Kunezizathu eziningi zalokhu. Esokuqala yisimiso esivela esifisweni sokuthi "simboze" njengabesifazane abaningi ngangokunokwenzeka. Inhlangano ibuye ibabathethelele imisebenzi enjalo yezocansi, kodwa akukaze ibe ngowesifazane. Manje kuyimfashini yokuhola indlela yokuphila njenge-lady-vamp, ephathekayo futhi ekhangayo, kodwa ngokufanelekile, lapho umuntu eqala ukuthatha isinyathelo, futhi isiphetho sowesifazane ukuvuma noma cha. Ngakho-ke, amadoda adinga ubulili ngaphezulu ukuze basebenzise izimo zabo zemvelo.
Isizathu sesibili ngokuvamile kuvame amandla angenakuwasebenzisa ekhaya ngenkathi egcina izingane, njll. baqala ukudla okuningi, baphuze, badlale imidlalo, okusiza ukugcwalisa umzimba wakho ngamandla. Isizathu sokuthi amadoda adinga ukulala ocansini kaningi, ngaphandle kokudinga ukuzwelana ngokomzwelo, into esemqoka lapha ukuphumula. Ngaphezu kwalokho, amadoda kudingeka agcine imisipha yawo ngezwi, ikakhulukazi labo abathintekayo ngokuqondile ngesikhathi socansi. Uma lokhu kungenziwanga, maduzane bazobuthakathaka futhi bayeke ukusebenza. Kubonakala ukuthi amadoda adinga ukulala ocansini izikhathi ezimbalwa ngenyanga, ngaphandle kwalokho kungabangela ukungabi namandla, okwesaba ngakho.
Kukhona isizathu sesithathu, kodwa kubalulekile kubantu besilisa. Bacabanga ukuthi laba besifazane babenza bakhathazeke kakhulu. Futhi kuzo zonke izenzakalo zabo, ngisho "ngakwesobunxele" bayalalela abesifazane, bathi, basiphosela emaphoyiseni abanye besifazane. Ingabe amadoda adinga ubulili kakhulu kangangokuthi asisaqapheli izinto ezisemqoka futhi ufuna umuntu onecala lapho engekho? Amadoda ayizidalwa ezingalindelekile, kodwa sonke sisetshenziselwa ukuxazulula izindaba zethu ngandlela-thile.
Ngenxa yalezi zizathu, amadoda alalela kakhulu ukulala ocansini kunabesifazane. Kodwa ngezinye izikhathi kunabesifazane abakhulu bezocansi kanye nabameleli abangenabanikazi bobulili obunamandla, okuphambene kakhulu namazinga avumelekile. Lo wesifazane wanikeza umsebenzi wokushada ngomzamo omkhulu. Kuyaziwa ukuthi ukuzitika ngokweqile kubangela ukwehla kwamandla emadodeni. Kungani? Isizathu esiyinhloko salokhu amandla. Ukuphuza utshwala yizinto ezidinga amandla amakhulu ekuqhekekeni kwawo. Ezingxenyeni ezincane zotshwala, umzimba uthola izinsiza kalula, kodwa okukhulu kunzima kakhulu. Ubuza kanjani? Ukuphuza utshwala okwandisa umsebenzi, kanye nobulili. Futhi lokhu, ngokuqinisekile, kuyajabulisa, ngoba abantu badinga ubulili njengomoya.
Ukuze ujabulele impilo futhi ube nobulili, kuyadingeka ukuba uhlale unesimo esihle kakhulu somzimba futhi uxoxe nomkakho kulo mvuthwandaba. Futhi ngokufanele futhi kaningi ukuphumula.
Kulesi simo, abesifazane kudingeka baqotho ngokweqile ukukhathazeka ngokobulili kwamadoda, okufakwe ngesakhiwo sabo sokwemvelo futhi bebekwe ngaphansi kokuzalwa ngezigaba. Ngezinye izikhathi lezi zinsuku zibonisa ukuthi zinamandla kunokukhetha okuzimele. Lokhu akufanele kusetshenziswe. Lokhu ngeke kuholele emphumela omuhle. Hlonipha omunye nomunye, bese-ke bobabili abesifazane nabesilisa badinga ubulili kuzoba kaningi nangaphezulu. Ukuvumelana ngokubili kokubili abalingani kuzoholela ekungcebelekeni okuvamile futhi kumnandi embhedeni. Futhi lokhu, njengoba besho, kuyisici esibaluleke kakhulu ebuhlotsheni phakathi kwendoda nowesifazane. Ezocansi, udinga ukuthembela kumlingani wakho futhi umhloniphe, uma befuna ukugcina ubuhlobo babo buqhubeke.