Ngokuvamile abesifazane bahlupheka ngoba bazizwa sengathi abathandani noma ubani, noma uma bonke abantu abaseduze bengathandi. Kodwa futhi kwenzeka ukuthi owesifazane uthanda insizwa, kodwa ayikwazi ukuhlangana naye. Kungani lokhu kwenzeka futhi yini ekhuthaza abesifazane uma benquma ukuthi abakwazi ukwakha ubuhlobo nomuntu othile osemusha?
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Kwenzeke ukuthi isizathu salokhu kuziphatha kungukuntuleka kokuzethemba kanye nezinkimbinkimbi. Lapho ebheka le nsizwa enhle, ngemuva kwalokho izixuku zabantu abazithandayo zihlambile, le ntombazane ayikwazi nje ukukholwa ukuthi yona, igundane elimpunga, elingenakuqhathaniswa nobuhle, lingathanda umfana onjalo omuhle. Kulesi simo, ngisho noma le nsizwa ifika kuye futhi itholakale ukuba ijwayele, skoreevsego, intombazane enqaba. Iqiniso liwukuthi ngesikhathi esisodwa, phezu kwalabo abamele ubulili obuhle, eziningi zokuhleka nokuhlukunyezwa abafana. Lesi simo sengqondo sikhunjulwa kakhulu futhi sigxilile engqondweni. Le ntombazane icabanga ukuthi ayikwazi ukuthanda umuntu, ikakhulukazi insizwa enhle enedumela phakathi kwentsha enhle.
Intombazane embi (futhi kaningi kunalokho, intombazane eyayifakwe ngombono onjalo), iqiniseke ukuthi ingakwazi ukukhetha njalo umbhangqwana kumbuthano ofanele wabesifazane. Umfana omuhle uzozijwayeza labo abangenamahloni okukusho kubangane abangakwazi ukuya nabo epholiseni. Akazihlanganisi nesigaba sabafazi, futhi akakaze athathe. Ngakho-ke, le ntombazane ibheka umngane onjalo omncane osemncane ongenangqondo. Futhi uma ekhetha ukusiphakamisela ukumhlangabeza, khona-ke ngamacala angamashumi ayisishiyagalolunye nesishiyagalolunye avela kwekhulu le ntombazane izothatha lolu cue futhi isifiso sokudlala amaqhinga kuye, bese uvele uhleka nabangani bakhe. Yingakho, kungakhathaliseki ukuthi umfana wayengathandani, la maantombazane akasoze azibeka engozini futhi aqale ukwakha ubudlelwane, ngoba ngaphambili babedluliselwa kakhulu ekuthembekeni kwamadoda.
Uhle ... kuhle kakhulu
Amanye amantombazane akafuni ukwakha ubuhlobo nabantu abathandayo, ngoba bakholelwa ukuthi bangaphula impilo yabo. Ngendlela, lesi sigaba sabesifazane ngokuvamile siyindlela efanele. Bayazi nje ukuthi bazihlaziya ngokucophelela ngokwabo nangokuziphatha kwabo. Abanye besifazane bayaqonda ukuthi umfana omuhle onomusa nabo ngeke nje aphile. Uzohlupheka, aqaphele ukuthi uyashintsha kanjani kuye, ngoba unomoya ovunguzayo noma uzinike isikhathi sakhe sonke ukusebenza, njengomsebenzi wakhe ngaphezu kwakho konke okunye. Laba besifazane bazama ukunganiki amadoda isizathu sokuthandana, ngoba abafuni ukuba necala lokuthi ngenxa yokuthi abafana bayadumala kubo bonke abesifazane ngesikhathi esisodwa.Empeleni, amantombazane angabantu abalungile abangathanda, kodwa abafuni ukushintsha omunye umuntu futhi wenze ukuyekethisa. Ngokuvamile bazibheka njengabantu abathandekayo, abazifunayo futhi abangagunyaziwe, futhi lokhu akukwazi ukubekezelela noma yimuphi umuntu. Ikakhulukazi uma engumuntu omuhle futhi onomusa. Ngakho-ke, njengoba beyazi ukuthi abadalwa nje ngokuphila komkhaya okuvamile, amantombazane azama ukungabonakali imizwa yabo, ngakho-ke, uNkulunkulu makwenqabe, hhayi ukujabulisa insizwa futhi engonakali impilo yakhe. Abantu abaningi bacabanga ukuthi abantu bashintsha uthando lwabo, kuphela umuntu ofanelekayo odingekayo. Amantombazane anjalo ayazi ukuthi ukuqinisekiswa okunjalo akulona iqiniso. Uthando kuphela ushintsho okwesikhashana, bese umuntu eqala ukuziphatha ngendlela efanayo, njengangaphambili. Futhi lokhu kuziphatha nendlela yokuphila, abayithandayo, ngokuqinisekile ngeke kujabulise abantu abasha nabahle abathanda ukudala umndeni ojwayelekile futhi baphile eduze nomgcini wendawo, hhayi ngolaka olusuke luyazi ukuthi uzokwenzani nokuthi uzoletha kanjani umzuzu olandelayo.
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Abaningi bethu bafuna abantu, kepha abanye kuphela banamandla okuzivuma bona. Amantombazane anjalo, ebuka umuntu omuhle, eyazi kahle ukuthi afika nomlingiswa, ongcono, ohlakaniphile, ozwelayo futhi omuhle. Bayaqonda ukuthi abathandi umfana, kodwa isithombe abadalile ngesisekelo sakhe. Futhi ebheka lesi sithombe, intombazane ithola kube lula ukukholelwa ukuthi amadoda angempela ayesekhona. Abanqika ukuhlangabezana nendoda enhle enhle, ngoba bayayiqonda ukuthi le nkohliso ingakwazi ukuhlakazeka futhi kufike isikhathi sokudumala okukhulu. Futhi lokhu akudingekile neze. Bangaba abangane ngenduna yabo ekahle, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo ungabavumeli ukuba bawele umngcele ongaphezu kwalokho konke okuyohluka. Eqinisweni, wonke owesifazane unesithakazelo kuleso sikhulu, ukuze angadumala ngokuphelele esigabeni sesilisa sesilisa. Kodwa abantu abaningi, bebona umqondo wabo, noma kunalokho, bakha i-etotideal, zama ukwakha ubuhlobo nawo futhi benze lokho abakushoyo ngokwabo. Ngokuvamile, amadoda aqala ukuhlubuka ekuziphatheni okunjalo, futhi ekugcineni, kuza ukudumazeka. Abambalwa kuphela abaphatha ukuhlala kude nendawo ekahle ukuba bavumele ukuba baphile ezweni elikhohlisayo, ngaphandle kokuthinta impilo kanye nenhliziyo yengane enhle, ovame ukufuna ukuba njalo.
Ihluke kakhulu
Isizathu esisodwa esenza abesifazane bengafuni ukwakha ubudlelwane nalabo abathanda nabo abalingiswa nezinhloso ezahlukene ekuphileni. Intombazane ingathanda ngempela insizwa. Ngaphezu kwalokho, angamthanda, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo aqonde ukuthi ndawonye ngeke nje bahlangane, ngoba umqondo wabo wokuphila komndeni kanye nokuphila ngokujwayelekile kuhluke kakhulu. Isibonelo, insizwa ifuna umndeni omuhle, izingane, ufuna ukuza endlini ehlelekile futhi uphumule endaweni yomndeni. Intombazane inomuzwa wokuthi akanaso isifiso sokuba nezingane, ukupheka, ukugeza nokuhlanza. Ungumuntu odala ofuna ukudala okuthile, ukuhamba, ngokujwayelekile, ukuba aphile ngendlela ayithandayo. Kulesi simo, lona wesifazane uyaqonda ukuthi le nsizwa izobhekana nayo nje ukuhlushwa. Mhlawumbe okuphambene nalokho, uma owesifazane efuna ukukhula njalo, ukuthola okuthile okusha, ukuhamba, ukudala umndeni ongcono, ucabange ngekusasa, nendoda emthandayo, ineliseke kakhulu ngomsebenzi ojwayelekile kakhulu, impilo namuhla, indlu encane. abesifazane. Futhi ufuna konke futhi aqonde ukuthi akakwazi ukuwuguqula, ngoba uhluke kakhulu futhi ngeke nje aphile ngalezo zinguquko, uzolahlekelwa ngumuntu ngamunye. Futhi ezimweni ezinjalo, amantombazane enqaba ukuxhumana nalabo abathandayo, ukuze lolu thando lungabi yintondlo nokucasula.