Futhi uvame ukwenzeka esimweni esinjalo: phawula ukuthi ubheka indoda enhle isikhathi eside. Ngombono wakhe akulula ukufunda. Yini oyithandayo kakhulu kakhulu. Kodwa, ngesikhathi esifanayo, akaqapheli ukuza kuqala ukuze azijwayele.
Isimo esivamile, akunjalo? Ngenxa yokungabi nokuzethemba, indoda ayiqapheli ukwenza isenzo esinzima sokuthi sifike futhi sikhulume nawe. Ekugcineni, kuvame ukuthi kwenzeka ukuthi amantombazane aqale ukukholelwa ukuthi kukhona okungalungile ngokubukeka kwabo. Emva kwakho konke, akunakwenzeka ukuthi indoda enhle futhi ebonakala sengathi ikhona iyesaba ukuzanazana.
Kungani umfana engafanele ukujwayelana naye .
Uma uphendula umbuzo: kungani umfana engafanele ukujwayelana naye. Bese kunezimpendulo ezimbili: mhlawumbe akafuni ukusondela. Mhlawumbe uvele ekuhloliseni. Yebo, uyamthanda, kodwa akafuni ukuthatha noma yiluphi uhlobo lwezandla ekuqondeni kwakho, ubuvila nje.
Impendulo yesibili: le nsizwa iyesaba. Ukwesaba kuvela ngenxa yokuziphendulela. Kubonakala kuye ukuthi akakuthandi. Uyesaba ukuthi ngeke akwazi ukukuthandayo noma ukusekela ingxoxo.
Ukwesaba kwakhe nokungaqiniseki .
Ngakho-ke, sathola ukuthi abafana abafanelekile ukujwayele ukuzethemba ngokuziphendulela nokukhathazeka okuvela emqondweni wakhe.
Uyini yena, wesaba kakhulu?
Uyesaba ukuthi uyomenqaba. Ngokuba indoda ayikho into embi kunokuba ilalele ekuphenduleni. Ikakhulu uma echitha amandla amaningi ekusebenzeni kwesenzo. Ngokwehluleka, ukuzethemba kwakhe kwesilisa, okuvele kuqhumekile, kuwela phansi.
Ngesabekayo nakakhulu ukuthi indoda ihlekwa usulu. Isibonelo, izintombi zakho. Ungaboni umangale futhi uvume ukuthi izintombi zakho zikwazi lokhu. Akuzange yini kwenzeke enkampanini yakho ebhincini ukuthi lapho insizwa isondela komunye wenu, into yokuqala ayayizwa iyinhlangano ye-snide chuckle ekhelini lakhe. Yilokho! Khumbula ukuthi uma uthola ngokwakho esimweni esinjalo, futhi insizwa ivusa isihawu sakho, kufanelekile ukuthatha izinyathelo ezithile. Isibonelo, suka eceleni kwezintombi zakho bese uqhubeka nengxoxo nensizwa ehlelweni olukhululekile kuye.
Yini okufanele uyenze nomfana ongenakucabangela .
Zonke ukwesaba ngenxa yokuziphendulela. Ngakho-ke, waphawula ukuthi insizwa ebuka wena ngokubukeka okulambile, ayiqapheli ukusondela. Khona-ke, cabanga ngakho - uyayifuna? Ingabe kufanelekile ukucasuka ukuthi umfana akazange afike? Udinga insizwa engakwazi ukunquma ukuza?
Uma, nokho, isihawu sakho kumuntu ongaziwa engummangali sikhulu, khona-ke ngeke kube khona into embi uma wena ngokwakho ufika futhi uqale ingxoxo. Uma kulesi simo, umfana akesabi ukwesaba kwakho, uzobona ukuthi uzokujabulela kangakanani isenzo sakho.
Indlela yokukhulisa ukuzethemba nokweqisa ukwesaba (lesi sihloko sizosiza amantombazane abafuna ukwandisa ukuzethemba kwabo).
Ukuze umuntu anqobe ukwesaba kwakhe futhi athole ukuzethemba, udinga ukwamukela wena, njengakho. Umuntu ngamunye uhlukile ngendlela yakhe. Kudingekile ukuthi uzithanda wena futhi wamukele zonke izinkinga zakho.
Ungaziqhathanisi njalo nabanye. Ukuzitholela ukuzitholela akuholeli ezimweni ezinhle, kodwa kubhidliza ukuzethemba.
Khumbula ukuthi emhlabeni kukhona abantu abaphelele ngokuphelele. Wonke umuntu unelungelo lokwenza amaphutha, ngakho ungazitholi njalo wena nabanye kwabanye emehlweni akho uma uhluleka. Yamukela ukwehluleka nobunzima njengento ehlukanisekayo yokuphila.
Into engcono kakhulu ukuphakamisa ukuzethemba - ukuxhumana nabantu abalungile abakwazi ukufaka kuwe inkolelo yokuthi uhle kakhulu.