Ngokungangabazeki, ukuzalwa kwengane kuyinjabulo kubo bonke abantu, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi ubulili nesimo. Kodwa futhi kwenzeka ukuthi kwabanye abantu lo mcimbi ungaba yisisulu esicindezela ubudlelwane bomndeni. Kukhona umbono wokuthi ukubukeka kwengane kuqinisa umshado, futhi kwenza lo mbhangqwana usondelane komunye nomunye. Kodwa empeleni, kwenzeka ukuthi isikhathi esiningi kufanele sidlule ngaphambi kokuhlangana okuphezulu nokuqonda okuphakathi phakathi kwabantu ababili abadala. Kweminye imindeni, ukubukeka kwengane kungaba yisizathu sokushintsha ubudlelwane, hhayi okungcono kakhulu. Omama abancane, banamathele emntwaneni, kangangokuthi konke okunye, kuhlanganise nomyeni, kancane kancane kuyeka ukuba khona kubo.
Ngokufika kwengane, lona wesifazane unenkathi encane kakhulu, akaphumelelanga ukwenza noma yini, akanaso isikhathi sokulala, uhlanze indlu, apheke ukudla, enze izingubo zokugqoka, azinakekele futhi azicabange ngomyeni okhulile obuye emsebenzini evela kulo lonke usuku ukuphila okujabulisayo komndeni wakhe, futhi kufanelekele ukunakwa. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi abazali abasha basuke bodwa, futhi bangacasuli kangcono kunomyeni, bezama ukuhlala kude nomfazi othukuthele, bonke kamuva bese bebuya ekhaya. Ngokuzalwa kwengane, isisu somama wesifazane singaphezu kokubonakaliswa, okuyinto kwezinye izimo okuholela ekutheni i-mamanachinaet encane iphilela yona kanye nengane yakhe, kuyilapho ikhohlwa ngokuphelele ngokuzifunela kwayo. Konke lokhu, ngenxa yalokho, kungaholela ekutheni ubuhlobo phakathi komama nengane abushiyi indawo yobuhlobo phakathi komyeni nomfazi.
Lokhu akusho ukuthi laba boba bayeka ukuthandana, nje wonke umuntu ulungele ukushintsha isimo sakhe futhi ayeke ukuba ngumyeni noma nje indoda, futhi baba abazali, baqonde ukuthi empilweni yabantu ababili kukhona ingxenye yesithathu, ubahlanganisa ngaphezu kwemizwa efanayo. Yiqiniso, kufanelekile ukucabangela ukubonakala kwesithathu, ukuphoqelela laba ababili ukuba bashintshe okuthile ebuhlotsheni babo. Ngakho-ke, izinguquko zingenakugwema futhi zingalimazi umndeni, kodwa ngokuphambene nalokho, ziqinisa ubumbano, kumele nje sizilungele. Sinikeza amathiphu amaningana angasiza ukuqinisa umshado emva kokuzalwa kwengane.
- Lungiselela kangcono ndawonye, ngoba ngale ndlela awukwazi ukulwa kuphela nokwesaba kwakho, kodwa futhi usize ukubhekana nesigamu sakho esifanayo. Ungathuli. Xoxa nomunye ngokuthi uzokwenzekani nokuthi kuzokwenzeka kanjani, lapho ingane ivela, ukuthi yini oyesabayo, nokuthi uzobhekana kanjani nezimo ezithile.
- Qala kusengaphambili ukuxoxa futhi uvumelane ngokusatshalaliswa kwemithwalo yemfanelo yokunakekelwa nokukhuliswa kwengane. Awudingi ukubeka konke emahlombe akho, kucacile ukuthi omama abancane basolisa kakhulu, kodwa, ukukhulisa ingane, uyikhuphula ngesikhathi esifanayo nawe ngokwakho. Uma ungaxoxani konke kusengaphambili futhi ulindele ukuthi oshade naye uqobo uzobonisa isinyathelo esifanayo ukuthi ungaphuma ukuze kulindeleke kube isikhathi eside futhi mhlawumbe kungalungile. Xoxa ngakho konke, ngokuphelele, akudingeki ucabange ukuthi umbuzo othakazelisayo manje, lapho ingane ingakazalwa, ingumfanekiso ongafaneleki ukuwukhuluma. Esikhathini esizayo, le nto encane ingaba yisisusa sombono omkhulu, kodwa okungenasidingo okungadingekile.
- Hlela kusengaphambili ukuthi uzoba kanjani abazali ngomntanakho, okuyinto eyamukelekayo kokubili, futhi lokho akunandaba neze. Iyiphi indima ekukhuliseni ingane yakho iyodlala ubaba, futhi hlobo luni lomama.
- Ungakhohlwa mayelana nakho konke okunye. Lapho ingane ivela, kubazali, ngokuyinhloko kumama, umsebenzi ngezinye izikhathi uqala nxazonke. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka ukuthi umama omncane akanayo isikhathi sokudla noma ngisho nokulala. Lokhu akulona iqiniso, impilo yakho kufanele ivikelwe, uma uwa ekudambiseni amanzi, ngeke kube lula kumntanakho noma kumyeni wakho. Ngakho-ke, xoxani okwesikhashana isikhathi sosuku noma ngesonto ukunakekelwa kwengane kuzokulala emagxeni omthandayo, ukuze ukwazi ukuphumula. Ngokuvuselelwa komndeni ngaphandle kosizo oluhlangene, kanjani ukuthi ungaphathi.
- Awudingi ukuchitha sonke isikhathi sakho nengane. Ungakhohlwa ngomuntu wakho, ukubukeka kwengane akusona isizathu sokukhohlwa ngobuhlobo komunye nomunye. Zama ukuthola isikhathi samahhala, ukuze ube yedwa, zama okungenani ngezikhathi ezithile, uphume endlini uhambe noma uhlale e-cafe, ushiye ingane ekunakekelwa kukagogo noma umhlengikazi.
- Imizwa nemiqondo yakho akumele ihlupheke ngenxa yokuthi "omncane uyayidinga", "omncane uyayidinga". Umuntu omncane akalimazi, uma ukhumba noma umanga umyeni wakho, mtshele indlela omthandayo ngayo nokuthi ujabule kanjani lapho ekhona.
Khumbula, ukugcoba esimweni esilula kuyinto elula, kodwa ukuphuma kukho kunzima kakhulu. Ungavumeli ukuthi izimo zikutshele ukuthi ungaphila futhi uphathane kanjani, akudingeki uzivumelanise nazo. Futhi ungakhathazeki kakhulu ukuze uphathe ingane yakho, khumbula ukuthi nguyena ohlanganisa zonke izingxenye ezimbili, nguye owenza usondelane, futhi hhayi ngokufanayo.