Amadoda, njengazo zonke izinto eziyimfihlakalo nezinhloso ezingafundiwe, zizungezwe inqwaba yezinganekwane. Izwi lomlomo lidonsela izingqondo zabesifazane ngenganekwane yokuthi amadoda angenakuzwela, ukuthi acabanga ukuthi ngezocansi, ahlale eshintsha futhi engafuni ukushada nganoma iyiphi indlela. Sekuyisikhathi sokuthola iqiniso ngalokho abantu abayikho ngempela. Nakhu konke intombazane okufanele ikwazi ngamadoda. Futhi, ngesikhathi esifanayo, mayelana nabo.
1. Akuwona wonke umuntu oguqukayo!
Ingabe unomunye umfutho wekhwele elingenasici? Uhambisane nawo wonke amakholi angenayo nemilayezo eselula yakhe, i-eyeset ngamehlo omhleli futhi uhlezi kuwo wonke amaphakethe - futhi awutholanga lutho? Futhi ngaleso sikhathi indoda yakho ethandekayo yayijabulela ukuphila. Akazange ahlukumeze ubuchopho bakhe nganoma yikuphi ukungazi lutho, akazange akuhlazise ngamahloni aluhlaza, akazange ashintshe izinhlelo zakhe izikhathi eziyishumi ngosuku. Futhi wakuthanda sonke lesi sikhathi. Ngaphandle "noma ...".
Eqinisweni, inkulumo ngokuthandana kwamadoda ayinasisekelo. Yebo, amadoda angaphezu kwamantombazane ukuba abe isithembu. Yebo, izimo zabo zendalo zinamandla kakhulu phezu kwazo. Kodwa hhayi ngaso sonke isikhathi hhayi njalo. Ososayensi baye bafakazela isikhathi eside ukuthi inani lokuphinga kwamadoda nabesifazane cishe liya "emakhaleni." Amantombazane ashintsha kancane kancane, aqaphele kakhulu, akwazi ukubamba ngokubomvu kakhulu.
Uma umuntu ethanda ngempela, uba ngumphikisi wezingcingo ezingaphansi kwesifazane. Futhi akameli muntu ngaphandle komthandekayo wakhe. Ufuna futhi ukuba yedwa naye, kanye naye yedwa kuze kube sekugcineni. Futhi noma yimuphi owesifazane kufanele akholwe ngayo yonke inhliziyo yakhe, uma ethanda nayo futhi.
2. Akulona iqiniso ukuthi amadoda anamandla, ngakho kufanele axazulule zonke izinkinga.
Amantombazane amaningi ahlala eqiniseka ngokugcwele ukuthi lapho becela usizo lokuqala umuntu kufanele aphinde agqoke esitokisini sebhizinisi aye esikhwameni se knight. Futhi hamba ukumlondoloza. Futhi makangabe nje azame ukubhekana nalokhu! Ulindele ukuhlambalaza: "Awu, ungubani emva kwalowo muntu? .."
Kodwa-ke, le ndoda ihlomele kakhulu futhi ihlome kangcono kakhulu. Kulula ukuthi axazulule izinkinga ezinengqondo futhi asebenzise umzimba. Kodwa lokhu akusho ukuthi umsebenzi wakhe oqondile ukuphonsa umhlaba ezinyaweni zowesifazane kunoma yisiphi isikhathi esikahle futhi ukhonkwane ngezipikili nge-glance eyodwa kuphela. Indoda ejwayelekile ingokwemvelo kakhulu engozini. Uyakudinga kakhulu ukusekelwa nokusekelwa ezimweni ezinzima kunokuba owesifazane. Kulula ukuphuka nokuphuka. Izazi zengqondo zibheka ukuthi amadoda anzima kanzima ukubekezelela ubuhlungu izikhathi eziyisihlanu, akhathele izikhathi ezintathu futhi ngokwesilinganiso, cishe 40% amathuba okugula. Noma kunjalo kungase kubonakale kungahle. Ngako-ke, ukujwayela okukhulu kwamadoda ekudakwa nokudakwa kwezidakamizwa - kusukela ebuthakathakeni. Kodwa lena indaba ehluke ngokuphelele.
Intombazane okokuqala kufanele yamukele umqondo wokuthi kulo mpilo akekho okhokhelwa kakhulu kunoma ubani. Futhi lokho ukuzwanela kuyamangalisa ngokwengeziwe kunokuthembela njalo kumuntu. Kuyathakazelisa kakhulu ukwenza izinto ezinhle, ukufeza impumelelo, ukwakha ikusasa lakho. Kodwa ngisho noma ungathola umphathi onjalo, ulungele noma iyiphi i-feat ngenxa yabathandekayo bakhe, kufanelekile ukucabangela ukuthi ukuphila okubuhlungu nokungajabulisi kuyoba yini. Futhi kuyoba yinto evunyelwe. Alas.
3. Amadoda aphinde akhale.
Intombazane iyaxolisa: "Yeka indlela engacabangi ngayo!", Ukumbuka kuhlaziya ngokuzumayo ama-popcorn ngesikhathi sesimo sokugwinywa kukaDiCaprio kwi-Titanic. Eqinisweni, izazi zengqondo ziqinisekisa - naphezu kokulingana kwangaphandle nokukhonjelwa okuqinisiwe, amadoda athambekele ekuboniseni imizwelo enamandla kakhulu. Futhi babhekene nakho konke okunzima nakakhulu. Kwenzeka nje kude emehlweni, yedwa kanye nawe futhi okungajwayelekile kakhulu okubonakalayo. Amadoda azigcinele imizwelo. Kungenxa yokuthi bahlala ngaphansi?
Empeleni, amadoda ahlukile. Kukhona nalabo abanakho konke okubonisa-nokuhleka, nezinyembezi, nothando. Kodwa abamele abanobulili obunamandla baphathwa ngokungathembeki. Ngandlela-thile ngandlela-thile ngifuna ukuzwa ngamandla omuntu. Futhi lokhu akuhambisani nomzwelo. Ngakho-ke, futhi uyaphenya ngokuphelele - kubi, futhi akudingekile - nakakhulu nakakhulu. Zama ukujabulisa.
4. Akuwona wonke amadoda adinga "eyodwa kuphela."
Yebo, akushiywa ngaphandle ukuthi umuntu unikeza izipho ezibizayo, uholela ezitolo zokudlela, uthembisa izintaba zegolide nje ukuhudula intombazane ukuba alale. Kodwa akuyona yonke into efana ne-prosaic. Ngokwezibalo, amadoda angama-83 kwabangu-100 akwenza lokhu kuphela ngesifiso sokwakha ubuhlobo obunzima obuhlala isikhathi eside nabesifazane. Futhi lokhu akuyona inganekwane! Akulona iqiniso ukuthi amadoda afuna abesifazane besifazane kuphela. Lokhu kuyisiphukuphuku. Kufanelekile ukuchitha umzamo omkhulu, isikhathi nemali, sifuna ukuthola ukuthi yini abaningi abayoyinikezela ngenjabulo enkulu kakhulu. Umuntu nje uthanda ukunqoba. Futhi i-trophy eyinqobe empini eside futhi enzima ayifuni nje ukulahlwa. Bayazisa, bayigcina futhi bayayithanda. Amadoda adinga lo mzwa wokushayela, ukushisekela, ukufutheka - hhayi iqiniso lokungena kwentombazane embhedeni wakhe. Yebo, empeleni, uma engumuntu wangempela.
5. Amadoda akholelwa ukuthi isipiliyoni esicebile siphulile.
Ngenkathi intombazane ishaya inkolelo-mbono mayelana nenani elikhulu lamantombazane akhe ekhanda lakhe, lo muntu ucabanga ukuthi angase asekele kanjani leli qiniso. Wenza konke okusemandleni akhe ukuze "akhuthaze" isipiliyoni sakhe sobulili obucebile, ngaphandle kokulimaza noma kumcasula ngesikhathi esifanayo. Empeleni, lo mzuzu cishe uvame ukunyanyiswa. Kodwa lobu buthakathaka kubantu bangakwazi futhi kufanele bathethelelwe. Into esemqoka - musa ukuthukuma ngeziningi zakhe (ngokusho nabangane bakhe abaseduze) ex. Ekugcineni, uma isipiliyoni ngempela - kungcono nakakhulu! Kuhlala nje ukuze ujabulele.
6. Akulona iqiniso ukuthi amadoda esaba ubudlelwane obunzima.
Lokhu kungase kuzwakale kungaqondakali, kodwa bonke abantu bahluke ngokuphelele. Njengabesifazane. Futhi ngokushesha nje lapho indoda eyodwa ekhonkethana ihlangana nentombazane yasekhonkritha, ngubani ophenduka ngokuzumayo impilo yakhe ngokuya phansi ngesikhathi esisodwa - usekulungele noma yini, kuphela ukuba abe nohlangothi lwakhe njalo. Futhi uma lesi sifiso singavuki, uma intshiseko yokwakha nokuqinisa ubuhlobo engabonakali kamuva - akukhona ukuthi lo wesilisa wayethukile. Wathola nje owesifazane ongalungile. Iningi, amadoda avamile ayesabi ukwedlula ubudlelwane obuseduze, kodwa mane nje ubheke labo besifazane abangakwakhiwa nabo.
7. Akulona iqiniso ukuthi amadoda kufanele athathe isinyathelo sokuqala ngaso sonke isikhathi.
Futhi, umbuzo wokuthi akekho onomuntu kunoma ubani ... Kodwa-ke, indoda kufanele isithathe isinyathelo kwezinye izindawo, kodwa uma lokhu kungenzeki - akunandaba. Ngokuvamile intombazane idinga ukuzinqumela ukuthi yini le ndoda eyayizokwenza ukuthi yenze noma oh kangakanani. Imibhangqwana eminingi yayingenakuqala kusukela ekuqaleni, uma kwakungekho isinyathelo samantombazane emhlabeni.
Ngendlela, ngokusho kwezibalo, u-93% wabantu abesilisa aboni lutho olugebengu ngoba intombazane yokuqala inikeze uphawu mayelana nenhloso yokusondela. Futhi 30% kubo baphupha kuphela ngalokhu!
8. Amadoda futhi amahlebezi.
Isahlulelo esasakazekile sokuthi indoda yangempela akudingeki igaye ngolimi, kodwa ibhekane nebhizinisi, ichithe, ngokushesha nje lapho amadoda enkampanini eba ngaphezulu kweyodwa. Abesilisa banomqondo wokuthi "ukuxoxa", kuphela ababizwa ngokuthi "ukukhuluma ngokuphila." Inhlebo yabo ngezinye izikhathi iyinkimbinkimbi nakakhulu kunabesifazane. Futhi uma kungekho intombazane ehloniphayo ayikhulumi ngemininingwane yobomi bayo obuseduze nabangane abaningi, amadoda, ngokuphambene nalokho, ngithanda ngentshiseko isihloko esithi "futhi lapho ngisusa ama-panties akhe ...". Ngakho-ke, sinquma ukuvulwa nendoda, kufanele kukhunjulwe ukuthi izwi lakhe lingabi nje kuphela eliqotho, kodwa futhi likhulu kakhulu.
Ukubukeka komuntu - hhayi into esemqoka.
Amadoda ngempela, njengabo bonke abantu abavamile, balalele ukubukeka. Kodwa kuphela imizuzu yokuqala yokuqala. Bese bafuna ukubona into enhle ngemuva kwezwe. Futhi lapho bethola lokhu "into", injabulo yalomuntu ayinayo umkhawulo.
Kodwa-ke, izwe elicebile elingaphakathi livame ukufihla ngemuva kwendawo engabonakali. Futhi ukwenza kube nzima kakhulu. Kodwa kholwa mina - amadoda akwenze! Futhi ngempumelelo enkulu. Yebo, bathanda amantombazane amahle angaphandle (futhi ngubani ongawuthandi okuthile?), Kodwa futhi bayakwazi ukuqonda ingqondo nokujula okungokomoya. Futhi lokhu kungokwabo, ngokumangalisayo, into eyinhloko. Futhi la madoda ngokwabo akhathele ukukhuluma njalo njalo.
10. Amadoda atshayela imoto engcono kunabesifazane!
Leli yizinganekwane eziningi kakhulu, ukuthi zingabashayeli abakhulu kakhulu. Lokhu akulona iqiniso! Sekuyisikhathi eside kufakazelwe ukuthi abesifazane baqaphele kakhulu, bakhetha futhi ngeke baqhube ukukhipha izinzwa zabo kuphela. Ngamanye amaqiniso, ngezinye izikhathi ngesaba, kodwa ngubani othi amadoda akwenzi okufanayo? Futhi kuphi ukubeka izibalo lapho izingozi ezibandakanya abashayeli besifazane zingama-3% kuphela? Ngokuvamile, amadoda, nakuba abe nobulili obuqinile, kodwa ukushayela imoto akuyona into engcono kunabesifazane.
Yilokho okuyinhloko ukuthi zonke izintombi kufanele zikwazi ngamadoda. Njengoba senze amaqiniso amaningi, siqala ukubheka izinto ngendlela entsha. Futhi njengoba umuntu - akukho lutho - ukumbheka "ngamanye amehlo" kubaluleke kakhulu. Lokhu kungagcina izinyunyana eziningi. Noma udale.