Isikhathi sesifikile, futhi wazi ukuthi, indoda enhle kakhulu engakwenza ujabule, awusoze uthola. Uyakuqonda kahle. Uhlala khona lapho ufuna ukukhala ngoba nje isimo esibi futhi "umhlaba wonke wehla". Ungumuntu onomusa, ongcono, owaziwa kakhulu, onakekela kakhulu. Umbuzo ekhanda lami ngu: kungani angizange ngimbone indoda yamaphupho ami kuye ngaphambili?
Ingabe ingokoqobo futhi indlela yokuhumusha ubuhlobo obuseduze nobungane ?
Ukuze uzuze ukuphindaphindiwe, udinga ukukhombisa nokufakazela ukuthi usuthandweni olukhulu futhi unomzwelo omngane wakho - indoda.
Okokuqala, ake siqale ngeqiniso lokuthi unamathuba amaningi kunabanye besifazane: Uyazi zonke izinzuzo nezindleko zendoda oyithandayo. Uyazi ukuthi uyakuthanda, ukuthanda kwakhe. Ngakho-ke, uma usebenzisa yonke imininingwane etholakalayo ngendlela efanele futhi uhlanganisa yonke into yakho, bese ubeka ubungane ube yintando, ngeke kube nzima kuwe.
Umgomo wakho: uthando lwakhe. Izenzo zakho: zama ukukhathalela kakhulu futhi ubuze
imibuzo ngokuphila kwakhe kwangaphambilini, ngokuqondile ngokuqondene nobuhlobo bakhe obudlule. Kungenzeka ukuthi imibuzo enjalo izobangela umhawu nokufutheka emphefumulweni wakho. Kodwa, gcina imizwelo enqabeni, leli qhinga liyadingeka uma ufuna ukufezekisa iqiniso: "Indlela yokuhumusha ubuhlobo nobungane obuthandweni?" Uma kunjalo, uma kuvela imizwelo emibi, khumbula ukuthi amantombazane ayengaphambili ayekanye naye eduze kwamanje - wena.
Uma uqinisekile ukuthi lo musha uzimisele ngokomzwelo ukwakha ubuhlobo obunzima (hhayi njalo nawe), khona-ke ungabuza imibuzo ngokuphepha.
Yini okufanele ikuthande kuqala? Yini eyamdonsela kuye intombazane yangaphambili, lokho ayithandayo kuye, yiziphi izenzo azenzile ngenxa yothando ngaye. Futhi, ungesabi, ukhumbule izikhathi ezimnandi, uzoqala ukuveza lo mfanekiso omuhle nemizwelo emihle kuwe. Nguwe kuphela ohlukile, ungowesifazane omuhle, kodwa umnike ulwandle lwemizwa emisha nokungazi. Futhi kusukela ezimpendulo ezitholiwe uzoqonda ukuthi ungakhetha kanjani ukhiye wenhliziyo yakhe.
Uhlale umbona njengomuntu oseduze kakhulu, kodwa, ngokufika kothando enhliziyweni yakho, ngokwemvelo, owesifazane uzovuka kuwe. Ufuna ukumbona kaningi, lapho uhlangana nawe uzodlala ngothando. Konke lokhu kuhle, kodwa lapha into enkulu akufanele iwuphezu, ngoba ukuziphatha okusha okunjalo kungamethusa futhi kumxoshe. Kodwa unesithakazelo nakakhulu.
Ukuhumusha ubudlelwane kusuka ebusweni othandweni kungenzeka, akunzima. Kodwa ngaphambi kokuba uqale le mishini, phendula lo mbuzo: "Uzothola nini le ndoda - umuzwa wakho wokuthandana ngeke ushabalale njengenkungu yekusasa?". Ngemuva kwalokho, ukubuyisela ubungane obulahlekile kunzima kunokuba kufinyelele uthando nokuphindaphindiwe.
Uma, uma uphendula lo mbuzo, uqinisekile ukuthi isinqumo senziwe ngendlela efanele futhi awusoze wazisola ngokuthi ubophezele ikusasa lakho nomngani, kuzoba nezikhathi eziningi ezinhle emnyanyeni wakho.
Ngokwemvelo, uthando lubonakala ngokuba khona kothando, ukufisa komunye nomunye. Kodwa, ngokuhamba kwesikhathi, lesi sikhathi sobudlova sizodlula. Futhi uzobe ushiyeleni? Futhi ubungani bakho bokugcina buzokuthinta. Khumbula ukuthi kungani wamcabangela umngane? Ngoba, usondelene kakhulu ngokomzwelo. Uhlale uthola izingqikithi nemisebenzi ejwayelekile. Kukhona ukwethenjwa ebuhlotsheni bakho. Uhlale unesithakazelo ekusebenziseni isikhathi sakho samahhala ndawonye. Ngaphezu kwesisodwa, umngane wakho, kakade umthandi wakho, wafika lapho edingeka khona.
Konke lokhu okungenhla akuyona isiqinisekiso sobuhlobo obude, obuhlala njalo obujabulisayo?