Ake sicabangele ubudlelwane obuyisisekelo phakathi kwemibhangqwana yomndeni - eshadile. Kungani umuntu ekwazi ukuhlala nomuntu oyedwa kuze kube sekufeni kwakhe, futhi umuntu akakwazi ukuma phambi komzuzu nomzuzu. Imfihlo yokuphila komndeni omude futhi ojabulisayo ekukwazi ukuvumela omunye nomunye izifiso, Njengombuso, lapho umndeni osemusha udalwa, ngokuvamile umzuzwana kanye nomlingani wethu singena emthonjeni wezihlobo zakhe nabangani ongeke ube nabo njalo ubuhlobo. Ngokuvamile bajwayele abazali babo ngemva komshado. Imibhangqwana eminingi eshadile ihlanganisa abantu bezizwe ezahlukene nezinkolo ezahlukene. Isizathu sokuxabana komndeni singaba ngumbuzo wokuthi uvakashele izihlobo kaningi kangakanani, ikakhulukazi uma indoda nomfazi abavela ezindaweni ezahlukene ezweni lethu elikhulu noma beshade nomfokazi.
Phela, ngokuvamile oshade naye noma oshade naye othanda ukuchitha amahhala noma amahora okusebenza, ubhubhisa imibhangqwana eshadile. Owesifazane akafuni ukuxoxa ngempi yebhola, futhi lo mkhuba omusha wemfashini. Yiziphi izizathu eziyinhloko zokuxabana kwemibhangqwana:
- Imisebenzi yasekhaya
- Ukusatshalaliswa kwemali nokuntuleka kwayo
- Izingane
- Ubudlelwano nezihlobo
- Ubuhlobo nabangani
- Ubulili
- Isikhathi sokubuyela ekhaya
- Intukuthelo yokuqoqa lapho izithembiso kanye nezidingo zomunye wezinhlangothi zingagcwaliseki
- Utshwala
- Ukukhishwa kwezindlu
Imivimbo yemibhangqwana ivame ukuvela ngenxa yokukhathala, lapho omunye womshado eqala ukugula, unelungelo lokubheka ukuzwelana noma usizo lwesigamu sakhe. Intukuthelo yindlela umuntu asabela ngayo ekuziphatheni okungalindelekile uma engenzi ngendlela ongathanda ngayo. Oshade naye okhubazekile angahlukunyezwa ngamazwi, okwandisa isimo ngokushaya futhi akukona konke ukuphuma ngokwanele kulesi simo futhi athole indlela yokubuyisana. Ukusabela okubuhlungu kunxantathu (umkhwekazi - umyeni - umfazi) cishe yonke imindeni. Zingaki ama-anecdotes mayelana nomamazala, okungenakuphikiswa, uma kuziwa kubazukulu, abavikela indodakazi yabo ngokukhululekile, kodwa ukujoyina inhlangano kanye nomkhwenyana ngezinye izikhathi kubangela umbhikisho nendodakazi. Inkulumo edumile: "Ungamthinti umama" uyazijwayele imindeni eminingi, futhi kusukela ebuntwaneni isimo sengqondo sobudlelwano emndenini sithuthukile.
Abantu abaningi bafuna ukuhlala njengabazali noma ngokuphambene nalokho bafuna ukubalekela ukuxabana kwemibhangqwana eshadile, banikeze into emisha ebuhlotsheni. Udaba lwezindlu luwonakele imibhangqwana eminingi, imbangela yokuxabana komndeni kungase kube ukungafuni ukuhlala nabazali babazali babo nokungakwazi ukuhlala emakhaya abo. Imindeni ihlanganiswe ndawonye iminyaka egumbini elilodwa, emagumbini nasemindenini emincane, hhayi yonke imindeni ingakwazi ukumelana novivinyo olunjalo, , ephenduka isahlukaniso. Isizathu esiyinhloko sokuxabana ngokuvamile siba izingane. Abazali bazama ukuthambisa kusukela emntwaneni lokho abakufunayo, kepha ngezinye izikhathi kukhona okulahlekile noma ingane iqala ukuhlubuka, kuxhomeke ukuthi ubani ozosekela ohlangothini lwakhe noma othethelele ubuthakathaka bakhe, eqaphela ukuthi akuyona yonke into engayifinyelela, yisikhathi sokwaneliseka ngalokho okwenzekayo, ukuthi unayo. Akuwona wonke owesifazane ongamamukela ukuba khona kwenkosikazi, hhayi wonke umuntu ongakwazi ukuyeka isikhathi eside ngaphandle kocansi. Ukuphuza utshwala kungenye yezifo ezimbi zesintu. Akukhona kuphela labo abagulayo abangathokozi, kodwa bonke abakuzungezile. Zingaki amangqamuzana omzimba omuntu oshade naye ochitha utshwala, imali eningi ishiywe ebhajethi yomndeni, futhi zingaki ezinye izifo ezihlanganiswayo, ngaphezu kwalokho, esiteji sokudakwa, ukungathembeki emshadweni nobugebengu kwenzeke kaningi, emva kwalokho lowo oshade naye angase abe ejele noma aphethwe yizifo ezithathelwana ngocansi, okuletha ukudumazeka nokungavumelani empilweni eshadile yemibhangqwana eshadile.
Okuthandayo akuphikisi, kodwa izintandokazi zokunambitheka zomshado zingase zihluke, ngenxa yalokhu, futhi, kukhona izingxabano. Omunye uhlala engumntwana, engenakuqhathaniswa nezinwele ezimhlophe, futhi ngisho nangokusatshalaliswa kwemali nokuhlekisa ukusho, kukhumbuza inkampani lapho wonke umuntu ulindele ukwanda kwamaholo. Uma kwenzeka ukunganeliseki ngamaqembu, kunciphisa abasebenzi. Ukuqaphela ngokukhethekile kufanelekela imibhangqwana, lapho izingane ezivela emishadweni ehlukene. Lapha konke kuncike ekutheni abantu abadala bakwazi ukwenza zonke izingane zijabule kangako, ngaphandle kokuzinqabela ukunakekelwa nezinzuzo ezibonakalayo. Lapho indoda nomkayo bevumelana futhi behlukana, imibango emishadweni ishayiwe, izingxabano zixazululwa, futhi abantu bahlala ndawonye bejabule njalo. Abashadile kufanele bakhumbule ukuthi izizathu eziyinhloko zokuxabana kwemibhangqwana eshadile kufanele zikhishwe imiphumela yabo embi.