Uqinisekile ukuthi ukungena ebuhlotsheni obunzima, futhi ngisho nangaphezulu emshadweni, kuyadingeka kuphela othandweni ngaphandle kwalokho. Ngakho-ke, udinga ngempela ukwazi ukuthi umlingani wakho oshade naye uyashayela - uthande noma uzuze. Ngabe isiphi isithakazelo se-mercantile sixubene nomzwelo wangempela, uma kunjalo noma kunjalo.
Ukuze ukwazi ukubala masinyane uthando lokubala, kubalulekile ukunaka isimo sengqondo somuntu kubantu abanakho noma abangenayo imali. Uma umuntu aphatha abantu abampofu ngokungafuni, kungenzeka ukuthi unayo kuphela ngoba unendawo yokuhlala, indlu yezwe, imoto, izindleko ezinkulu, njll. Buka izihloko ezithinta ingxoxo yakho, umlingani wakho. Ngendlela, uma (a) engenayo imali encane kakhulu, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo uthanda ukuphonsa uthuli emehlweni akhe - nalokhu, kungabonisa ukuthi uthando lokubala lubonakala ngokuphathelene nawe.
Enye indlela yokubala masinyane uthando ngokubala, thola ubuhlobo kulo mshado wabazali bakhe. Mhlawumbe yibo abaphikelela ekuqhubekeleni ubudlelwane bakho ethembeni lokuthi ngelinye ilanga uzoshada futhi ingane yabo ethandekayo izonikezwa konke. Kunezinye izindlela zokubala ngokushesha uthando ngokubala.
Kumele kuqondwe ukuthi ngokubala akusiyo njalo inzalo. Ngokuvamile, amantombazane angashadi uthando olukhulu futhi oluqhakazile, kodwa ngoba wonke ashada. Futhi nalokhu uthando ngokubala. Intombazane ithi: "Ngiyakuthanda", kodwa eqinisweni, kungukuthi izimo zenzeke kanjalo, futhi uphendulele ingalo yakho. Futhi ungalindele uhlobo oluthile lwethando, uma uye esivumelwaneni ngqo kusukela ekuqaleni: "Into eyinhloko ukuthi ngiyakuthanda, futhi konke okunye akunandaba." Lapha kuwe futhi uthande ngokubala.
Ngandlela-thile, uthando ngokubalwa ngezinye izikhathi ludideka kalula ngesimo sothando oluthandekayo, lubuye lungapheli ukufeza umgomo walo. Futhi umgomo walowo othanda ngokubala kuyinto eyodwa: ukufeza ukuzinza kwezinto ezibonakalayo, isikhundla emphakathini, isimo esithile futhi, ngokungabonakali njengoba kungase kubonakale, ukuba nezingane, ukuze kuqiniswe ngokwengeziwe umthombo wenhlalakahle yabo.
Nokho, uthando ngokubala akuyona into embi kakhulu. Abantu abaningi abengeke bashade futhi bangashadile, futhi abazange bahlale beshadile uma bonke ubudlelwane obuphakathi komuntu nowesifazane bekulinganiswa kuphela uthando oluhlanzekile nokungathandeki. Uthando luyiqiniso, kodwa, isiqubulo esithi "Ngingaba nguthando wami, ngihlala endlini" kubonakala kungakapheli isikhathi.
Futhi into kuphela engayikhathaza ngokujulile, ingabe lolu thando ngokubala lungaba khona ebuhlotsheni bendoda nowesifazane, ngokusho, ngendlela ehlanzekile. Okusho ukuthi, uyaqonda ukuthi ngaphandle kwemali yakho, uxhumano, amandla, awubonakali nentshisekelo kumlingani wakho. Lo muntu akuthandi, kodwa okukuphi okukuzungezile. Uma ulahlekelwa konke lokhu futhi uphelelwa masinya empilweni yakho. Ngakho-ke, ukuhlolwa okuphumelelayo kakhulu, ukuphendula umbuzo wokuthi ungashesha kanjani ukubala uthando ngokubala, ukudlala umlingani ngokulahlekelwa okungazelelwe kwesimo nesimo. Yazisa umlingani wakho ukuthi ulahlekelwe konke, futhi, ngaphezu kwalokho, wangena esikweletini. Udinga ukudayisa ngokusheshisa impahla ehambayo futhi engashenxiswanga ukukhokha. Futhi, ngokuvamile, okwamanje kuyingozi ukuba seduze nawe, noma yini engenzeka. Uma umthandi wakho (lover) eqoqa izinto futhi ephuma endleleni - akufanele uxolise. Futhi uma ethi: "Sizonqoba konke ndawonye," khona-ke ungakwazi ukuphefumula ukukhululeka - uthandwa kakhulu, hhayi ngokubala.