I-quarrel ivame ukucasula intukuthelo, ukungabi nhlonipho, ukuhlambalaza imizwa yokuziqhenya komlingani wakho. Lokhu kuhlanganisa umhawu, ukufinyelela ekudleni, ukungathembeki nokushushiswa.
Ngenxa yokuthi umphumela olindelekile awuhambisani njalo nomphumela wangempela, izingxabano zivame ukuvela. Iqembu elifanayo lihlanganisa ukunganeliseki ngokobulili, ukungabi nethando, ukunakekelwa, nokuzizwa okuhle emndenini.
Uma abantu abashadile behluke ngokuphelele, base bekwazi ukubeka lesi simo sokuphikisana. Bahlangenwe nakho ngaphambi komshado, futhi isimo sengqondo nesimilo esithile sesivele sithinte. Futhi umzamo wokuhlanganisa okuhlangenwe nakho okunjalo emnyunyeni munye ungathuthukisa izingxabano. Indlela kuphela yokuphuma kule simo ukuqonda umehluko emikhubeni nasekuziphatheni. Lokhu kuzosisiza ukuba sithole izixazululo ezihlakaniphile.
Izinkinga ezifanayo zixazululwa ngendlela engaguquki lapho bobabili abalingani beqonda ukuthi lokhu kuyiqiniso eliyinjongo, hhayi ukukholelwa kwabo noma ukungaphumeleli kwabo. Kulokhu, ukugaya emnyanyeni ojabulisayo kuzobangela ingxabano, hhayi impikiswano. Izingxabano zivumelekile ngokuphelele, kodwa asikho isidingo sokuxabana.
Futhi kulo mzuzu kubalulekile ukufunda ukuhlukanisa phakathi kwengxabano nokuxabana. Inhloso yale mpikiswano ukuthola ukulinganisa, ngenkathi bephikisana nezimpikiswano ngokuqondene nesimo sabo, kungase kube nemizwelo ehlukahlukene, kodwa umgomo uhlala ungashintshi noma kunjalo.
Kunoma yikuphi, izenzo ezinjalo zidinga ukusetshenziswa kwemizamo enamandla okuyovimba ngayo ukunganeliseki kwakho, ukucasula. Futhi ukuze uqonde imizwelo yakho, kudinga isikhathi. Kodwa lokhu akuyona ukuchitha isikhathi, kodwa ukutshalwa kwezimali esikhathini esizayo somndeni.
Ukuphikisana kufanele kukhumbuze umlingani wakho, futhi kunoma yikuphi ukushiya umkhondo omubi kwimemori yekhethiweyo wakho. Futhi lezi yizindawo zokukhubeka ukuthi esikhathini esizayo zingaba nethonya elibi ebuhlotsheni bakho.
Ingxabano ibonisa isimo sengqondo sokuhlonipha umbono womphikisi nobuntu bakhe. Kodwa-ke, lapho ingxabano iqala ukungqubuzana nomuntu siqu, umsebenzi okumele uphazamise umbono kanye nalokho okungafani nalokho, uma kwenzeka ukunqoba, wena ngokwakho uzolahlekelwa.
Isizathu esivamile kakhulu sokuxabana emndenini omusha ukungabi nemicabango yothando phakathi komshado. Umyeni uyeka ukunakekelwa esimweni sokuphila komndeni. Ukulahlekelwa umuzwa wothando, ukungabi nomlingani phakathi kwendoda nomkayo, ukungabi naluthando phakathi kwabashadile - konke lokhu kungathinta ubuhlobo.
Ukungabi namakhono okuchitha isikhathi samahhala ndawonye, ngenxa yalezi zihlwa ezizidlayo, kanye neviki lokuqala lokuqala.
Isizathu sokuxabana emndenini kungase kube ukusatshalaliswa okungalungile kwemisebenzi ekhaya, noma ngokujwayelekile ukungabi khona kwabo. Akukho ukuqonda okubumbene ukuthi ngubani nokuthi yini ongayenza noma okufanele ayiyenze. Izidingo ezingaphezu kokungafaneleka kumlingani.
Umshado uvame ukujabula lapho bobabili bomshado bengesabi ukuveza imizwa yabo, ukuhlangenwe nakho, ngokucacile nangokucacile ukuveza izifiso zabo, babelane ngezikhathi zabo zenjabulo.
Kodwa kaningi sizithoba ekuziphatheni kwethu. Futhi esikhundleni senkhulumomphendvulwano eyakhayo, lapho bobabili abalingani bafuna ukuthola ikhambi elihle, izinyembezi zivela, zihlambalaza umnyango, ukuhlasela kwekhanda. Umsindo wokubonisa ekhishini, ngokulandelana, umyeni ubona ukunganeliseki iqiniso lokuthi weza kamuva emsebenzini.
Kuyinto engafanelekile eyenza umlingani ukuba acabange ukuthi kungenzeka yini futhi akakho, kodwa kamuva kubangela ukungqubuzana. Kodwa akulula yini ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile, ngokukhululekile mayelana nokuthi yini ehluphayo, ngomusa nangomusa kumlingani wakho? Kulokhu, imbangela yokunganeliseki iyokwaziwa futhi uzokwazi kakade ukuthi yini okudingeka ilungiswe.