana banesisindo esingaphezu kwesisindo, amantombazane anezicubu eziningi ze-adipose. Lezi zinguquko zomzimba, kanye nokuthuthukiswa kobuchopho kanye nesimiso sezinzwa, zivuselela imimoya (ukuthuthukisa imisipha emide neyifushane). Ngenxa yezinhlelo eziqhutshwayo zokuphefumula nezokuphefumula, ingane inezinqolobane ezinkulu zamandla, futhi kanye nesistimu yezivikelo ezivuthiwe zikhonza njengesiqinisekiso sempilo nokuphila. Kulesi sigaba sokuthuthukiswa, izingane zivame ukubhekana nezifo ezinjengezifo ezibangelwa ukwelashwa kanye nezifo ezijwayelekile. Eminyakeni engaba ngu-3 kuyacaca ukuthi ingane enesokudla noma kwesokunxele, kodwa ngokuqinisekile lokhu kunqunywe iminyaka emihlanu kuphela. Kubalulekile ukuhlonipha ukhetho lomntwana futhi angalokothi alungise, eqinisekisayo ukwenza "njengokulindelwe": ingane kufanele iphathe ngokuhambisana nenqubo yemvelo yentuthuko yobuchopho.
Ukuthuthukiswa kwengqondo nokwengqondo
Ingane inomqondo wezimpawu (ukhuluma futhi uzama ukubhala). Uqonda ubuhlobo phakathi kwesizathu nomphumela. Ukwandisa umzwelo ebuntwini bengane. Ikhono lokuphatha izinombolo liyakhula. Ingane igcizelela, ngezinye izikhathi kunzima ukuhlukanisa inganekwane neqiniso. Akakwazi ukugcina imicabango eminingi ekhanda lakhe, ngakho ngezinye izikhathi udweba iziphetho ezingenangqondo futhi akaqondi ukuthi umphumela owodwa ungafinyelelwa ngezindlela eziningana.
Ukuthuthukiswa komphakathi
Isilinganiso nokuzihlonipha ebuntwini bomntwana esikoleni sesisenkulisa baba ngaphezulu. Ingane ikwandise amathuba okuzwa nokuveza imizwelo. Uhlukanisa phakathi kwezici zomphakathi nezamasiko ezihlobene nabesifazane noma amadoda. Ingane iqala ukuxhumana nabafowabo nodadewabo. Abazali kufanele banikele ekuthandeni kwabo, ukuhlonipha kanye nokubekezelelana, futhi kungakhathaliseki ukuthi kwenzekani, ukucasula kunoma yikuphi kwezingane. Eminyakeni engaba ngu-3 ubudala, umntwana unabangane bakhe bokuqala. Ufunda ukugcina ubuhlobo obuhle, ukwazi nokuxhumana nezinye izingane. Ukuthuthukiswa kwenkulumo nobuntu bomntwana kuvuselela ukucabanga okunengqondo, ngenxa yalokho, inkulumo isetshenziswe kahle. Kule minyaka yobudala, izingane ziyakwazi ukukhuluma ngezinto ezingaboni ngokuqondile phambi kwazo - ukukhumbula okwedlule, ukwenza izinhlelo ngekusasa, ukukhuluma ngezifundo ezingenangqondo, besebenzisa ubuningi nesikhathi esedlule.
Ezikoleni zasenkulisa ezineminyaka engu-3-5 ubudala, izingane zifunda amagama ambalwa ngosuku, kepha ungawasebenzisi njalo njengabantu abadala: isibonelo, igama elithi "kusasa" ingane ingachaza noma nini esikhathini esizayo. Kule minyaka yobudala, izingane zakha imisho ngokwesilinganiso samagama angu-4-5. Izingane eziningi kule minyaka zikhulumisana zona futhi azibonisi isifiso esincane sokuxhumana nabanye abantu. Kodwa qaphelani: uma lo mkhuba ungapheli isikhathi, kungaba yimbangela yokukhathazeka. Eminyakeni yokuqala yokuphila, izingane zizwa imiyalo eminingi, imiyalelo, imiyalo, ngakho-ke akumangazi ukuthi ngokuhamba kwesikhathi bona baqala ukuyisebenzisa. Izingane ezineminyaka engu-4 zizwa amandla wamagama: ziyala abanye, ikakhulukazi izingane ezincane. Kubalulekile ukuqonda ukuthi lokhu kuphela isiteji sesikhashana, okubangela ekuthuthukiseni umlingiswa. Eminyakeni engaba ngu-3 ubudala, ingane izwa isidingo sokwazi amagama wezinto nokuqonda ukuthi ihlelwe kanjani. Isikhathi esingapheli "ngani?" Siqala. Abazali akufanele bathukuthele. Kuyasiza kakhulu ukunikeza izimpendulo ezimfushane nezilula ukuthi ingane ingaziqonda ngaphandle kokulahlekelwa isifiso sokufunda. Ukuqala kwalesi sigaba kuyisibonakaliso sokuthi ingane ikhula. Manje siyazi ukuthi ukuthuthukiswa kobuntu bomntwana kwenzeka kanjani eminyakeni yobudala.