Ngokuzithandela wonke umalokazana omncane wesithathu uqala ukucabanga ukuthi kukhona okungahambi kahle naye, ngoba uyamukelwa kakhulu, ugxeke zonke izenzo futhi uzama ukufundisa indlela yokwenza okulungile nokunakekela indodana yakhe ethandekayo. Uninazala anganikeza iseluleko ekusindiseni isabelomali somndeni, akhulume ukuthi yiziphi izindwangu ezingcono, akhombise ukuthi yiluphi uhlobo lwephepha lodonga lokukhetha ukulungiswa nokunye okunjalo. Iphutha lokuqala nelokuqala ukuqala kwempi noma ukukhuluma njalo kumfana noma umyeni ukuthi othandekayo wakhe "mamul" akulungile. Misa, vumelana nalokho umkhwezala akusho kumamazala, futhi ... yenza ngendlela yakho!
Noma kunjalo, kufanele uqonde izizathu zalolu buhlobo, ikakhulukazi ngoba zivame ukuba ezimbili zazo.
Ehlukile futhi engabonakali
Isizathu esivamile sokungawuthandi umalokazana ngumhawu. Ngokuvamile kwenzeka uma othandekayo wakho emunye emndenini. Akanayo abafowabo nodadewabo, ngakho-ke konke ukunakwa kwabazali kuhloswe ngokuqondile empilweni yendodana. Ngakho, uyayipheka? Uyazi ukuthi ungayifaka kanjani ibhulukwe yakho ngendlela efanele? Ingabe uvame ukushintsha izingubo zokulala embhedeni? Ngokuvamile, wenza konke okungalungile. Futhi udinga ukukufundisa indlela yokunakekela indodana eyodwa.
Indlela yokubhekana nomhawu womamazala wami?
Ukuze uqale, mzwele. Yiqiniso, ukhubekile ukuthi kufanele ulalele ukunganaki okuvamile, kodwa uzibeke endaweni yakhe, futhi uzoqonda konke. Ukuze ukhombise umama womyeni wakhe ukuthi awulungiselele nakakhulu, yenza ngokuzithoba. Ukukhuluma ngokukhululekile nangokuthula nabathandekayo bakho futhi uchaze ukuthi uyamhlonipha unina, kodwa ngithanda ukupheka ngendlela oyithandayo. Futhi umcele ukuba adumise izitsha zikamama wakhe, kodwa ngesikhathi esifanayo akhombise ukuthi unganezela okuthile (ngokusho iresiphi yakho). Uzobona, umamazala uzolalela indodana yakhe, ngoba isenzo sivela kuye.
Okufanayo nakwezinye izinkinga, makube ukulungiswa, ukuhamba phesheya. Vumela umyeni wakho njalo abe umqalile noma yiziphi izinguquko empilweni yakho. Noma okungenani yenza kanjalo ukuthi abazali bakhe bacabange ukuthi uyakunxusa, uthumela eningizimu, ulungisa, njll. Futhi udumise othandekayo wakho nonina: uyakwazisa futhi afike kuwe.
I "Ghost" yeyakhe yangaphambili
Lesi isizathu esivusa amadlingozi futhi esingathandeki, kodwa uma umthanda, kuzodingeka ulwe nesithunzi somkakho wangaphambili noma umakoti. Uma umamazala wakho esho njalo ukuthi awupheki njengoba ucabanga Mashenka, ungenaso isikhathi sokuphuma, uhlale usebenza emsebenzini, njalo njalo, zama ukuthola ukuthi uhambo lwakhe lwalukwazi kanjani ukugcina indlu ihlanzekile.
Mhlawumbe, akazange asebenze, noma ubusuku bonke ahlanza, aphethwe phansi futhi ahlanzwe phansi noma okunye okunye. Uke wathola? Futhi manje zama ukuguqula "ukungaphumeleli" kwakho zibe yizinzuzo ezicacile. Isibonelo, tshela abazali bomyeni wakho ukuthi awukho emthethweni emsebenzini, umsebenzi wakho uphambili kakhulu futhi uthola imali eningi ukuze ulungise esidlekeni somndeni wakho noma ku-dacha kamamazala.
Uma uqobo lwakhe lwaluhlanzekile futhi luhlanzekile, luhlanzekile futhi lungenesizotha, futhi wena uyintombazane ekhanyayo, ukhetha ukugqoka izingubo ezinamathele okujulile futhi uhlale ubonakala umangalisa, kuzodingeka ubonise abazali bakho abathandekayo ukuthi nguye oye wafuna impilo yakho yonke. Ngaso sonke isikhathi tshela ukuthi uyayithanda futhi uyayithokoza, ngiyabonga umamazana wakho wokukhulisa le ndodana. Ukuze kudle ukudla komndeni kanye nokudla, fika okokuqala ezembathweni ezithobekile.
Khumbula ukuthi abazali bomyeni wakhe bamfuna ngempela impilo yomndeni ojabulisayo. Ngabo udinga ukuba abangane, hhayi impi. Yazisa, hlonipha futhi uzame ukuthanda cishe njengabazali bakho. Bona nomyeni wakhe bayojabula kakhulu!