Ukuvimbela kwengqondo yokuziphatha okunjalo phakathi kwabantu abasha kuncike ezintweni ezenza lesi sifo sikhule. Kubonakala ukuthi ukuze ubhekane nokudakwa ngokweqile kwezingane ezisencane, ukubasiza ukuba badlule kulo mdlalo, sidinga ukucabangela izici eziningi zomsuka wesifo, umbono wabo phakathi kwabantu abasha. Kusukela ezinganeni ezidakwa ngokweqile ngeke zisindise "umthetho owomile", ukwelashwa, ukuphatha, ukuvinjelwa komthetho akusebenzi. Ngakho-ke, uma sifuna ukuvimbela ukusetshenziswa kotshwala kubantu abasha, sidinga, okokuqala, ukuthembela kwisici somuntu siqu. Ukuze senze lokhu, kudingeka sisebenze ngokomoya, ukuqonda kwangaphakathi kotshwala ngabasha, okuyinto empeleni kuyinkinga enkulu. Ukuze wenze lokhu, cabangela izimbangela zokudakwa ngokweqile phakathi kwabantwana.
Isizathu sokuqala, esibangela ukuphuza utshwala kwezingane, kuba nomthelela kubo endaweni yomphakathi, okuthiwa i-microsocium. Intsha ithonywa ngabazali, abangane, abezindaba, isiko, isimo sengqondo kotshwala ezweni. Ithonya labazali ekudakwa ngokweqile kwengane kubaluleke kakhulu futhi lilinganiswa nezici eziningi. Kunjenge-genetic (biological), okusho ukuthi kunesidingo sokuphuza utshwala, kanye nezici ezingokwengqondo nokufundisa. Izingane zithukuthela ngokuthi abazali baphatha kanjani utshwala, ngabe bayayisebenzisa ngokwabo, nokuthi yini abazali abangayinikezwa ngokuphathelene nezinto ezidakayo. Lapha, ukukhulisa kudla indima ebaluleke kakhulu. Ukuvimbela ukuziphatha ngokweqile kubantu abasha, abazali kudingeka bachaze ingane ukuthi ingozi yakhe kumuntu, emzimbeni, ukuba ahumushe ngokucophelela zonke izici zokudakwa ngokweqile, ukuze amqinisekise, ukuba 'avule amehlo akhe' esi sifo. I-prophylaxis ye-pedagogical ibaluleke kakhulu futhi ezimweni eziningi inikeza umphumela omuhle kakhulu.
Kodwa inkampani yabo, abangane nabo bathonya intsha. Ezimweni eziningi, intsha ikhetha ukuxhumana ezinkampanini eziningi zabantu abadala, bezicabangela ngalokhu ukuthi zivuthiwe futhi zithuthukile. Noma yibaphi abangane kanye nenkampani bazuzisa ingane njengomuntu, ngaphandle uma bephikisana namagugu nezinkolelo zomntwana, bamxoshe ukwenza izenzo ezimbi. Uma ngabe intsha isenhlanhla futhi ingena enkampanini lapho ukuphuza utshwala kulahlwa khona, uma kunjalo kungenzeka ukuthi intsha, ukuze ihlangabezane nezilingo zabazali bayo nabangane bayo abadala, izolandela isibonelo sabo. Kodwa kwelinye ilanga ngenkathi ehambisana nentombazane abangane bakhe ngokwabo abacabangi ukudlula ingilazi noma ababili, noma baze bahlupheke ngokweqile. Khona-ke imvelo yezenhlalakahle icindezela ingane, yesaba ukuphuma, ihluke, kubonakala sengathi "iyisiphukuphuku" ukuhlala ungaphuzi, njengabanye. "Abangane" ezimweni eziningi bavusa ingane ukuba baphuze utshwala, bathi, "njengoba kunjalo, awuhloniphi," noma "ake sihambe kancane, akukho lutho lokukhathazeka ngakho, ungesabi, ungabi yizimvu ezimnyama." Intombazane ingase ibe yisidakwa ngokweqile. Ngaphezu kwalokho, manje utshwala phakathi kwentsha luvame kakhulu, futhi ngokoqobo ngamunye wabo uzame utshwala kaningi. Ukukhangisa utshwala, ukusikisela kwengqondo ngokusebenzisa ama-anecdotes, omagazini kanye nezincwadi, konke lokhu kuphazamisa ukuqonda hhayi kuphela kwezingane ezisencane, kodwa futhi kwenza abantu bajwayele umbono wokuthi utshwala buyinto evamile ngisho nokupholisa, ukuthi akukho lutho olungalungile ngakho, ngokuphambene nalokho, ngobuncane obuningi utshwala ewusizo kakhulu, ngakho-ke nje kudingeka usebenzise! Ungakhohlwa nokuthi umqondo wokusetshenziswa okulinganisela uhlukile kuwo wonke umuntu. Ngaphezu kwalokho, lihlukile esimweni sezokwelapha. Phela, noma yikuphi ukusetshenziswa, okwedlulele okwedlulele kanye ngenyanga, sekuyimthwalo yesimiso sezinzwa, okungeke kube naso isikhathi sokuthola ...
Esinye isici ekuphuzeni utshwala lwabancane yizici zesikhathi sabo, ubunzima ababhekana nabo futhi ezingalungiswa ngokungafanele ngosizo lophuza utshwala. Naphezu kokuthi umthelela ongokomqondo kubantu ngabanye uhlukile utshwala ngokwanele, cishe yonke intsha eyazi kahle isenzo sayo, iqinisekisa umphumela wokuphumula, ujabule, njll. Ezimweni eziningi, lokhu kuyisiphakamiso sengqondo kuwe. Utshwala lisiza ukuphumula, ukwenza isenzo esiqinile - isizathu esisodwa sokusebenzisa. Izinsana zifunda ukuthi zikwazi kanjani ukuziphatha ngokwazo, zixoxisane ngesimo esibucayi, ukuphatha nokulawula isimo sabo sengqondo ngaphandle kokudonswa. Imiphumela efanayo ibonakala iyilingo, ebangela ukuxhomeka kwengqondo lapho utshwala ngokwawo luyimvelo.
Ukuvimbela kwengqondo yokuziphatha ngokweqile phakathi kwabantu abasha kusho ukuchazwa kwabasakhulayo benethonya lokuphuza utshwala, ukuphikisana kwama-stereotypes nokuthuthukiswa kokuziphatha kwabo, ukuchazwa kwezici zokuziphatha zalolu daba. Indima eyinhloko idlalwe ngabazali, inika abantu abasha imfundo efanele futhi iqondise ukuziphatha kwabo komphakathi, nakuba isinqumo esiyisisekelo sincike kumuntu ngokwakhe.