Ukuthembeka egameni noma izithembiso ezingenalutho

Uma umuntu enza izithembiso, bese ukhohlwa ngabo noma engathinti ukubaluleka kokushiwo. Wathi futhi ukhohlwa. Kodwa wathembisa. Kuyini - ukwethembeka egameni noma izithembiso ezingenalutho? Isithembiso sakhe sisindisa ukuzisola? Hlala ngokuthula, bakhohlisi. Yingakho silindele lokhu okuthembisiwe, njengoba besho, iminyaka emithathu?

Ingabe uthanda umqambimanga? "Omunye wathembisa ukubiza ngoMgqibelo, ngehora lesishiyagalolunye ntambama. Sekuvele ngeSonto, sekuyisikhathi esinezinyanga ezine ... "- intombazane ethandana ne-windy chevalier iyahlanjalazwa. "Unyaka wonke ngithembise ukuthi ngizothatha umntwana kumamyuziyamu, kodwa esikhundleni salokho uzohamba naye emidlalweni yobuwula!" - lo ngumyeni onganelisekile. Wethembisa ... O, kungani engathembanga! Shintsha i-tile endlini yokugezela, uthenge ithikithi le-ballet, umeme izihlobo endaweni yokudlela yezinhlanzi, ukhokhe uhambo oluya eMallorca, uhlambe intshebe yakho nge-Marta yesishiyagalombili futhi ungaphinde uphinde ufunga ngesondo. Yini ethembeke kakhulu egameni noma izithembiso ezingenalutho? Ngezinye izikhathi kubonakala sengathi amadoda kuphela enza lokho enikeza izithembiso ezingenalutho. Kuphi ukwethembeka kwabo ngezwi? Kungani bengamanga? Yebo, ngoba thina, lapho siseyizingane, sasifungela njalo umama ukuthi ngeke siphume ngaphandle kwesigqoko, sihleka ngokusula emilonyeni yethu, futhi ngempelasonto sizoyibeka izinto ngendlela efanele ekamelweni lethu. Njengoba nje athembisiwe, benza izithembiso ezingenalutho ukuwa ngemuva. Ngakho, bonke abantu bayakhohlisayo ngokwemvelo?


Ukuzolalisa ukuthi unembeza wethu uphumule kanjani, noma mhlawumbe ukusindisa othandekayo wakho ebudloveni, sizocacisa iqiniso elilandelayo lesayensi. Izazi zengqondo zithole ukuthi ukwethembeka kwethu egameni (noma umkhuba wokulikhohlwa ngokujabula) kuhlotshaniswa nokuzethemba. Kodwa ... hhayi ngokuqondile njengoba kungase kubonakale. Lokhu akunjalo neze ukuthi uma umuntu ehlonipha yena, igazi lakhe elimpumeni lizogcwalisa zonke izithembiso zakhe. Ukungaqondakali okunjalo kubonakala kubantu abangekho ukuphepha okukhulu. Ukwandisa ibe ikhekhe eliphambene ukuze kugcinwe leli gama, ligcwele ukuzethemba, okuyinto ehluleka kakhulu, ngaphandle kokucabanga, kodwa ngabe konke lokho kuyadingeka ngempela kunoma ubani. Ngendlela, "amaqhawe" anjalo asabela kabi kakhulu kuzo zonke izinhlobo zokungabi nokugunyazwa. Ngisho nenkulumo ethi "Sizobiza ngandlela-thile ngempelasonto" owathi ngokuhlonipha kungabangela umuntu ukuba ahlole imini nobusuku noma ngabe kukhona izingcingo ezingabanjwanga kumakhalekhukhwini. Futhi-ke, ukuqinisekisa ukuthi awubonwanga, uzocasuka kakhulu ... Ngokuvamile, kufanele sigcine izwi lethu nezethembiso, ngoba balindele ukuba sizenze, amazwi emoyeni, zama ukungashiyi. Kumele ukhethe ukuthembeka kwegama noma izithembiso ezingenalutho. Kunzima kakhudlwana ngezinye izikhathi kuvela ngaphandle kokunikeza izithembiso ezingenalutho ...


Kusuka ekhanda yahamba ... Kungenxa yokuthi inkumbulo ivulekile! Ngaphinda futhi, ngithembise umakhelwane wami ukuba alethe idiski efundiswa yi-hatha yoga. Akudingi wena, ngeke usebenze noma kunjalo, kodwa umakhelwane wakho ungumlutha. Kuhlekisa kuwe? Futhi yebo, futhi cha. Ngakolunye uhlangothi, izithembiso kumelwe zigcwaliseke, ngakolunye uhlangothi - uzikhohlwe ngokuphelele ... "Ukukhohlwa akuzona njalo kuxhumene nezimfanelo ezilahlwayo njengokungabi nandaba noma ukungahloniphi abantu," kusho isazi sezokwelapha. - Ngokuvamile ukwehluleka okunjalo kuchazwa ngomsebenzi wezinye zezindlela zokuzivikela kwengqondo, okuwukuthi, ukufuduka. Noma kunjalo uSigmund Freud waphawula ukuthi ngosizo lokufuduka kwethu i-psyche iyazivikela emicabangweni engathandeki. Ngezinga eliqaphelayo, asikwazi ukunamathisela noma yikuphi ukubaluleka okukhethekile kwezinye izenzakalo, kodwa lokho okungaqondakali kulungisa konke lokhu, ukususa ememori izenzo esingafuni ngempela ukuzifeza. "

Uma uhlale ukhohlwa mayelana nezicelo zomuntu othile, kufanelekile ukucabanga ukuthi kungani unayo "le nkinga yememori"? Mhlawumbe intombi icela izipho zingapheli, ingalokothi ibuyisele lutho, futhi ucasuliwe isimo sengqondo sabathengi. Futhi ake sithi, umkhwekazi wakho othandekayo, ohlala njalo "edla ukudla kwasekuseni", uqubuzana kakhulu nezifiso zakho. Ngakho-ke usebenzise isimiso esihle sokuzivikela emoyeni sempi - silinde ukukhipha, ukukhansela! Noma uvele unikeza othile isithembiso, awukwazi ukugodla. Kulokhu, ukuze ubambe igama, omunye kufanele aziswe kumuntu ngokushesha ngangokunokwenzeka, futhi ngesikhathi esifanayo ... uthethelele abakhohlisi besilisa. Ngokuhlelwa kwabo kwengqondo, ahluke nathi, ngokwethembeka!